She broke up with me because im an aspie

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These elders seem as Spock would put it "Highly Illogical"

lol I defiantly agree! (im a bit of a trekie as well)

hmm... you dont need them, they are ignorant, prejudiced fools.

I think it's time for you to sever any remaining ties with her. (Let an Aspie do the dumping, for once).

If this relationship wouldn't go anywhere, then you will be saving each other further grief.

If the relationship could have gone somewhere, you would always be placed in a confrontational position with respect to her family, and she would be placed in the position of taking sides between you and them.

They are not the kind of people that should be in your life, and if that is part of the package that comes with her, then, "No thanks."

If it's any consolation in the future there is no evidence to support that it is genetic if it were my whole family would have it which they don't I'm the only one out of four kids that has anything on the spectrum (my half brother has schizophrenia but that's not AS) and my brother and sister have always been very popular people with lots of friends and no social weaknesses beyond common place ones. So they are the problem not you plus their ill informed and judgmental not the best option for in laws.

Great, another thing to add to the list of "reasons to not tell anyone you have AS."

Um...are they Chinese? I've read lots of stories on the net about how some traditional Chinese parents can be extremely hard on their kids when it comes to dating and marriage.

Questions for the OP if he likes to answer them. How old is she? Also how long have you two been going out?

@wormsto: I agree!

@visagrunt: Wev already broken up but we are still friends if things dont go well just being friends then I will do that.

@KingofKaboom: I will remember that

@ Yes you are right however I felt I had to disclose to her as my behaviour seemed a bit odd and I thought she deserved a reason.

@CrinklyCrustacean: Her family are half French and half Canadian.

@KenM:She is 16 however quite mature for her age. We were going out for 1 month

Interesting; where are you getting that there is no genetic component? There are a number of individuals on here with multiple children with ASDs or members of other generations that are on the spectrum. My son is officially dx'd as HFA, I am unofficially diagnosed as AS, and my parents, while likely not on the spectrum (in any diagnostic sense, at least), both display strong traits associated with the spectrum.


M.

Like I said I'm the only one in my whole family so if it were genetic don't you think at least one of my family members would have it or traits of it? I'm not saying that whole families can't have it or that my family couldn't just be an anomaly but I doubt it. Well it seems some think it is partly genetic but again my siblings and I were all exposed to the same lifestyle so what other factors are concerned I do not know. Here are some links that discuss the genetic factor some for and some against. But I like to think were evolution so maybe it is and we'll rule the world in a hundred years if these rates keep going up lol

http://childhealthsafety.wordpress.com/ ... ron-cohen/
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15121991

Genetics isn't arithmetic; there are no rules as to frequency of occurrence within a family. Personally, based on what I've seen it appears to have a genetic basis with a number of possible environmental triggers or influences that affect its' expression.


M.

Did you read the sites at all? And by anomaly yes it is math people organize the world 49% this 70% that like it or not were all numbers to someone. If my family fit into every category used to identify autism and then no one had it then they would be an anomaly in the numbers that people have collected. As to there being rules that is what they are trying to find out they want to know what causes it and how to treat or cure or cope with it depending on who you ask and once they find out they'll add lots of numbers to it and percentages. Don't get me wrong the whole anomaly thing is because we are individuals people aren't static the world over but those numbers are the way people please and help the most whilst those who don't fit in neatly enough just slip through the cracks.

I'm the only redhead in my immediate family. That doesn't mean red hair isn't genetic, just that it's a recessive trait in my case. But I have a second cousin with red hair whose children all have red hair. In their case it didn't skip a generation and didn't only show up in one sibling. Some genes are recessive, some genetic traits have to be present in both parents, etc. Genetics (and I'm not expert, but I've read a little about it) is still in some ways a mystery, which is why there is still so much genetic research going on and not just regarding autism. There may be different factors at work with autism. I've read some articles that suggest it may in some cases be genetic and in some cases be caused by something else.

Again I retracted my statements and said that it may have some and may not have some genetic factors.... Does no one read the links I'll just edit them out :/

If its over then make it fully over, no friendship, no e-mail;, phone, texts