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27 Oct 2009, 4:20 pm

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Just vouching for LPP's rule here, women from a higher social status won't date beneath them.


I probably would, if the man were smarter than I, and an Aspie.


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27 Oct 2009, 4:32 pm

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MDD123 wrote:
Just vouching for LPP's rule here, women from a higher social status won't date beneath them.


I probably would, if the man were smarter than I, and an Aspie.


what if he's as smart as you? why always the 'er'? (smarter or stronger or taller or wealthier or more educated or more ers and ers...)



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27 Oct 2009, 5:10 pm

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hartzofspace wrote:
MDD123 wrote:
Just vouching for LPP's rule here, women from a higher social status won't date beneath them.


I probably would, if the man were smarter than I, and an Aspie.


what if he's as smart as you? why always the 'er'? (smarter or stronger or taller or wealthier or more educated or more ers and ers...)


First of all, I've been smarter than most of the men I've dated, in the past. And, a few of them resented me for it. As for why "Always" smarter, taller, etc. I have no idea. I can only answer for myself. I just feel, on a some primitive level, more attracted to a gentleman who is taller than I. It's a real turn on. And, come to think of it, I cannot tell if someone is as smart as I am. I usually appreciate learning from people who have gone further than myself, in formal education. But, I do not speak for everyone.


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27 Oct 2009, 5:22 pm

hartzofspace wrote:
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MDD123 wrote:
Just vouching for LPP's rule here, women from a higher social status won't date beneath them.


I probably would, if the man were smarter than I, and an Aspie.


what if he's as smart as you? why always the 'er'? (smarter or stronger or taller or wealthier or more educated or more ers and ers...)


First of all, I've been smarter than most of the men I've dated, in the past. And, a few of them resented me for it. As for why "Always" smarter, taller, etc. I have no idea. I can only answer for myself. I just feel, on a some primitive level, more attracted to a gentleman who is taller than I. It's a real turn on. And, come to think of it, I cannot tell if someone is as smart as I am. I usually appreciate learning from people who have gone further than myself, in formal education. But, I do not speak for everyone.


You do not speak for everyone, but almost everyone speak like you.

And your Aspie preference is stupid btw , I know that because I am obviously smarter than you. ;p



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27 Oct 2009, 5:57 pm

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Here are the signs I noticed of the "not potential partner"-zone or what most guys like to call it here the "friends" zone:

9- When she talks/phones/chats to you only when she needs a favor: A small advice in that case, RUN!


These girls are the SCUM of the earth, especially those who "trick" you thinking you're in a relationship with her to get you to do numerous favors.

When you recognize that you're with this type of a girl, it's time to "break up", if you can even call it that:

If she wants you to take her shopping, drive her there and just LEAVE.. as in AWOL. Leave her stranded at the mall.

If she asks you to fix something or help her move, promise her then never show up.

If you're eating out with her, sneak away and leave her to pay the entire bill.



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27 Oct 2009, 9:14 pm

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Any girl in a high social standing is gonna steer clear of any guy without the popularity...


Um...NO. How are you defining "high social standing," anyway? Socialites? The Hollywood crowd? This makes no sense.

In a nutshell, I've never given a rat's ass what anyone else thinks, or has thought, about any guys I've fancied. My interest in men has never been based on what is or was "popular," or whether the guys were considered attractive or "cool" by anyone else.


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27 Oct 2009, 9:16 pm

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You do not speak for everyone, but almost everyone speak like you.


And who do you purport to speak for, hmm?


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27 Oct 2009, 9:22 pm

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If she wants you to take her shopping, drive her there and just LEAVE.. as in AWOL. Leave her stranded at the mall.

If she asks you to fix something or help her move, promise her then never show up.

If you're eating out with her, sneak away and leave her to pay the entire bill.


That type of behavior borders on psychopathic.


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27 Oct 2009, 10:22 pm

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hartzofspace wrote:
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hartzofspace wrote:
MDD123 wrote:
Just vouching for LPP's rule here, women from a higher social status won't date beneath them.


I probably would, if the man were smarter than I, and an Aspie.


what if he's as smart as you? why always the 'er'? (smarter or stronger or taller or wealthier or more educated or more ers and ers...)


First of all, I've been smarter than most of the men I've dated, in the past. And, a few of them resented me for it. As for why "Always" smarter, taller, etc. I have no idea. I can only answer for myself. I just feel, on a some primitive level, more attracted to a gentleman who is taller than I. It's a real turn on. And, come to think of it, I cannot tell if someone is as smart as I am. I usually appreciate learning from people who have gone further than myself, in formal education. But, I do not speak for everyone.


You do not speak for everyone, but almost everyone speak like you.

And your Aspie preference is stupid btw , I know that because I am obviously smarter than you. ;p


You're kidding, right? I fail to see how measuring intelligence between myself and you is salient to the subject of your post. If you fancy yourself to be smarter than I, I really don't care. I am currently dating a guy who is tall, and has gone further than me in college, and I am very pleased with him. He is also an Aspie, and I feel that my preference is bearing fruit in a very satisfying way. 8)


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28 Oct 2009, 12:51 am

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2- When she talks about other guys' attractive qualities or when she makes obvious reactions toward some attractive qualities in other guys.



I don't agree with this one. a girl can make a comment about another guy's attractive qualities simply to see if there are any signs of jealousy in you. or to see if you'll comment on it (i.e. if you agree with the comment = you're gay :p). I bet there are plenty of other possible scenarios where it doesn't mean you're being put in "the zone".

then again, it all depends on the comment. "omg he's so hot I wanna have his babies" *definitely* means you're in "the zone" ;)


the chick i whined about some time back in the other subforum (HA! :D) actually put "<3<3<3"'s behind other guys names when mentioning them.

baaaad sign :]


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28 Oct 2009, 1:04 am

I'm just speaking from experience SINsister.



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28 Oct 2009, 9:18 am

Just want to be clear about what we mean by social status here. Do you mean a girl with more friends or a girl from a wealthy background?

i.e I definately agree that a rich girl from a wealthy family who sent her to an expensive university to study law and is now at a top law firm will never date the son of a bricklayer who works for the water department.

But a girl who has friends will date a guy who doesn't. Maybe it's an age thing, I didn't start dating until after university (and didn't talk to anyone either), also I went to an all boys school. So maybe there are social standings there that went right over my head. But as a 30 year old adult, women don't care if I have friends or not.


It's not like you advertise it on date 1. I will pretend otherwise, gradually she will start to like me and will not care as she begins to realise I don't.



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28 Oct 2009, 9:31 am

MDD123 wrote:
I'm just speaking from experience SINsister.


Statements that aren't backed up with some kind of anecdotal evidence are useless, imho. What experience? Where? And you didn't answer my original question. Your argument may hold water in the *NT world*, but it's full of holes in mine. ;)


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28 Oct 2009, 1:08 pm

As long as you either don't come across as insecure about how many friends or connections you have (which you probably won't if you're comfortable with how active your social life is), and at the same time you don't mind having to be a bit more social than you were, I don't see any obvious issue in dating someone with an active social life and plenty of friends.



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28 Oct 2009, 5:33 pm

SINsister wrote:
MDD123 wrote:
I'm just speaking from experience SINsister.


Statements that aren't backed up with some kind of anecdotal evidence are useless, imho. What experience? Where? And you didn't answer my original question. Your argument may hold water in the *NT world*, but it's full of holes in mine. ;)


here comes the back up...

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/motoring/504 ... -cars.html

http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/u ... 536873.ece

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/ ... ealth.html



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28 Oct 2009, 5:39 pm

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here comes the back up...

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/motoring/504 ... -cars.html

http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/u ... 536873.ece

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/ ... ealth.html


Those studies are using NTs as their subject matter, obviously. Therefore, they don't interest me. If you ASD males are looking for relationships with NT women...well, good luck with that, then. :roll: :lol:


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