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Ah yes, thank you for this advice. I've had jobs in the past and i do actually want a job, i guess i have to project this.


You're totally right, i really struggle knowing what my pictures are saying to people, it's been changed.


Point noted, i always forget stuff like this.


Harshness is very appreciated. Criticism is always more constructive than compliments


I know i have problems, that's the main reason why i came to wrongplanet in the first place.


I could quite happily live my entire life without sex, it's not something i am seeking. If i get into a relationship and my partner wants sex, then that's a bonus. I've had a girlfriend before whom i met online, we dated for roughly 3 and a 1/2 years and lived with each other for just over a year. She always said to me she didn't understand why i'd never had a girlfriend before, she'd always tell me people are looking at me or clearly interested in me. She used to worry all the time that she'd lose me, that and my rather non-reassuring nature led to us breaking up.

I can't really integrate what people say about me and what actually happens in my life, i also have no idea when girls are interested in me and i can't even notice them looking at me. Out in the real world, i struggle to differentiate people from the big-picture my eyes and ears are feeding me.


I'm sure it would be good advice for most people, but it's already been tried. I got my mother to go through the questions and we didn't really get anywhere. I don't really understand what leads to me talking about myself, i just know i can't initiate it myself (Pretty much like everything else in my life.)


I don't care about fashion, i thought that would be a good thing to mention because it suggests a lack of vanity. But from all the posts here it would appear i'm being far too defensive (via a complete lack of seriousness) in my profile. I'll try and give it a more positive spin.


I wouldn't mind a few more guy friends I know all the people veiwing were from wrongplanet now, i guess i just don't like people staring at me, i want to know everyones intentions.

I'm guessing not very many? From her pictures i get the impression she completely lacks self-respect and that she is a very unhappy person. I get the impression that she is not very confident and she is hiding herself behind a shield.

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/sexibrina/pictures/

that one is a cute goddess

That what you think, and it depends how you define 'self-respect'.

As about what you're saying about confidence and unhappiness, she might be totally the contrary.

Ok, i updated my profile again. Do not be disheartened if i didn't change something you mentioned, i struggle with specifics (as i keep saying in the various corners of wrongplanet!), all this help is very appreciated.

Yes, she looks very nice, classy and balanced.


She might be, but it's more likely that she does lack true confidence and that she is unhappy, because that's what she is projecting in her pictures.

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I've had quite a bit more success than most people, having met up and dated a few very selective girls.

Things you might be doing wrong:

* Your profile is very short and not thought out. That could be a problem with a lot of the introverted girls and even extroverted girls because women like men who sound intelligent.

* Pictures, you need to show that you care about appearance. Even the girls who spend no time at all with their appearance are still going to discriminate against men who appear less fashion inclined.

* Don't tell anyone you don't have a job, especially at your age. Girls like working men. Period. You can either find a job or try to cover up that bit out of your profile.

Those are the big things. I think you have some real potential.

Everything you mention in a negative, even about things everyone would agree are good things: like not being vain, might also be interpreted as "is this guy preoccupied with vanity?" "He might think I am vain." But you just don't care. So unless you really can't stand certain behavior and think it might be an issue, don't mention it.

Talking about positives will trigger her mind to think about possibilities, negatives will trigger thoughts about why she should not be in a relationship with you. The same rules as normal advertisements apply. But don't lie and be specific. Most of us are not good with multi-layered language constructions. Don't try unless you're really sure; you want to attract the right kind of people.

They want your hot sexy body!

Good luck!

She might look classy and innocent , but I like her attitude :





lol ,awesome honesty.