Race Relations and Love

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I am in the middle of a divorce right now, but my dying marriage is to a black woman. She was born in and lived in Richmond, Virginia until she was 14 or so. I was born and raised my whole life in Canon City, Colorado. Talk about polar opposites (and yet, even now we still get along so well...so I don't understand why we are divorcing). I remember the first time that I saw her. I thought that I had no chance with the hot chick because I am about as white as they come (to borrow a stereotype). I don't really see a problem with interracial relationships. I have had a few here and there. Kinda wish I could save this one, but no need to beat a dead horse, so to speak. To be honest, it would do people some good to at least DATE another person from another race (if even to experience their culture). There are just some things that you would have to learn to put up with. Sorry if I got off topic.

No, definitely on topic.

I just finished the episode where John Safran is trying to come to terms with his dead mother's wishes (and the wishes of other Jews) that John marry a Jew.

Very fascinating. My mother essentially did not want me to marry anyone, least of all someone who wasn't 100% Swedish.

Probably a lot of people whose parents or grandparents migrated from somewhere else experience this.

Surely she told you why she was divorcing you?

To put it lightly we had a big fight over her infidelity. We are both in the Army, and she basically told me that from the night that she got to her first duty station that she was sleeping with other guys.
We were each other's first time. The next thing I know is that she is telling me she wants to experience sleeping with a lot of guys and have fun. I lost my temper and went off on her (which I NEVER do), and told her that she could be a scarlett woman if she wanted, but I wanted no part of it. The next thing I know she says she changed her mind, and then she switches again to wanting a divorce again. At first she wouldn't make up her mind, but it all boils down to her wanting to be able to sleep with every
"swingin' d&#k" she can open her legs for. I never slept with another woman while we were together. Guess I am cursed in that aspect. I just want to find myself a nice Aspie girl with similar interests to date, and see what it is like to date another Aspie, and hopefully someone that is a little more faithful.

That sucks. Sorry to hear it didn't work out, but it really sounds like you had a lucky escape!

Oh well. I am kind of on the lookout for an Aspie lady now. I would like to see how our relationship would turn out. Besides, who knows how far it might progress?

Many of us seem to regard "Aspie" as the equivalent of an ethnicity.

I know that it came out like that, but I didn't mean it to. It is just that sometimes my words get essed up in terms of love issues.
I think I meant to say that I would like to meet and date a woman that has Asperger's Syndrome too. Oh well, can't please 'em all.

Just because she's not native, doesn't mean she can't speak good English. As for the accent - it can be acquired. My english accent is a bit weird, but not incorrect... If I would live in some specific place, I guess I would fit it to the area. My phonetics teacher in University spoke Hebrew like a native, although I think he came to Israel as an adult - because he's familiar with phonology and all that. Most Israelis won't recognise he's not native.

Of course, most people don't have this ability, but it can be taught - I mean, if her accent bothers her, she can be taught how to pronounce it better. Has to learn theoretical phonetics (just a bit, enough for Australian English), differences from her native language, and practice and mimic. It's possible. Trust me, I live in Israel, I'm familiar with foreign accents turning to sound native
(Some Russian people even adopt our R sound - if they can pronounce it, than everything is possible, really...)

As for mjs82 use of language - once she gets used to living in Australia, and to his expressions, it will get better, I think.

Well it's just an unusual situation for me, I'm not too worried about it. I've gone out with a Korean girl before, but she came here as a baby so the culturallanguage issues weren't as strong.

I think it could be here personality more than anything. She seems to be only interested in accountancy!

I'd sing her the Monty Python Crimson Permanent Insurance song but she's wouldn't get it

I am not saying she cannot speak good English. My bf isn't 'native' either and his is perfect. All I am saying is that a strong accent can make it very difficult to understand someone and personally I would not go for someone who had one.

Yo mucho gusto las mestizas!

Yes, her personality may sound a problem. But give it a chance if she's nice, I think. Perhaps you'll get her interested in something...

If she doesn't understand Monty Python that's another situation - if it's because of the language, perhaps it'll improve. If she just doesn't understand Monty Python, stay away!! !
I actually "tested" some girls (not saying they would want me if I wanted them) with checking their response to some kinds of humour. May sound stupid, but if someone doesn't like Monty Python, there's something wrong here.


I accept that, wasn't necessarily contradicting you. I have some friends with strong foreign accents, yet it would be difficult for me do date one. Not a racist issue, just sounds weird to my ears. That's like rejecting someone because she has an annoying voice to me. Not ruling that out, but if you're talking about first impression, that's a problem for me as well...

I just think that if she's new to the language, I would worry less about the accent. If she's been around for some time and still has a strong accent, well, I understand you.

Take her for a test drive but make NO promise to buy....AND NO SEX!! !

I have been in bad involvements, both with white Australians (except one was ostensibly Eurasian due to being ostensibly 1/4 Chinese). I would most want now to be with an Asian woman of some kind (I like Japanese or Chinese the most, but Thai would do), preferably one who is at least moderately tolerant of Asperger's types. This could be my adaptation going haywire.

I've noticed that a lot of the women I have met in Asia do not have any idea of AS and are not as open as western women when it comes to AS. Maybe Western educated women are different