There are 5 million more unmarried men than women in the US

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Not entirely true. Women are just "pre-rejected."

I.e. Women have to go to a lot of trouble to get men to approach them. At least... if my sister was anything to go by. She would spend HOURS getting read to go out to town to "pick-up." She was, of course, NT so there were no other problems for her. And even then there were plenty of nights when NO ONE approached her. And others when lots (dunno how many exactly lots means) so it isn't always so simple as "men get rejected, so women have it easier"

I am a member of the unmarried men of which there are 5 million more of. I'm not saying that women "have it easy," but considering the high standards to which men are held in terms of personality and financial status (especially in a failing economy) I do believe that we have a tougher battle.

My main issue is that virtually nobody has both the same interests and the same religious/political beliefs as me.

Although I am quite good at putting on shows for people, I end up regretting it in the end.

While I still will only date other Aspies, not limiting myself to spectrumites is a moot point, because there aren't even that many NT women who have the interests/religion/politics combination either.

(Simpsons, South Park, indie/foreign films, is a Christian, votes Republican)

I noticed this paranoia too....

One subtle note in the beginning of the thread was that these are women who have married, so they either are now or were in the past. The most obvious thing for me to believe out of that is that it is a reflection of there being more women who are widowed than men who are widowers. However, without looking much at the figures I thought of another possibility which is that it could also reflect that there are more women who are single but divorced than men. I did note in the figures from the original post that there were more divorced women.

So one might conjure up a hypothesis as follows: there is a greater variation in the number of marriages that men go through than women. You may have more men who have had several wives (more than two, say), one after the other, through their lives than women who have had several husbands. On the other side of the coin you then have many other men who never marry. Might be worth testing.

This is the most logical explanation so far, Alpha men get married with a lot of women during their lives, even more than most women, while beta men die single. This conforms to the evolutionary logic of natural selection ,so it's most likely the true explanation.

Worth testing indeed...

Get off my case LPP!

Most women on this site DO in fact get generalized as well as men. From what I've seen...men don't like it either.

Which is why in fact I ignored this message because women is plural not singular as to me.

^ I LOVE when this happens, you look sexier when you're upset.

I'm glad you agree, but I don't think it necessarily has to be "the" true explanation. The figures can be indicative of multiple trends.

^^can be , but still worth testing...

There are also more men than woman.

Lol, it's a problem with they way it was phrased.




^ I think this is what was implied. By the way, what do you mean by "All things being equal"? What things?

I don't think it's a testable hypothesis. "Alpha male" and "Beta male" aren't objective categories that all men could be slotted into. To do this you would have to come up with criteria for both groups that would account for all men and have no overlap so that men could be objectively assigned to one group or the other statistically. These criteria would have to be something that could be assessed without ever meeting the person or knowing anything about them other than demographic facts.

it can be done, it's hard but nothing is impossible , like making an 'average' score of health/masculinity/attractiveness/wealth/education and finally you would be able to categorize males into alphas and betas.

or they can just take this test : http://www.modernhumorist.com/mh/0006/alpha/

That's no surprise, after all, getting a boyfriend for a girl is about 10 times easier then a guy getting a girlfriend in the first place. The guy is the one who has to do everything, girls have it so much easier.