Who here has a successful relationship with an NT?

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My boyfriend is non-autistic, and we have a pretty successful relationship. We're moving in together soon.

I never liked the term "NT" but always took it to be synonymous with "people without AS". Taken literally, the term isn't even sensible; for one thing, autism, along with many developmental disorders and mental illnesses, has an incomplete theory of causation.

I have had a relationship with an NT, but I wouldn't call it successful (she cheated on me).

The relationship lasted 2 years, from 1997-1999.

I'm at the 8 month mark with my girlfriend, who I wouldn't go so far as to call "normal", but she seems absent of any neurological anomalies...

I met her online, and I'd say that the initial contact via email, text and IM went a long way towards helping me make a good impression, since by the time she met me in person I'd already charmed her enough that she wasn't about to be put off by a few social quirks. I happen to think that this is a good pattern for Aspie men to follow as far as meeting women goes, since such a common complaint is being passed over before we're really understood, making a good impression before actually meeting in person using text based communications would seem to make sense. My girl was knowledgeable enough to tag me as an Aspie before I even mentioned it just based on a few things I said (she's in the medical field), so that potential issue was negated before it even came up, though in the past I've simply explained that I tend to be introverted and have a limited tolerance for socializing, and that's done me just fine.

For the record, this would be serious relationship #4 for me, all of them NT, with a bunch of flings in between, I don't believe I've ever dated another Aspie, and frankly I'm not sure I would want to, one of us in the house is difficult enough to deal with .

Sorry it took so long to reply!

Sean (my bf) and I have a rule: He always has to be clear about things. I cannot guess the meaning of phrases the way he can and I can't tell if he means, "Yes, that's bothering me" when he says, "Don't worry about it." I have to do the same thing. This actually works better for him too because even for NT's that constant guessing game is hard. It makes a relationship easier when all the people's expectations are laid out. He also knows quite a bit about the autism spectrum so he knows to be patient with me, and he's good at calming me when I have a meltdown. Since his social skills are excellent, he can also help explain to me how to understand people. He thinks my way of doing things is better, and he says it's actually been the easiest relationship he's ever had.

It also helps if you're in love with each other.

i'm in a relationship with a girl that isnt exactly neurotypical but close enough she has a iq of what i estimate to be 150. and yes it realy does help if you love eachother. i'm pretty sure this aplies to every relationship though.