02 Feb 2010, 9:51 am
And I think your criteria are 50% perfect. That is what it's all about: someone who loves you as you are.
The other half? Someone you are willing to love and accept as they are
One more important modifier to that one.. ability to recognize the other's love and acceptance!
Like all those stereotypical bits where the woman is saying "you never show me that you love me!" and the man is going "but.. but.. I change the oil in your car, why can't you see that I do that because I love you?"
(Although I am kinda starting to think.. I make all these rationalizations about the nature of people, and what I think motivates people, but I'm not a normal person and Kris isn't a normal person, so it's entirely possible that none of the things that I think about people could really hold..
)Smart, really need them to understand what I'm saying as it usually makes sense but people don't understand the words or context all the time.
Funny, I like to laugh and make others laugh.
Attractive, if I can't stand looking at them I won't be happy and neither will they if they can't stand to look at me.
Shorter than me, not needed but a perfect someone would probably be just a little shorter than me at least.
Nerdy and weird, that way we have more in common
Isn't allergic or disliking of animals.
Likes mature things when appropriate for both of us.
Having the same standards and moral beliefs as I do is a plus but they don't have to be exactly the same for everything.
Likes cooking healthy well balanced meals everyday 3x a day. Not at all necessary but would be a big plus b/c although I can cook none of it is healthy
And it has nothing to do with making a woman cook, I'm fine doing it but it wouldn't be healthy or balanced... Oh and it has to taste good that'll be the hardest part from my experience with healthy well balanced food.. 
God, and I thought Tim Tex's criteria was bad..
I actually thought KingofKaboom's list was fairly reasonable.. Especially since the more superfluous ones weren't deal-breakers and most of the other ones seemed like restatements of compatibility.
Edited because I used the wrong name..
I was replying to what hale_bopp said about KingofKaboom's list, just said it wrong..
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02 Feb 2010, 10:27 am
Smart, really need them to understand what I'm saying as it usually makes sense but people don't understand the words or context all the time.
Funny, I like to laugh and make others laugh.
Attractive, if I can't stand looking at them I won't be happy and neither will they if they can't stand to look at me.
Shorter than me, not needed but a perfect someone would probably be just a little shorter than me at least.
Nerdy and weird, that way we have more in common
Isn't allergic or disliking of animals.
Likes mature things when appropriate for both of us.
Having the same standards and moral beliefs as I do is a plus but they don't have to be exactly the same for everything.
Likes cooking healthy well balanced meals everyday 3x a day. Not at all necessary but would be a big plus b/c although I can cook none of it is healthy
And it has nothing to do with making a woman cook, I'm fine doing it but it wouldn't be healthy or balanced... Oh and it has to taste good that'll be the hardest part from my experience with healthy well balanced food.. It is supposed to be perfect isn't it? I somehow doubt I'll get someone perfect. In fact I doubt anyone ever will, I imagine best case scenario, I meet someone who has atleast one of these maybe two I'm not expecting to find anyone with all these. So long as they are attractive and we like each other I see no reason why it couldn't work.
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02 Feb 2010, 10:31 am
And I think your criteria are 50% perfect. That is what it's all about: someone who loves you as you are.
The other half? Someone you are willing to love and accept as they are
One more important modifier to that one.. ability to recognize the other's love and acceptance!
Like all those stereotypical bits where the woman is saying "you never show me that you love me!" and the man is going "but.. but.. I change the oil in your car, why can't you see that I do that because I love you?"
(Although I am kinda starting to think.. I make all these rationalizations about the nature of people, and what I think motivates people, but I'm not a normal person and Kris isn't a normal person, so it's entirely possible that none of the things that I think about people could really hold..
)Smart, really need them to understand what I'm saying as it usually makes sense but people don't understand the words or context all the time.
Funny, I like to laugh and make others laugh.
Attractive, if I can't stand looking at them I won't be happy and neither will they if they can't stand to look at me.
Shorter than me, not needed but a perfect someone would probably be just a little shorter than me at least.
Nerdy and weird, that way we have more in common
Isn't allergic or disliking of animals.
Likes mature things when appropriate for both of us.
Having the same standards and moral beliefs as I do is a plus but they don't have to be exactly the same for everything.
Likes cooking healthy well balanced meals everyday 3x a day. Not at all necessary but would be a big plus b/c although I can cook none of it is healthy
And it has nothing to do with making a woman cook, I'm fine doing it but it wouldn't be healthy or balanced... Oh and it has to taste good that'll be the hardest part from my experience with healthy well balanced food.. God, and I thought Tim Tex's criteria was bad..
I actually thought hale_bopp's list was fairly reasonable.. Especially since the more superfluous ones weren't deal-breakers and most of the other ones seemed like restatements of compatibility.
02 Feb 2010, 11:15 am
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03 Feb 2010, 12:31 pm
I think my ideal partner would basically be Ford Prefect... he knows where his towel is
03 Feb 2010, 1:33 pm
PlatedDrake
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03 Feb 2010, 1:58 pm
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04 Feb 2010, 10:24 pm
My perfect partner does not exist. Period. However, if she did (yeah, I have time to waste):
1) She would be attractive and super intelligent.
2) She would love math, music, and cartoons, and like to read.
3) She would have a great memory.
4) This is the most important one - She would be kind, extremely compassionate, and have almost perfect morals(HONESTY, please be HONEST!!).
5) No sarcasm. I hate - loathe sarcasm.
6) She would rather cry than get angry; so I can at least help her. (See - I told you she doesn't exist! ha!)
7) She would be healthy. (not perfect condition, but please, no 300 pounders...that is just unhealthy; it leads to diabetes, cancer, back problems, etc...)
She would not be materialistic (that rules out 99.9% of American women).
9) I don't care about height, and since I'm short (5'5" tall), she wouldn't either.
10) No passive aggressive behavior - I'm trying to eliminate that from my personality too.
11) She wouldn't smoke, do drugs (pot is okay, I guess but I would not prefer it), or drink (socially is okay).
Enjoying the shopping list, people? lol I told you she doesn't exist!! ! Oh, it does go on... (btw, this is another reason I'm single and 36 years old. I have pretty much given up looking, and I know I will die a miserable old man)
12) If I insulted her, I would apologize and hope that she can understand that I'm not perfect; however, I would not use verbal/physical abuse on her, and I expect the same from her. (Perhaps I should get a cat - I might have better luck lol)
13) She must NOT BE ALREADY MARRIED OR HAVE A BOYFRIEND!! !
14) Oh, I don't believe in cheating for any &*(^&*(&*( ) reason, and she shouldn't either. If the relationship doesn't work out, both of us will get help or talk it out; if that doesn't work - then we will break up as friends. You see, if she cheats once - she is out the door without any reason.
15) If she has kids, they had better be well raised, and no more than one kid. (I cannot handle more than that - my fault, but at least I'm honest.)
16) Who died and made me boss? Do I claim to deserve this perfect woman? HELL NO!! ! She doesn't exist, people - and I'm seriously a horrid, old troll who lives alone and is poor! This poll asked who your perfect woman would be, and I'm angrily answering. Thbbbbbbbbbbb!
17) She would have a high pitched voice - I'm sorry...my frequency sensitivity again. Another downfall of my AS.
Well, folks, that is just a list for starters. I hope you enjoyed reading some of my misery and anger in making this list, and that it helped you in making yours. I can promise you, that in real life, I am kind, compassionate, and moral - but obviously, I have a bad temper that I honestly desperately try not to take out on people, but just on words and ideas. To the right woman, I am loyal and faithful, and even though I'm nowhere near perfect, I have been called a gentleman by most. Good luck to you all in finding your perfect mate. My luck ran out years ago.
05 Feb 2010, 1:07 am
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