Wanting to be held?

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25 Mar 2010, 5:27 am

You can't swim either? : (
(I never really learned. Haven't swam for many years now)

The next best thing coming up: *big, fuzzy e-hug*

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25 Mar 2010, 6:09 am

GrimmRomance wrote:

Good to see, I'm not the only one with a sore romantic heart. XD
I might be naive, but I'm not willing to give up my rosy spectacles.
Neither will you two (now that you've confessed, I'm forcing you to stay in my army of hopeless romantics!!)
It's our party, and we'll sigh if we want to?

...Gosh I'm an idealist this evening. Swell.

I'm ready to take over the world - I will of course be defeated, all idealists are - but oh well, at least I'll make history for the worst attempt of reaching world domination.

Sure, why not?
An army of hopeless romantics it is, then. *sigh*

Reminded me of my highbrow academic friend who's always asserting that he'll "go out in a blaze of Glory!"

In addition: I am a horrendous swimmer. I barely even float, density be damned.

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25 Mar 2010, 8:40 am

PLA wrote:

Sure, why not?
An army of hopeless romantics it is, then. *sigh*

Reminded me of my highbrow academic friend who's always asserting that he'll "go out in a blaze of Glory!"

In addition: I am a horrendous swimmer. I barely even float, density be damned.

Brilliant! We've now got two soldiers. I of course will be the indisputable leader.
On with the horned helmets and we're ready!

Your friend can join us too, even if he's not a romantic, I like his attitude.

I can't float either. I choose to think of the whole concept as a mean hoax! Whenever I try to stay on top of the water, I always end up slooooowly sinking, whilst thinking to myself: "I don't think I'm doing it right." We'll leave the swimming to the fish! :fish:

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25 Mar 2010, 9:45 am

Aye aye. :salut:

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14 Jan 2011, 4:46 pm

I think I remember Temple Grandin saying she had a machine [used as part of work] which would touch her in a way that she didn't mind. Not sure if she had any sensory issues.

I have read that for autistics light touch, they don't like it where as being a bit firmer relaxes them and it is more acceptable - hence I wonder why people commonly report of autistic people that they can't be touched.

It is possible some may have some degree of allodynia, which is where the slightest touch or breeze etc is painful but I think that is rare. - I could believe it is more common in those with a diagnosis of autism though.

personally I like the feeling of the clothes on my skin when they are tighter, eg when my socks are pulled up etc - It helps me focus better.

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14 Jan 2011, 4:49 pm

Old thread is old. I'm still waiting for that hug though...

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14 Jan 2011, 5:18 pm

CerebralDreamer wrote:

I've spent a lot of time thinking about why I feel a relationship is so important, and it always comes back to the same thing. There are a lot of times I just want to be held, to know that somebody cares for me. It seems to be a big part of why I want a relationship.

It seems like I'm always gravitating towards these deeply physical, emotional relationships. When I find them, it's easier to cope. I become more alive and motivated than I was before.

Normally I hate being touched, but it's different in a relationship. There, I thrive on it.

I can totally relate to this. I can honestly say I've had more dreams that involved holding hands, or kissing a woman, or even just looking into a woman's eyes and seeing in them love and desire, than just about anything else.

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14 Jan 2011, 5:32 pm

tight clothes suck, but a nice tight hug would sure be nice.

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14 Jan 2011, 8:54 pm

auntblabby wrote:

temple grandin [or somebody] needs to invent a hug machine. i would pay good moolah for one. it would be an animated manikin-type of deal, with soft skin and hair. if they can make sex dolls, they sure as hell can make hug dolls for those of us who got the short end of the warm fuzzies stick.

LOL I WOULD PAY(2 IN THE BUSH)FOR THAT!! !!

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14 Jan 2011, 10:20 pm

CerebralDreamer wrote:

Same here but I hate sleeping alone to

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14 Jan 2011, 10:41 pm

CerebralDreamer wrote:

I feel very much the same as you. I love cuddling/snuggling, I don't know why many guys don't. :shrug:

Well, being held is not the most important part of a relationship for me, but I love the feeling (well, in theory). Somebody that loves you and cares about you, someone that you can share your life with, is what's very important to me.

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15 Jan 2011, 5:18 am

dunbots wrote:

CerebralDreamer wrote:

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Normally I hate being touched, but it's different in a relationship. There, I thrive on it.

I feel very much the same as you. I love cuddling/snuggling, I don't know why many guys don't. :shrug:

I agree, though I definitely have not-feeling-touchy moods. I miss holding and being held by someone I love far more than I miss sex. How stereotypically female of me?

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15 Jan 2011, 5:38 am

My little Autie is always hugging people. Yeah hugging and touch in general is good. I remember some Russian sailors asking me for directions and one guy put his arm around me while talking to me, its just their way. And I read that (it might have changed now though) you could visit cities in Russia and see soldiers walking around holding hands. It meant nothing to them other than friendship.

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