Mikelight wrote:
Taupey wrote:
I have been in a strange relationship where this man initiated it, told me that he liked me and led me to believe he really was interested, then he seems uninterested and distant. Then he acts like he is interested again. He has been going back and forth for months. As far as I'm concerned, he can go back and forth til Hell freezes over, but I'm done with him and his crap. Why can't people just say what they mean directly to you? Why do they play these stupid games?
I don't do that with people I date, but I do it with friends. I want them at a particular distance emotionally and not to get too physically friendly so if I start to see them getting closer i'll be a douche to them enough so that they remain at a certain place instead of getting closer. I'm just not ready to be close emotionally close with someone until I'm ready to do so. Maybe he's doing the same thing. Be blunt and ask him what's up.
I understand what you are saying. I have AS and I also put distance between myself and people whom I feel are trying to get too close, too fast. Its not always necessary to treat people in a bad way. And I don't care he can be a douche all he wants but he needs to do it somewhere else besides on my property where he has been doing all of this. If he doesn't want to be close, he needs to leave. He came uninvited in the first place. I don't want to get him sent to jail over this, I don't want him harmed in anyway and he is really taking advantage of that fact. People with AS and Autism have enough to deal with in this World, we really should not being fighting and turning on each other too. But what else can you do when someone crosses a line and refuses to leave? He's put me in this position where I either 1) allow him to continue violating my rights, invading my privacy or 2) call the authorities and have him removed and sent to jail. No doubt I will not call the authorities because I love him and I don't want to see him hurt in anyway in jail. I suppose I am trying more than anything to get him to realise that what he's doing is wrong, not acceptable behaviour and he needs to stop.
01 Apr 2010, 10:32 pm
