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spooky13
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10 Nov 2009, 9:25 am

sinsboldly wrote:

all my husband/lovers/friends have been NT. Matter of fact, everyone I have met before I came to WP were NT. I would imagine a lot of NT men are in love with fascinating Aspie women!

Same here, I've never met an aspie guy.

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10 Nov 2009, 12:03 pm

sinsboldly wrote:

all my husband/lovers/friends have been NT. Matter of fact, everyone I have met before I came to WP were NT. I would imagine a lot of NT men are in love with fascinating Aspie women!

Now if only NT women would give aspie men the same chance they give NT men...

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10 Nov 2009, 12:08 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:

sinsboldly wrote:

all my husband/lovers/friends have been NT. Matter of fact, everyone I have met before I came to WP were NT. I would imagine a lot of NT men are in love with fascinating Aspie women!

Now if only NT women would give aspie men the same chance they give NT men...

I think Aspie men have a bit more of a chance, if they don't screw it up. Obviously, there's the issue with NT men outnumbering us over 100 to 1, with anxiety and social isolation compounding our problems, but I think we get a fair chance on the rare occasion we meet a single female Aspie.

The main thing is that we have to work past some social difficulties before we can date any women. This applies to Aspie females just as much as it applies to NTs. If we can work it out, we've got a lot more in common with them than the bloke across the table. Just have to get the balls to approach.

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10 Nov 2009, 1:20 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:

Now if only NT women would give aspie men the same chance they give NT men...

They already do. They have no idea who has AS and who doesn't.

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10 Nov 2009, 1:54 pm

HH wrote:

ToadOfSteel wrote:

Now if only NT women would give aspie men the same chance they give NT men...

They already do. They have no idea who has AS and who doesn't.

Let me rephrase my original statement then:

Now if only women would give the shy guy in the corner the same chance as the guy who is obnoxiously hitting on her...

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10 Nov 2009, 1:59 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:

Let me rephrase my original statement then:

Now if only women would give the shy guy in the corner the same chance as the guy who is obnoxiously hitting on her...

Again, they already do.

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10 Nov 2009, 2:10 pm

HH wrote:

Again, they already do.

Not from where I see it. The only times in the 3 1/2 years of college I've been through so far that women have even so much as walked up to me, let alone said anything, are two occasions of trying to raise money... one was for a charity toy drive in december (I gave $10.00), and the other was selling baked goods raisign money for a sorority (I bought a cupcake for 50 cents). Neither of them tried to stay any longer than they had to, even when I tried to at least get their names, so I've come to the conclusion that women don't give the guy sitting in the corner a chance at all...

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10 Nov 2009, 2:16 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:

are two occasions of trying to raise money... one was for a charity toy drive in december (I gave $10.00), and the other was selling baked goods raisign money for a sorority (I bought a cupcake for 50 cents). Neither of them tried to stay any longer than they had to, even when I tried to at least get their names,

Uh, yeah, that's because some guy trying to chat you up or get your name when you're collecting for charity is CREEPY AS ALL GET OUT. That wasn't any kind of unusual treatment.

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The only times in the 3 1/2 years of college I've been through so far that women have even so much as walked up to me, let alone said anything

Yeah, they rarely go walking up to other guys they don't know at all either. You're not complaining about equal treatment; you're complaining about lack of special treatment in your favor. There's a big difference.

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10 Nov 2009, 3:13 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:

Now if only women would give the shy guy in the corner the same chance as the guy who is obnoxiously hitting on her...

why don't you look for the shy gal in the corner then?

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10 Nov 2009, 3:24 pm

sinsboldly wrote:

theOtherSide wrote:

Aw. I was hoping this was finally a "I'm an NT male in love with an Aspie female" thread.

*sigh*

all my husband/lovers/friends have been NT. Matter of fact, everyone I have met before I came to WP were NT. I would imagine a lot of NT men are in love with fascinating Aspie women!

But you have to admit, they aren't exactly clamoring for advice on how to deal with our uniqueness (unlike their female counterparts). Not that i ever think generalizing is any use, but...

(And for the record, although i have been in love with some wonderful NT men, the AS-AS connection is truly like no other)

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