She may or may not be lying, but it's a bit crass to accuse her of lying with no evidence of it!
What is clear is that she has designs to be close to the man - quite probably romantically. She is interested in him.
However since you two are, as far as I can see, not even exclusively dating, and your relationship has not been discussed yet between you two, she is doing nothing wrong by wooing him in whatever way works for her.
I think the guy may not see his relationship to you in the same way you do. It is time to tell him that the way he is spending time with her troubles you, and that you are interested in him and thought he was interested in you two. And you now get the impression that he is far too invested in this other woman for this to be true. Tell him how you feel about this. Do not speak badly of the other woman. If he believes her, you will only sound like a b***h if you do.
If he values you and agrees to be in a committed relationship with you, then it is reasonable for you to request that he include you or limit the time he spends with her. But as long as this isn't the case, you have no handhold.
To be clear, as long as you don't say anything, you are letting her take him away from you.
This is my interpretation (I may of course be wrong.)
27 Feb 2010, 1:13 pm
