Need Help with a girl at my gym

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To be fair the idea is not mine, I saw something similar on an episode of 'The Professionals' years ago only it was Lewis Collins and two cans of Coke. I'll stick with my original idea though, walk back to where she is working out, open the bottle in front of her then walk on. The rest is in the hands of fate.

Vanilla_Slice

I have an idea....just say "Hi"

Ummmmm, no.

It took me two months to summon up enough courage to speak to a pretty lady who I meet three or four times a week and I suspect that I'm not the only one. So, you say Hi, she smiles (hopefully) and says Hi back.

Now what?

Difficult, isn't it?

You might start by saying "I thought you might be thirsty, how's the workout going"? and move on from there but make sure that you have something in the back of your mind that you can talk about. Conversation skills need to be acquired through lots of practice and you WILL fall flat on your face once or twice, just pick yourself up and move on.

Vanilla_Slice

I was about to ask this girl out at a gym just to spend some time away from my roomates. I have the same problem though, I see a hot girl at the gym and I feel like I'm wasting time approaching them (a little guy rule is to never try to pick women up at the gym), instead I work out harder (I use them for motivation). Everytime I talk to someone on short notice, I just look around for an exit, I can sprint like a champ though.

^^The girl I like is a modest hott and she just seems nice. The typical hot girls at my gym, are with jocks and dudes that do roids so they are not even worth my time. Vanilla slice im digging your idea but there are tons of water fountains throughout the gym. On Monday I'm just going to introduce myself/wing it.

Well, you have two choices. Either you can wait for an opportunity or you can make your own. Some examples:

She walks in with a new haircut so you tell her that you like it then just carry on working out and see what happens. Been there, done that, enjoyed the results.

Same thing with a new outfit, and the ladies love to show off a new outfit, don't you girls? Tell her she looks good and leave it at that because there's no hurry.

If you know what weights she uses hand over a weight rather than letting her reach for one on the rack.

Use the running machine next to her.

Does your gym have a pool or a jacuzzi? Take a deep breath and invite her along.

MP3 player? Ask her what she's listening to. People like to talk about their music choices.

Does the gym have TV sets dotted around? Ask her if she wants the channel changing because not everyone wants to watch the sports channels.

Finally, see above regarding the two bottles of water.

For goodness sake don't try all of these ideas at once or you will get thrown out as a possible stalker

Come on folks, let's give this guy some more ideas so he can get together with the lady of his dreams. As for ZEGH8578, go to the back of the class and wear the pointy hat Fail to plan, plan to fail.

Vanilla_Slice

Okay, just my 2 cents here:

I would be uncomfortable with the two-bottles-of-water thing - nothing against Vanilla Slice, because he's genuinely trying to help here, just my opinion, remember? Yes, it would be sweet if you got some water and also got some for her, but I think you should say something rather than just open it and set it by her and walk away.

You say she's quiet, so I would think she's not likely to chase you down if you just walk away without saying anything.

That said, I do like the bring-her-refreshment idea. Just say something like, "I was getting myself a water and thought you might like one too. I see you here everyday around the same time I'm here, so just thought I'd say 'Hi'. My name's bdubs."

She'll smile and say, "thank-you! My names gymgirl" and the two of you walk off into the sunset...

... or something like that.

Just strike up a casual conversation with her about something. If she seems interested...take it from there, if she doesn't, then don't worry about it too much, and just move on.

I won't give a how_to_approach advice , I am no expert.

But remember: there's no non-awkward and non-risky way to do it, there will be always a risk. It's the male's curse.

...and oh, movies are movies.

Petit Prince, it looks like one, but i don't see the different flakes being superposed like a mille-feuille usually is. Need to check closer...

Here's a wiki picture to help you compare (and hopefully tempt you into buying one!)

^ I make plans as well, lots and lots of plans. Conversations are always awkward for me so I think HARD about what to say and do in advance depending on how things go. If it doesn't work then you just dump the whole lot and start again. I suspect that the main difference between you and I is that I was taught conversation skills as part of my rehabilitation from a nervous breakdown, we spent hours and hours in public places analyzing how people reacted to each other, running through role play exercises and testing each others skills.

As for the cake, it's called a vanilla slice and I have only seen them for sale in the UK. There is a bottom layer of flaky pastry, a thick layer of vanilla custard which has been allowed to solidify, a second layer of flaky pastry and then icing on the top. A good one will take you ten minutes to eat and you'll end up with sticky fingers.

Vanilla_Slice