How many of you are adults and have never had a girlfriend?

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Had sex, never been on a date.

What kind of sex is that?

It was of the drunk, mostly blacked out variety. (for both of us, I must add)

28 and never had anything, i haven't asked out a girl since 7th grade so i guess a lot of it is my fault

people much older than me tell me i look like a model, which is confusing since women my age never show any interest in me, at least not interest i notice and i'm pretty sure i know the signs

Last edited by albertwesker on 29 Mar 2011, 6:13 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Define adult. If by the legal definition of over 18 sign me in.

I have a suggestion, go on to a relationship/dating forum somewhere. Put a good pic of yourself as your profile pic and try to flirt with a few gals on there and see how they react. It's a lot easier emotionally to try and connect with a girl when you don't have to worry about all the extra body language signals.

i think my main problem is i am extremely sensitive to criticism and rejection

so i don't know if i can do this

The point is, that your online, which provides you with a blanket of anonymity. I've got aspergers and am extremely shy, but once upon a time I made and role played a character in an MMORPG that laced everything with sexual innuendo. To my surprise women in the game were all over my character, and other guys hated him. I felt I was able to do that because no one had a clue who I was. If some woman didn't like what my character said, no big deal, she had no clue who I was. You can see my pic over there on the left, but if you met me in person you wouldn't recognize me. Once this stuff sinks in it makes talking to people online a lot easier.

i don't know, i'm just extremely uncomfortable in any situation where people will be judging my "attractiveness"

sometimes i think i'm the most insecure person in the world

Online is a good suggestion, but just realize that there are a lot more men than women there, so the women tend to be inundated with emails and just not respond to most of them. You do at least know (more than IRL) that people there are single and looking. It's not better or worse than dating offline, but it's different.

If I haven't already answered this…

…this is me. Primarily because I am very overweight but also because I am considered to be somewhat selfish. I have been offered no-strings sex but have always turned it down due to being uncertain if I'm being told the full truth of the nature of the other person's situation. I'd like to keep my scrotum where it is, thanks.

no surprise, one of the main reasons i didn't bother with online

good looking women easily meet men in person

men have to have "game" and convince women they are "worthy"

Precisely why I suggested you put your pic up. I met my wife online. It wasn't my looks that attracted her initially though because I didn't have pic. It was a poem I wrote, but she was even more interested after she saw my pic. So if you're good looking it can't hurt

but if you only had the pic would she had been interested?

i'm no poem writer that's for sure

I think men have a hard time remembering this, but looks matter more to straight men than straight women. Women aren't as visually stimulated as we are. The pic is basically so they can see you're not an alien/zombie/monster. The better your pic the more good it may do you, but I've gotten dates from dating sites, and I'm no Matt Damon. Besides, unless you insist on dating supermodels, the women you see won't be perfect either; they're looking for someone roughly as attractive as they think they are, not Matt Damon.

Im gunna sound like an as*hole but Ive had about 11 girlfriends throughout my life from when I was 14-18 years old. My 12th should be on the way as I am going on a date with her.