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sheppeyescapee
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29 Jul 2009, 2:20 pm

My current relationship started online, we are married now and have been together for nearly 6 years. :D



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29 Jul 2009, 2:55 pm

Hector wrote:
I think my online personality might be more attractive than my real-life one. One thing people have said about me on the internet is that I'm very up-front and unashamed about what I think, which is not something I'd associate with myself at all but when I look back on my forum posts I can see what they're talking about. In real life I may appear more anxious and more timid, especially in a group or with new people.

That said, there are communication issues on the internet that don't really exist in real-life. People with AS may appreciate how plain and up-front communication through text is (without having to read one's body language and tone of voice), but it's a double-edged sword. You may be led to think things about a girl, or what a girl thinks about you, that you would never have thought if you actually met her. So in that sense, it's very dangerous and I'm not going to try any internet relationships for the foreseeable future.


my problem exactly , all the online 'crushes' that girls had on me via chatting/forums were based on this false impression unintentionally projected by myself (online).



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29 Jul 2009, 3:33 pm

Luck with the opposite gender online?

On a certain temporary basis, yes.

With a certain type of girl, yes.

With girls from certain types of place, yes.

With girls in certain life circumstances, yes.



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30 Jul 2009, 2:29 am

Oh, no way.

I mean, it can seem okay for a while, then they either find someone else or you meet them and it all goes to hell. I find it a very poor way to meet people.



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30 Jul 2009, 10:59 am

now I've had varying degrees of success and failure, but very recently... well that's for me to know and you to find out ;)


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30 Jul 2009, 6:47 pm

How are people successful online? Drop some hints.



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31 Jul 2009, 8:43 pm

Yes, but in my case it's mainly because most women I see around me aren't interesting to me. The women I'm interested in tend to be much more geographically scattered--I have made online friends all over the world, and it's rare for two women I'm romantically interested in to live in the same general area. :/



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31 Jul 2009, 8:47 pm

I do ok with members of the opposite gender while online =/ .



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01 Aug 2009, 7:57 pm

I guess the answer to that for me would be "yes". In real life I'm able to talk to girls about as much as I talk to guys (which is not much at all), but I've never had a clue about how to go about asking anyone out like that. Online, I actually met my ex. Once we met for real, I found it much, much easier to talk to her than it was with anyone I'd met for the first time. When I'm online, it's easier for me to say what's actually on my mind where as face to face I hesitate and don't know how to put into words what I'm thinking.