Why are Aspie Men Bitter Towards Women??

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That's a perceptive assessment of young female behavior, Haliphron.

. . . and those same girls have no idea how strong those words are, they only know the danger they were taught on how a boy can want selfish things and how girls have to protect their 'reputations' and being easily used in a way that does not benefit your future. Insecure is never knowing who is whom or how to tell until too late, its so much simpler to growl and offend than to deal with each worthy boy at each meeting.

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Um, I afraid I really dont agree. I dont know where you got the idea that girls dont bully beause they sure as hell Do. Insecurity isnt necessarily about feeling physically threatened, it can be feelings of internal inadequacy and being unsure where you stand in the pecking order. Its called a Zero-sum Game. Thats where you put someone else down to build yourself up. Thats what those girls are doing by using those strong words, trying to make him feel bad so they can feel good. "creep" and "creepy" are girlslang terms for an (actively)unattractive male. Teenage girls will pretend to be scared of someone as a way of mocking him and conveying their revulsion.

I think what you say here might be (generally) true. Aspie men may find it more difficult to meet women because of their lack of social skills, while Aspie women still meet some men because, for the most part, the initiation of social contact is still done by men and (sigh) is often based on appearance. If you are speaking of superficial encounters, then perhaps it is easier for Aspie women than men - I could believe this. But relationships? No. I know from personal experience that although I may meet lots of men because of my appearance, that very few of them want anything more from me than sex because, due to my awkwardness, I'm just not the type of woman they want to be involved with.

I do sympathise with Aspie men's difficulty in talking to and meeting women - women can be rude and judgemental. But so can men! Maybe we Aspie women have it easier meeting men but I don't think it's any easier keeping them around for more than a quick fling. I have my bouts of bitterness over this, I totally admit, but I work hard to remember that everyone is different, and I can't lump a group of people together as bastards simply because of their reproductive organs.

I don't know where you got the idea that I said women don't bully! I would even venture that women bully far more than men (oh, noes! I can hear them beating on my door to take away my feminist identification card, now!) I was hoping to give a bit of insight as to the scare stories and the fear instilled into girls about boys. How girls display that fear is what you see, how we are programmed to display that is what I was hoping to expose.

Acknowledged. But speaking from experience as well as what girls have told me themselves, women tend to be a lot less confrontational then men. So if a girl is truly scared of/feels threatened by a guy she will usually avoid him and if he's in her environment she will not interact with him at all. Ive noticed that women who are intimidated by me will never say a word to me and avoid even looking at me. So what Im saying is that when girls go out of their way to call a guy a "creep" its passive-aggressive rather than a reaction based on fear.