Dating another person on the spectrum vs dating a NT

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I heard an interview with Tony Attwood where he said Aspies in romantic relationships tend to go one of two ways, either with other Aspies or with people who are on the other extreme. People who are SO empathic that they really can "get into the Aspie mind." When my husband was getting tested, one of the questionaires was scored so that if you got over 32 (I think it was 32...it was around there anyway), you qualified as AS. The "normal/average" score was a 15. Just for fun and a sense of solidarity, I took the test too. He scored a 38; I scored a 6. He says I "get" him more than anyone else he's ever met. Actually one of his recurring jokes is pretend-yell at me "Get out of my head!!"

Also, keep in mind that some definitions of "NT" can vary.

would i date a fellow Aspie or an NT? at this point, i think i would date either, as i have no experience with dating. Though i did find one girl that tolerates me and actually seems to like me for me, she has no interest in dating though. To my knowledge she is a NT. I haven't had any good experiences with the fem Aspies i have known.

well i am only 17 and i have not had a lot of dating expericnce.
But i am currently going out with a guy who has Aspeger just like me and we have been going out 8 months. I met him through a support group that we are both in.
I think that any relationship is hard and true aspy realtionships may be harder if one or both have aspeger but it is all worth while if you love the person you are with. Don't you think?

I think that it doesn't not matter if you date a aspy, a non aspy or even an animal, as long as you love eachother then thats all there is.

I couldn't have said this better yourself.

And guys, if you prefer other Aspies, don't let the numbers game get to you. Just keep pressing on until you find a good one.

I don't think its very healthy dating an animal

Yeah, dating an animal is a waste of money. You don't really have to bother with taking them out on a date. If you get bitten that means "no".

On one hand dating an aspie is nice because you may understand each other better. On the other hand dating an NT can give you a partner that can do most of the talking.

true, true...

My opinions are not all NT's a problem-free people. There are some NT's who are drug addicts, alcoholics, ex-convicts, gamblers, and have a host of other problems. Be careful of the people you choose and don't assume things too much. Get to know the person and don't jump too fast into a relationship. These are my suggestions about AS/NT relationships.

But in my case, I am an AS person who is looking for a physically attractive bad girl NT type. This is my suggestion and opinion.

animals???? why? who came up with that idea?

can someone pm me about aspys and high school

I can honestly say, online I've dated a few males on the spectrum, mostly AS, so far mostly disasters. There is only one male that I've dated on the spectrum that I seem to do well with and he is HFA. He fits well in with me and my sons who are also on the spectrum, just been hard due to the distance... I'm in Canada, he's in Australia.

I would prefer dating an NT for the benefit of increased social insight, and my past two girlfriends were both NT as far as I can tell. I consider myself open to dating someone with AS, but I am not going to go out of my way to find women with AS for the sake of dating.

It all depends on the person.

Currently, dating a guy who's also ASD and it's by far the healthiest relationship I've had. But we challenge each other to go beyond our boundaries. We could easily settle in an easy routine where we hardley interact with the outside world, but we don't allow ourselves to go there.

I think the biggest bonus is that he really gets my quirks because we're so similar. I was married to an NT, and he never understood me like my boyfriend does. To me, it's all about chemistry.