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10 Mar 2010, 4:10 pm

if she is hotter than your last girlfriend guage by how many points 1-10 scale and take the difference against how many years you have know your friend. if its positive you go for it if negetive stay with the friend



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10 Mar 2010, 6:58 pm

Yeah... After reading your guys's post it does seem like I may be a rebound. Also getting into the fact that she rarely talks to me irl and then starts messaging me on myspace and facebook asking to hang out and how she is interested in my theorys on an ideal government to to ours being flawed... And after writing that something is up. My friend Z also says that the girl apparentally still loves/has an infatuation with my friend so idk.

Also age is a matter to as she just turned 14 and from what i understand she is still is in 8th grade (just found this out today about the grade) and I almost 17 in a few months which means I would be 18 before she is 15

thanks for helping I did not realize how weird and unbelievible this all was.



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10 Mar 2010, 10:10 pm

It all depends on how long it's been since they broke up. If it hasn't been long, it could mean she just wants to make you jealous. If enough time has passed and it's okay with your friend, then go for it. It can't hurt anything. I, personally, try to stay away from these relationships. They can cause trouble.



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10 Mar 2010, 11:39 pm

Xenu wrote:
Yeah... After reading your guys's post it does seem like I may be a rebound. Also getting into the fact that she rarely talks to me irl and then starts messaging me on myspace and facebook asking to hang out and how she is interested in my theorys on an ideal government to to ours being flawed... And after writing that something is up. My friend Z also says that the girl apparentally still loves/has an infatuation with my friend so idk.

Also age is a matter to as she just turned 14 and from what i understand she is still is in 8th grade (just found this out today about the grade) and I almost 17 in a few months which means I would be 18 before she is 15

thanks for helping I did not realize how weird and unbelievible this all was.


Run! Now! You're describing an episode from my own past nearly verbatim minus the whole underage thing, right down to the sudden interest on social networking sites. I was lucky enough to be able to repair the damage with my friend, but it took the better part of a year and after me the girl in question dated another of his/my friends, in each case molding herself to fit what she thought we wanted in a girl. It's just not worth it.


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11 Mar 2010, 12:43 am

Xenu wrote:
Yeah... After reading your guys's post it does seem like I may be a rebound. Also getting into the fact that she rarely talks to me irl and then starts messaging me on myspace and facebook asking to hang out and how she is interested in my theorys on an ideal government to to ours being flawed... And after writing that something is up. My friend Z also says that the girl apparentally still loves/has an infatuation with my friend so idk.

Also age is a matter to as she just turned 14 and from what i understand she is still is in 8th grade (just found this out today about the grade) and I almost 17 in a few months which means I would be 18 before she is 15

thanks for helping I did not realize how weird and unbelievible this all was.


Ugh- i am glad you are using your head (the right one). Don't be with this girl. She is just a child, and look at the history. Plus, I just don't believe it is cool to start dating someone's ex right after they broke up. It is usually OK a year or so later or after your friend has married someone else, but that is just an awkward situation- you couldn't hang out with both of them together while you dated her, could you?
Anyway, sounds like you have the right idea so I will shut up.



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11 Mar 2010, 9:33 am

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Steer clear of the girl but tell your friend what's going on. I may be old-fashioned but if he had sex with her and then she's going to hit on you, his friend, that's kind of cheap. AND she just may be doing this to hurt him. Who knows? . Find a nice, NEW girl and make her your own. 8)



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11 Mar 2010, 10:04 am

It could be trouble, I wouldn't take the risk.


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13 Mar 2010, 11:26 pm

Xenu wrote:
Anyways what should I do? Ask her out or just ignore her hitting on me because of my friend? (I usually do not realize when somebody hits on me but this is painfully obvious)


Ignore her. It'll drive her up a wall even more, but you don't want nor need this type of relationship. She's probably in an emotional state and potentially looking to harm your friend emotionally.

Find someone else.