Gorgeous girl @ work - Help!

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I really don't think I'm being hard on him. I'll admit, I've taking needless jabs at certain posters in the past, but he's only harming himself by obsessing over one unattainable woman. What he could do if he wanted to is befriend her, pick apart her brain, and learn to attract women like her. It certainly helped me making female friends, even online female friends, and getting their perspective on things.

Thanks for the advice guys, however: -

First day back at work today and when I talk to her I feel like shooting myself in the head at the moment, I know that's probably not appropriate talk on here but it's the truth. I feel like crying at work sometimes.

It's like everything I do and everyone I talk to reminds me that I'm different and a weirdo; all those little excentricities I thought were mine are now just due to a developmental brain disorder from white matter damage in my brain. Basically the hard-wiring in my brain is f****d.

I know this is really negative and I'm not saying it fishing for sympathy but it's how I feel right now.

I've got an appointment with a specialist for an hour on Wednesday thank god, otherwise I'm not sure how I'll cope.

I know there's people worse off than me but right now this Aspergers stuff is getting me really depressed - I don't mean any offence to anyone else, having a bad week, month and year so far.

Facepalm x5.

1) AS isn't really a disorder. It's more like a kind of personality.
2) Would you have felt like this if you'd never been diagnosed?
3) Yes, you're different... Just like everyone else. Survey the territory of your personality, and work with it to emphasize whats good, avoid some weak points, and focus on improving a few specific weak points. It's just like anyone else would. Your brain is not f****d. While you've got some problems in life that you want to deal with, you're making it out like it's worse than it is. Or that there's no way things can change for the better.
4) What exactly is so cool about this girl that, by not having her, your life is so crappy? ...And how well do you know her, exactly? You, sir, need a dose of perspective, as you seem to be obsessing. She's great, but she's not that great.

You've heard what we've said, but seem to have rigorously filtered out all the positive, potential-laden stuff, and payed close attention to end-of-the-world scenarios.

My suggested treatment: Spiff yourself up, maybe get a new outfit, get a nice picture taken, check out some dating services, and start meeting people. And/Or man up and invite that lady to come with you for something fun(yes, I know she has a boyfriend).