Is it possible to be partly asexual?

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I do not think the dissenters on the thread are saying that it is not possible to have a lower libido or be asexual. It was an argument of semantics. Asexuality means lack of desire for sex, so if you are remotely interested it is not that, but merely a somewhat lower libido.

Which is fine really, although hard to judge if one has never had sex to begin with.

@morbid miss

if it's about the terms, you're right. thx.

yeah, i kinda wondered about how one could really know w/o any experience. i decided to assume it's like how i know i have no desire to work on car engines even tho i haven't done it: i don't think about it ever, unless i have a broken car in front of me. and then, i still don't think about personally checking things out...

Where and how?

i used to edit books, mostly nonfiction, and in the course of that, i read about master's and johnson's research. it was probably in the late 50s or early 60s. books were sold about it, they're very well known. i don't recall their *exact* methods, but i think it was a combo of self-reports over many years from volunteers, plus actually recording stuff like hormonal levels and so on.

in lieu of googling myself (i read it all years ago), i'm fairly sure if you google you can get a more exact answer to this. they're famous in the field of sex research, or were anyway.

Men that let their sex drive control them tend to make really stupid decisions. And while most men at least only make stupid decisions in that one particular area of thinking, I know that I'm so unattractive that there's no way any woman would want to have sex with me, and I'd end up turning into a monster... probably either a serial rapist or a pedophile. I'm not saying it's bad in general, just that I personally have to keep it under control or I become a danger to myself and others.

But there are still differences. Companionship and affection are the two things I need. Like you said, companionship can be provided by friends (whether they're male or female). But the affection is the hard part, because I crave a deeper affection than even my own family can provide. The only way I could get the affection I need is through a romantic relationship.

you mean going off half cocked

Firstly men are perfectly capable of controlling their sexual urges. For anyone to say otherwise is like giving all males a green light to act like sociopaths with no regard to other's feelings and safety. Also, rape and pedophilia have very little to do with lack of sex. Rape is about taking sex simply because you want it whether the other person does or not and is not limited to males who do not get it willingly (or even males for that matter, it does not take a penis to rape someone). In fact many serial rapists have wives or girlfriends. Pedophilia is about being attracted to children. If you do not find children attractive then simply not having sex will not make you a Pedophile.

They have a lot of treatments for BPD now that they did not have before. While Meds are not for everyone, if you do have BPD instead of "normal" depression then I would suggest trying to find one that works for you. The back and forth of that particular issue is just too overwhelming to handle for pretty much everyone I have ever known to have it. (Which honestly is a frightening number of people...)

I feel totally half asexual

I wouldn't say that; what is the natural way to behave is not necessarily what is the right way to behave. In defense of men I'll conjecture that at the very least the great majority of us are capable of behaving in the right fashion, in this case.

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I did google it and did not find an answer so far. I am skeptical that the continuum informatively represents, on a linear scale, how gay or straight we are or how interested we are in sex. In a continuum between 0 and 1 in terms of straightness, what would it mean to be pi/4 straight?

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I get horny from time to time and there are some girls I fantasize about but in the end, I can easily live without sex. I mean since I'm a virgin, it's not like I really know what I'm missing anyways. My body doesn't really need sex that much since it doesn't know anything about it. I feel I maybe asexual in the sense that I don't need physical sex but at the same time, I'm not asexual because I am very much attracted to females and there are some girls I just want to grab and do stuff to without it being sex. I really want to make out with one instead, that's what I'm aiming for; having actual sex right away would be too far. I'd only have sex if the girl really wanted it. There's too many risks with intercourse and it doesn't seem to be worth it.

My husband is like this. He's kind of Aspie, more OCD and he's somewhat asexual. It doesn't really bother me that much.