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Veresae
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07 Jul 2009, 4:11 pm

Absolutely. What too many people, including myself, have been doing is blaming it on both the women for not liking us, and on ourselves for our shortcomings. We get on our own cases for having the problems in the first place, then get angry at the women for not liking those problems either. Well, THAT doesn't make much sense does it?



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07 Jul 2009, 8:37 pm

i_wanna_blue wrote:
This is for all the males out there who are very self critical, and thus have limited or no relationships to speak of. I think that there are many guys (with myself) who are too critical of ourselves and thus end up being our own worse enemy. We make up criticisms of the way we are are, and then place them as being from others.

So I ask the question to guys out there. Are we really the ones giving ourselves no real chance, or is it that no one out there will give us a chance?

I think if we were to take a good, long look at ourselves we would find out that indeed we come to conclusions (negatives ones) far too quickly and regularly.

I think it's time we acknowledge our own shortcomings, become more realistic and hopefully change for the better...

I know this is difficult as it can be really ingrained in ones thinking. However lets make a decision to try and change, and hopefully the results will be better...

I agree... I think the answer is 2 fold. Accept yourself and realize that lots of NT people suck with women and don't get laid, and you should just focus on other areas of your life where you can have success. That success will spill over into your social/love life.



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08 Jul 2009, 9:42 pm

There's room on this site. You just have to scroll down a little bit on the front page. It's not that hard[/quote

I finally went to the front page, your right... It wasn't that hard!! !! !! !! I was worried at first, put then I went down a little farther.



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10 Jul 2009, 10:44 pm

I am so self critical due to my weight and shyness around the oppsosite sex.