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09 Sep 2009, 12:27 pm

SINsister a Blade Runner reference? :star: :star: :star: :star: :star:



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09 Sep 2009, 12:35 pm

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SINsister a Blade Runner reference? :star: :star: :star: :star: :star:


Oh my, sir - it's only one of my favorite films of all time. ;) \m/


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09 Sep 2009, 12:38 pm

Yeah it is one of the best movies of all time. I can watch it over and over.

So.

Director's cut or the original cut? :D

We need a new topic just for this, don't we?



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09 Sep 2009, 12:44 pm

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In reality, they are poorly informed and unaware of autism. We are too different and they are unable to interact with us. What we need, in a broader sense that goes far beyond the love and dating topic, is a better awareness of our differences. Ask 10 random people on the street what they know about autism, and you'll get the same answer: little kids with learning difficulties making their parents's lives a living hell. Adult autism isn't even on anyone's radar. It is almost as if everyone assumes that the autism just magically disappears when the cute blonde white boy (stereotype!) grows up. Or actually, it isn't even an assumption. It is more like they never even thought about it.


Putting what NTs know about autism aside, I've had some rather interesting experiences recently, not just with my aspie nonboyfriend and our nonrelationship, but with some other people with challenges as well. I am starting the get the impression that those out there in the world labeled "special needs" might have social issues that have more to do with how they allow the special-needs label to affect them psychologically than their actual disability.

Does that make any sense?



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09 Sep 2009, 12:47 pm

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In reality, they are poorly informed and unaware of autism. We are too different and they are unable to interact with us. What we need, in a broader sense that goes far beyond the love and dating topic, is a better awareness of our differences. Ask 10 random people on the street what they know about autism, and you'll get the same answer: little kids with learning difficulties making their parents's lives a living hell. Adult autism isn't even on anyone's radar. It is almost as if everyone assumes that the autism just magically disappears when the cute blonde white boy (stereotype!) grows up. Or actually, it isn't even an assumption. It is more like they never even thought about it.


Putting what NTs know about autism aside, I've had some rather interesting experiences recently, not just with my aspie nonboyfriend and our nonrelationship, but with some other people with challenges as well. I am starting the get the impression that those out there in the world labeled "special needs" might have social issues that have more to do with how they allow the special-needs label to affect them psychologically than their actual disability.

Does that make any sense?


Makes perfect sense to me. Spot on, I'd say. I am guilty of letting the stigma attached to my difficulties affect me to a point where I even felt paralyzed to do the most simple things. I know people with the same problem also, one deals with his problems by blowing hundreds of pounds on alcohol.



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09 Sep 2009, 1:06 pm

When I was a kid, there was a stigma attached to the "gifted" label, as well. I didn't consciously internalize the concept of being gifted; I was simply placed in certain classes with certain other high-IQ students, and that was that. But oh my, how it was used against me - still is.


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09 Sep 2009, 1:08 pm

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Yeah it is one of the best movies of all time. I can watch it over and over.

So.

Director's cut or the original cut? :D

We need a new topic just for this, don't we?


Copping out: both (for various reasons). :P
And yeah, I suppose we do.


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09 Sep 2009, 1:11 pm

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When I was a kid, there was a stigma attached to the "gifted" label, as well. I didn't consciously internalize the concept of being gifted; I was simply placed in certain classes with certain other high-IQ students, and that was that. But oh my, how it was used against me - still is.


Thus is the curse of the child prodigy 8O.



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09 Sep 2009, 1:12 pm

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Yes, but Bond was really only looking for a shag, innit? ;)


Uh, probably so... but that without a commitment is a bad idea too.


Not necessarily. One needn't be "in a relationship" in order to have mutually-pleasurable and beneficial sexual relations with someone else. What *is* needed is trust, respect, and a clear and mutually-agreed-upon set of rules and boundaries. I have numerous male friends and acquaintances, both online and off, who provide me with the intellectual companionship I need. What I'm mostly looking for at this juncture is a non-judgmental (and non-repulsive) male with whom to share some "fun" (*cough*). I can't even find that, ffs. :evil: :( :roll:


You probably would have had more luck finding that in the closing of the last century... I mean, the excuse of "It's the 90's!" sounded good.
It had a nice ring to it. But nowadays the analogous phrase of "It's the zero's" just either sounds lame or related to WWII.

Edit: and for the next decade, the phrase of "It's the teens!" would also, not fly well... kinda ephebophilic, which is bad unless you live in a country like Chile, American Samoa, Scotland, Cuba, or El Salvador.



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09 Sep 2009, 1:14 pm

I have given up as well. Finding a female, Christian, Republican-voting Aspie who likes the Simpsons and South Park is virtually impossible.


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09 Sep 2009, 1:15 pm

MountZion wrote:
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When I was a kid, there was a stigma attached to the "gifted" label, as well. I didn't consciously internalize the concept of being gifted; I was simply placed in certain classes with certain other high-IQ students, and that was that. But oh my, how it was used against me - still is.


Thus is the curse of the child prodigy 8O.


I wouldn't call myself a prodigy, man - I didn't achieve anything of any worth as a child, and I've amounted to absolutely nothing. Gifted, schmifted. Who cares? :(


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09 Sep 2009, 1:18 pm

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You probably would have had more luck finding that in the closing of the last century... I mean, the excuse of "It's the 90's!" sounded good.
It had a nice ring to it. But nowadays the analogous phrase of "It's the zero's" just either sounds lame or related to WWII.


HA! I don't need an "excuse," nor have I ever. I don't answer to anyone but myself when it comes to my sexuality, and I'm not interested in folks' judgment.


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09 Sep 2009, 1:19 pm

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I have given up as well. Finding a female, Christian, Republican-voting Aspie who likes the Simpsons and South Park is virtually impossible.


I've given up too.

Finding a hot billionaire, Jewish Green Party-voting genius who likes film noir and Mongolian basket-weaving is virtually impossible.



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09 Sep 2009, 1:24 pm

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Finding a female, Christian, Republican-voting...


Stop right there and you'll be all right. The type of person you seek is far easier to meet than an atheist-intelectual-athlete-libertarian, which is who I hope to meet some day. (I'd settle for two out of four.)

Find an NT date. We all need to practice our social skills anyway.

The cartoons you've mentioned? They are irrelevant.



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09 Sep 2009, 1:25 pm

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iamnotaparakeet wrote:
You probably would have had more luck finding that in the closing of the last century... I mean, the excuse of "It's the 90's!" sounded good.
It had a nice ring to it. But nowadays the analogous phrase of "It's the zero's" just either sounds lame or related to WWII.


HA! I don't need an "excuse," nor have I ever. I don't answer to anyone but myself when it comes to my sexuality, and I'm not interested in folks' judgment.


Forget the word "excuse" in relation to yourself. In a relationship there's usually more than one person though.
The morality of generation-x is not vogue regardless of your personal disposition either way.



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09 Sep 2009, 1:28 pm

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I have given up as well. Finding a female, Christian, Republican-voting Aspie who likes the Simpsons and South Park is virtually impossible.


Tim, I don't mean to offend you, but I think that your rigid, narrow requirements are more than a little ridiculous, and are of little value. Labels as such are blanket statements, and inherently meaningless. I'm an open-minded, super-liberal, amoral atheist who listens to an absurd variety of "alternative" music and who used to sport black-and-blue hair, Doc Martens, and a bunch of facial piercings. I *can't stand* The Simpsons; I thought South Park was funny for a grand total of 5 minutes whilst at university, but you couldn't pay me to watch it now. Get a grip.


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