Should aspies hook up with other aspies?

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Sometimes. A lot of times I find my fellow AS people to be more than I can bear- Their narrow obsessions, interrupting, frequent non-stop monologues etc. can make them a trial. Right now, most of my friends are NT, mostly because I meet few AS people. Still, there are a lot of aspies that I like. I probably have different interests than the majority of aspies. As for this site, a lot of this site is young guys who are often heavily into computers, role-playing games, science fiction and action movies and the like.
Still, being around the female aspy can be a beautiful experience. I remember all of those times in my younger years having these endless sweet but utterly naive conversations, like talking to a clever but limited four-year-old.

aspies should date aspies until you find the aspie for you.
Go to what is considered "nerdy" group activities such as astronomers clubs, science get togethers, nature center activities, etc... AVOID bars, nightclubs, and "social" clubs - concentrate on clubs that have a common interest such as bird watching, etc... not places where there is constant lust, drugs, alcohol, gossip,backstabbing. If you have the nerve, get it around the office that you're looking to meet a "nice" guy or girl. You'd be surprised how many older individuals have lonely nieces or nephews that are shear knockouts in appearance but they are homebodies. Stay away from NT's . We just don't have the skills to be their mates, at least not for a lifetime. The only thing you'll get from an NT is insult added to injury, more mileage on your butt, and maybe even a child...who they won't support. They'll kill whatever esteem you have or you'll end up killing them in a aspie rage...some of us get like that. The other NT's are unmoved by NT insults because they are the same way.
NT's rob most of us out of our savings in exchange for the "promise" of love. Then their other NT mates rob them. Date people of like mind and character. Don't turn your nose up at other races, religions, or ethnicities...BUT they HAVE to be aspie. That quiet little mail bride from Korea will take advantage of you too "if she is NT". Foreign NT"S learn fast and will also "leave you in the dust."

First of all, I think there are many aspies out there who just don't know they are. Or you don't know they are.

Second, I think that if someone has too trouble and anxiety with dating, it's okay for him to search for an aspie partner. Even if it doesn't come out well - it would be easier, and after that, perhaps help him dating NT girls later.

I support Aspies hooking up with other Aspies, knowing couples here in Edinburgh, where both partners are Asperger's/autistic. A friend of mine who's an Aspie was dumped yesterday by his partner who was an Aspie, and is very jealously angry about it. But I know two other couples who have been by all means very successful. Then again, assuming the biological inevitability that the male has to initiate, we're talking about guys who are high functioning and though they're Aspies have the social skill in the area of relationships. Which sadly isn't me.

I always make the first move.

It's finding one that is interesting that is the hard part.

Well since meeting non-NT guys I have never actually been able to find an NT attractive, and just see all their bad points and the fact that none of them want to date me.

I would rather date an autistic person, any day. Most aspies I know benefit more from having a Non-NT partner.

The problem is I think theres different Autistic types and dating someone of a different "type" can be like dating an NT but not as bad (personal incompatability, different traits etc)

I know several autistic guys that I feel I could date, like have the feeling their the same.

I have also dated two guys online who are aspie. One was extremely different type to me and it was like dating a less-extreme NT with Autistic negative traits but I couldn't enjoy the positive ones. The other was more like me and I enjoyed dating but he wasn't really what I was looking for and the relationship was dying so we decided to break up so he can go with this other Aspie, she's really good for him and we get along but I haven't spoken with him in a while (miss him though)

I'd rather date an NT who is majoring in psychology,and knows more of the Asperger
symptom.

like talking to a clever but limited four-year-old.

We shouldn't seek each other out, but we shouldn't avoid people because they are aspies either

ahh depends...i usually like NTs better, opposites atract. I am a very quiet person but I can't stand dating quiet guys! It's too awkward, so I usually go for LOUD charismatic obnoxious NT guys! It depends on what you like

I tend to be unnatracted to aspergers males because I am not attacted to intense personalities.

I tend to enjoy being with laid back people as it does not increase my anxiety.