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24 Dec 2009, 9:13 pm

well, he did make an effort to talk more, when i expressed sadness in the lack of much talk. i asked him about it again and apparently he's just been feeling pretty crumby lately.....i think that's plenty understandable.



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24 Dec 2009, 9:16 pm

I think it is a fairly good idea to talk to his friend first to see what has been on his mind and that... Sometimes, you can take the chance and tell his friend first that you have feelings for the guy and see what he is going to do about it, if you feel you trust him though...

Have you got his phone number? Sometimes that night be helpful, or I've been through this before and ive managed to get an online girlfriend :D

Getting and online boyfriend/girlfriend would not exactly feel the same as you would have a real relationship and sometimes it doesn't last very long... Mine did though :D for about 5 months which was awesone and I'd do again, but there's always a risk to it too sometimes.

I say give it a chance, I did it and I did was successful :) maybe you be twice as lucky then I would of been back in the days :)

Nice seeing you around, long time i've seen you on WP :D


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24 Dec 2009, 11:03 pm

superboyian wrote:
I think it is a fairly good idea to talk to his friend first to see what has been on his mind and that... Sometimes, you can take the chance and tell his friend first that you have feelings for the guy and see what he is going to do about it, if you feel you trust him though...

Have you got his phone number? Sometimes that night be helpful, or I've been through this before and ive managed to get an online girlfriend :D

Getting and online boyfriend/girlfriend would not exactly feel the same as you would have a real relationship and sometimes it doesn't last very long... Mine did though :D for about 5 months which was awesone and I'd do again, but there's always a risk to it too sometimes.

I say give it a chance, I did it and I did was successful :) maybe you be twice as lucky then I would of been back in the days :)

Nice seeing you around, long time i've seen you on WP :D


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his friend seems to think i have a chance...

i have his phone number...we've only talked once. it was very uncomfortable. XD really he couldnt think of much to say....and neither could i....XD

i'm just not so sure about the whole internet relationship thing....i think the physical aspect is too important a part to be able to be excluded...i'm not sure.

thanks. :D i love when people remember me...and especially if they say it's nice seeing me around. :D



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25 Dec 2009, 8:34 am

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i'm just not so sure about the whole internet relationship thing....i think the physical aspect is too important a part to be able to be excluded...i'm not sure.


If you don't kiss, hug or have sex you're not in a relationship in my opinion. Sorry.

However, I do believe IM programs like AIM, Yahoo Messenger or Live Messenger are suitable for getting to know someone's personality very well and developing some butterflies BEFORE you go on a first date nd get an actual physical relationship. It worked several times for me ;)



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25 Dec 2009, 8:38 am

Spazzergasm wrote:
superboyian wrote:
I think it is a fairly good idea to talk to his friend first to see what has been on his mind and that... Sometimes, you can take the chance and tell his friend first that you have feelings for the guy and see what he is going to do about it, if you feel you trust him though...

Have you got his phone number? Sometimes that night be helpful, or I've been through this before and ive managed to get an online girlfriend :D

Getting and online boyfriend/girlfriend would not exactly feel the same as you would have a real relationship and sometimes it doesn't last very long... Mine did though :D for about 5 months which was awesone and I'd do again, but there's always a risk to it too sometimes.

I say give it a chance, I did it and I did was successful :) maybe you be twice as lucky then I would of been back in the days :)

Nice seeing you around, long time i've seen you on WP :D


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his friend seems to think i have a chance...

i have his phone number...we've only talked once. it was very uncomfortable. XD really he couldnt think of much to say....and neither could i....XD

i'm just not so sure about the whole internet relationship thing....i think the physical aspect is too important a part to be able to be excluded...i'm not sure.

thanks. :D i love when people remember me...and especially if they say it's nice seeing me around. :D


You're welcome :) my memory is excellent with remembering peoples faces, I'd be able to remember to a member on here even if I've only seen them once :)

Back to the topic... Yes, if he friend says you have a very good chance with him, he's right, I think that means that now could be the right time, again I can't promise you it will work... If he was also quiet on the phone, he probably was shy on top of that?

If you seen each other on cam before, then that is also good and do the love stuff on there which I used to do that with my Internet girlfriend :lol: it's definitely worth it.

If you wanted to go see him, DONT GO ALONE! bring a friend and be safe online :)


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25 Dec 2009, 9:40 am

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i have his phone number...we've only talked once. it was very uncomfortable. XD really he couldnt think of much to say....and neither could i....XD


I forgot to mention this, but I would also recommend you avoid calling him even as a couple. My ex-girlfriend and I never called each other during the 5 months we were together with exception of about 2 emergency situations simply because we felt more comfortable using mail, Live Messenger and SMS. Most people seem to think couples NEED to call each other regularly, but if neither of you really needs it there's no point in doing so.



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25 Dec 2009, 4:27 pm

great memory! then :)

what sort of stuff would we do on internet cam? tbh, i hate intenret cams...make me feel so watched...and i'm not up for being skanky or seeing anything pervy happening on one....

i will have friends. he's probably coming to my summer camp. :)


really? no calling? id like to at least get used to his voice and stuff....just to make meeting less awkward. but yeah, i dotn really desire to call people much XD



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25 Dec 2009, 6:06 pm

Salonfilosoof wrote:
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i have his phone number...we've only talked once. it was very uncomfortable. XD really he couldnt think of much to say....and neither could i....XD


I forgot to mention this, but I would also recommend you avoid calling him even as a couple. My ex-girlfriend and I never called each other during the 5 months we were together with exception of about 2 emergency situations simply because we felt more comfortable using mail, Live Messenger and SMS. Most people seem to think couples NEED to call each other regularly, but if neither of you really needs it there's no point in doing so.


^^ Salonfilosoof I've fixed the quote with what Spazzergasm.

Anyway, that's awesome to hear that he might he might be coming to your summer camp, good luck for the both of you (that's a heck of a wait though.. lol).

Just think of a way you both work on towards each others relationship :) also it works both ways too, otherwise it wouldn't really work out.

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25 Dec 2009, 9:33 pm

:(.......bad news

apparently his friend i told, went and asked him my "ratings"...and he gave me a 7 as a friend and 2 for romantic.....those are terrible ratings! i dont think he likes me.


thanks for being so helpful, though!



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26 Dec 2009, 4:48 pm

Look on the bright side, at least he gives a high rating as friends and the good news is he is still talking to you :)
I'm half and half not even sure if im together with my girl or we still friends so im confused myself and its been an emotional rollercoaster for me... :(
Anyways, I guess its more searching time or work on your dreams??
Unfortunelately romance sucks and it is really hard to deal with indeed and especially find the right one, maybe you will find the right one for you one day until it eventually comes.


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26 Dec 2009, 4:55 pm

Spazzergasm wrote:
apparently his friend i told, went and asked him my "ratings"...and he gave me a 7 as a friend and 2 for romantic.....those are terrible ratings! i dont think he likes me.


Did he also say WHY he only gives you a 2 for romance? Considering your photograph I can't imagine it's your looks.....



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26 Dec 2009, 8:13 pm

superboyian, i hope you can sort it out. :(. maybe just ask her what's going on? like, if you guys are friends or more, or what....

well i asked him about it, and apparently he thought it was a high rating...XD and it was lowered cuz im an internet friend. he seemed sorry and stuff, so that's ok. and i got such a low romantic one cuz...he doesnt like me. :/. it seemed like he might have said he did...he jokingly was asking what id do if my rating was a 10....i dunno, maybe he just doesnt want anyone knowing....who knows anymore? :S
well he doesnt think im that hott. XD but that's ok i guess, cuz he isnt either. XD