20 Jul 2009, 5:39 pm
Izaak wrote:
There is a difference Diamon Head, between heterosexual attraction and doing something about it.
One can learn to deal with the expectation of a celibate lifestyle. That does not mean the attraction is not there. Just a declaration that, unless something happens, the percieved pros of pursuing a relationship with a woman are outweight by the obstacles.
That is not to say that if a relationship presents itself it is not pursued. Just not actively pursued. I didn't read that the original poster was going to "swear of it forever." They just accepted that it hadn't happened so far and given certain (not wholly described) difficulties was unlikely going to happen so was cultivating an attitude and lifestyle that was fulfilling outside of a relationship.
One can learn to deal with the expectation of a celibate lifestyle. That does not mean the attraction is not there. Just a declaration that, unless something happens, the percieved pros of pursuing a relationship with a woman are outweight by the obstacles.
That is not to say that if a relationship presents itself it is not pursued. Just not actively pursued. I didn't read that the original poster was going to "swear of it forever." They just accepted that it hadn't happened so far and given certain (not wholly described) difficulties was unlikely going to happen so was cultivating an attitude and lifestyle that was fulfilling outside of a relationship.
I wish I read this post before I made my response to your post because you hit the head right of the nail with this explanation. Good job!
Being apathetic is not the same thing as swearing to be celibate forever. It means that I accept the current circumstances of being alone, and I consider the likelihood of finding a girl who likes me and is attracted to me as much as I would be attracted to her to be highly unlikely. Haven't met a girl yet who I'm physically attracted and simultaneously attracted to interest wise. Accepting the likelihood of something not happening allows one not to be disappointed by the outcome of something if one attempts something (in some cases, certainly not all)
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