Autistic boyfriend talks too loud

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I think I might wait until the next time he's loud, specifically that it's inappropriate (as in, we're at a restaurant or something). I just want to clarify that "loud talker" doesn't cover it. I am a loud talker. He is loud enough that an ENTIRE restaurant can hear EVERY word he says. As in, someone across the restaurant shouted "NOVEMBER 26th!" when we weren't sure what day Thanksgiving was, and it was just between us.

Anyway, the next time he gets really loud, I might mention it, and then I like the hand signal idea. I don't need him to be quiet ALL the time (as in, when we're outside or when there's some space between us it's totally fine), but sometimes, I'm so distracted by the volume that I can hardly hear what he's saying. Not to mention, other people can't eat their dinners in peace.

I don't think he's doing it on purpose. He probably has difficulty recognizing the volume of his own voice, but I don't think he's incapable of controlling it. Just find some way to calmly bring up the subject, without griping his head off (Easier said than done. ), and a solution should be pretty quick, especially with what everyone else here has suggested.

Hand signs would work great for this purpose. Just find some way to help him identify when his voice is too soft or too loud, and everything should go great.

This really concerns me, because it's got to be really messing up his life in other ways, particularly on the job. I'm not sure how any workplace would endure him for long.

So does he have this problem at work? If so, this is definitely a case for seeking professional help in finding the right training to build the control he needs.

If he doesn't have this problem at work, it means he does have control. He should be able to apply his methods for control at work in other situations. Again, the right professional should be able to help him tweak his control methods for different environments -- there are occupational therapists for just about everything these days.