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19 Aug 2009, 7:53 pm

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They all blow up in your face sooner or later.


Then what's the point? Why not have a real girlfriend, and then everything is so much more genuine? Maybe it's just me, but if I were in a FWB situation, it would feel like both of us were kidding ourselves.
well, yeah a relationship is definitely what i want in the long run, but before i entangle myself in that and try to settle down i wanna have some fun...on a semi-regular basis...you get what i mean xD?


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19 Aug 2009, 7:56 pm

CelticGoddess wrote:
CrinklyCrustacean wrote:
Willard wrote:
They all blow up in your face sooner or later.


Then what's the point? Why not have a real girlfriend, and then everything is so much more genuine? Maybe it's just me, but if I were in a FWB situation, it would feel like both of us were kidding ourselves.


You're not kidding yourself if both parties are being honest about it. Sometimes I find relationships are stressful and I like a lot of space. But i have a high sex drive. So if I don't have someone in my life that I'm compatible with, I stlil have that sexual need and if I have a friend who's as equally disinterested in relationships as I am, but has a need, then it works out well for everyone involved.

Best case scenario? I have someone I'm crazy about who is compatible with me, has an equally high sex drive and we have an awesome relationship and we can also do it like bunnies. That hasn't always been the case though. :lol:
idk, it's occurred to me before but is a higher sex drive an aspie trait? or a farther reaching affect of other traits?

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19 Aug 2009, 7:58 pm

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actually i get the feeling the Greece thing wasn't entirely serious.

ever made semi-serious statements in the heat of a conversation? like the kind of thing where you're saying something that sounds ideally like a fun or good idea but don't really expect it to really happen or for the other person to take it entirely at face value, but to add some flair to the conversation flow? sorta what i think that was.


Ahhh....yeah, I know what you mean.

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lol, although if that ever really came up as a real possibility, that would be kick-arse! i've had a friend who went there and said it was his favorite places out of all the places he toured while bicycling through europe.


If you ever do get the chance to go, do it!! ! I've been to Athens, Crete, Santoniri, Mykonos and ....hmmm....there's another island that I'm missing....but it was an AWESOME trip. I would go back in a heartbeat.



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19 Aug 2009, 8:02 pm

Seanmw wrote:
CelticGoddess wrote:
CrinklyCrustacean wrote:
Willard wrote:
They all blow up in your face sooner or later.


Then what's the point? Why not have a real girlfriend, and then everything is so much more genuine? Maybe it's just me, but if I were in a FWB situation, it would feel like both of us were kidding ourselves.


You're not kidding yourself if both parties are being honest about it. Sometimes I find relationships are stressful and I like a lot of space. But i have a high sex drive. So if I don't have someone in my life that I'm compatible with, I stlil have that sexual need and if I have a friend who's as equally disinterested in relationships as I am, but has a need, then it works out well for everyone involved.

Best case scenario? I have someone I'm crazy about who is compatible with me, has an equally high sex drive and we have an awesome relationship and we can also do it like bunnies. That hasn't always been the case though. :lol:
idk, it's occurred to me before but is a higher sex drive an aspie trait? or a farther reaching affect of other traits?

idk


From what I've read on here over the years, it varies just as much in Aspies as it does in NT's.

All I know is that my sex drive is high, I'm not gettin any, and uh....taking matters into your own hands after awhile, loses it's appeal. :wink:



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19 Aug 2009, 8:19 pm

CelticGoddess wrote:
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actually i get the feeling the Greece thing wasn't entirely serious.

ever made semi-serious statements in the heat of a conversation? like the kind of thing where you're saying something that sounds ideally like a fun or good idea but don't really expect it to really happen or for the other person to take it entirely at face value, but to add some flair to the conversation flow? sorta what i think that was.


Ahhh....yeah, I know what you mean.

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lol, although if that ever really came up as a real possibility, that would be kick-arse! i've had a friend who went there and said it was his favorite places out of all the places he toured while bicycling through europe.


If you ever do get the chance to go, do it!! ! I've been to Athens, Crete, Santoniri, Mykonos and ....hmmm....there's another island that I'm missing....but it was an AWESOME trip. I would go back in a heartbeat.
fo sure :)


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19 Aug 2009, 8:22 pm

CelticGoddess wrote:
Seanmw wrote:
CelticGoddess wrote:
CrinklyCrustacean wrote:
Willard wrote:
They all blow up in your face sooner or later.


Then what's the point? Why not have a real girlfriend, and then everything is so much more genuine? Maybe it's just me, but if I were in a FWB situation, it would feel like both of us were kidding ourselves.


You're not kidding yourself if both parties are being honest about it. Sometimes I find relationships are stressful and I like a lot of space. But i have a high sex drive. So if I don't have someone in my life that I'm compatible with, I stlil have that sexual need and if I have a friend who's as equally disinterested in relationships as I am, but has a need, then it works out well for everyone involved.

Best case scenario? I have someone I'm crazy about who is compatible with me, has an equally high sex drive and we have an awesome relationship and we can also do it like bunnies. That hasn't always been the case though. :lol:
idk, it's occurred to me before but is a higher sex drive an aspie trait? or a farther reaching affect of other traits?

idk


From what I've read on here over the years, it varies just as much in Aspies as it does in NT's.

All I know is that my sex drive is high, I'm not gettin any, and uh....taking matters into your own hands after awhile, loses it's appeal. :wink:

i could say the same
lol yes, yes it does :lol: .


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19 Aug 2009, 11:32 pm

I say go for it, if it leads to that. It definitely sounds like you're up for it, and there's a good possibility that she is too. If you pass it up you'll always wonder how it would've worked out. Two thumbs up. :thumleft: :thumright:



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20 Aug 2009, 1:12 am

CelticGoddess wrote:
All I know is that my sex drive is high, I'm not gettin any, and uh....taking matters into your own hands after awhile, loses it's appeal. :wink:


I would have to disagree with the last point there... It doesn't lose it's appeal, and at the same time prevents my penis from trying to choose women for me...



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20 Aug 2009, 5:54 am

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I say go for it, if it leads to that. It definitely sounds like you're up for it, and there's a good possibility that she is too. If you pass it up you'll always wonder how it would've worked out. Two thumbs up. :thumleft: :thumright:



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:thumleft: :thumright:

oh for sure, i feel extremely celebratory :) . i think it's the dopamine surge in my brain caused by the ecstasy i'm feeling at this moment of seeming divine providence.

i feel high, but in a non-drug way.
i feel like i could do just about anything right now =o!
someone stop me before i go scale a mountain and jump off thinking i can fly xD


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20 Aug 2009, 6:33 am

Seanmw wrote:
jawbrodt wrote:
I say go for it, if it leads to that. It definitely sounds like you're up for it, and there's a good possibility that she is too. If you pass it up you'll always wonder how it would've worked out. Two thumbs up. :thumleft: :thumright:



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:thumleft: :thumright:

oh for sure, i feel extremely celebratory :) . i think it's the dopamine surge in my brain caused by the ecstasy i'm feeling at this moment of seeming divine providence.

i feel high, but in a non-drug way.
i feel like i could do just about anything right now =o!
someone stop me before i go scale a mountain and jump off thinking i can fly xD


Well, if you do that then you definitely WILL self sabatoge your chances of a potential lay. :lol:



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20 Aug 2009, 6:40 am

Stop!

You have something else better to do right now :lol: :cheers:



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20 Aug 2009, 10:04 am

CelticGoddess wrote:
You're not kidding yourself if both parties are being honest about it. Sometimes I find relationships are stressful and I like a lot of space. But i have a high sex drive. So if I don't have someone in my life that I'm compatible with, I stlil have that sexual need and if I have a friend who's as equally disinterested in relationships as I am, but has a need, then it works out well for everyone involved.


It still sounds like a cop-out to me: you want the best of both worlds without paying the price for either. It's like claiming disability benefits without having a disability.



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20 Aug 2009, 11:56 am

It isn't a copout because there are potential partners who feel the same way. All long as everyone buys into it, it is a win all the way around.

And, I can see it. I've learned that I am no good for women in a relationship. However, I have had many wonderful female friends. So I could see this working for me where a more traditional approach has been a uniform failure.



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20 Aug 2009, 12:35 pm

CrinklyCrustacean wrote:
CelticGoddess wrote:
You're not kidding yourself if both parties are being honest about it. Sometimes I find relationships are stressful and I like a lot of space. But i have a high sex drive. So if I don't have someone in my life that I'm compatible with, I stlil have that sexual need and if I have a friend who's as equally disinterested in relationships as I am, but has a need, then it works out well for everyone involved.


It still sounds like a cop-out to me: you want the best of both worlds without paying the price for either. It's like claiming disability benefits without having a disability.


I completely disagree. I've put in 20 years of history with someone, 10 years of it invested in a relationship, been married, had kids, been a wife....and here i find myself single again. I've paid a huge price, as has he. I would do it all over again in a hearbeat to have my kids.

In the process I've learned a lot about myself. One of the biggest things I've learned is that traditional forms of relationships don't work for me. At this point in time, I have no desire to remarry. I also am not ready to live with anyone. But I know that I like companionship and I'll have that too. How I get about getting it is my business. as I grow and things in my life change, so will my needs and expectations and knowing what I'm capable of bringing into my life.

I think that's far from being a cop out. I think that's being highly realistic. The OP is 19. I'm 34. There's a vast difference in life experiences and the reasons why either of us would pursue a FW relationship. For me right now, I have neither and thats cool with me.



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20 Aug 2009, 12:39 pm

CrinklyCrustacean wrote:
CelticGoddess wrote:
You're not kidding yourself if both parties are being honest about it. Sometimes I find relationships are stressful and I like a lot of space. But i have a high sex drive. So if I don't have someone in my life that I'm compatible with, I stlil have that sexual need and if I have a friend who's as equally disinterested in relationships as I am, but has a need, then it works out well for everyone involved.


It still sounds like a cop-out to me: you want the best of both worlds without paying the price for either. It's like claiming disability benefits without having a disability.


I forgot that all relationships must end in a lifelong marriage and sex only for procreation. Thank you so much for setting me right. :roll:



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20 Aug 2009, 12:51 pm

rensilaer wrote:
CrinklyCrustacean wrote:
CelticGoddess wrote:
You're not kidding yourself if both parties are being honest about it. Sometimes I find relationships are stressful and I like a lot of space. But i have a high sex drive. So if I don't have someone in my life that I'm compatible with, I stlil have that sexual need and if I have a friend who's as equally disinterested in relationships as I am, but has a need, then it works out well for everyone involved.


It still sounds like a cop-out to me: you want the best of both worlds without paying the price for either. It's like claiming disability benefits without having a disability.


I forgot that all relationships must end in a lifelong marriage and sex only for procreation. Thank you so much for setting me right. :roll:


Yeah, so get on that Rensilaer. :wink: You'll have to come up to Toronto to make the union legal though. I've got a spare room so you can stay the weekend at my place. :lol: