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05 Apr 2010, 4:42 pm

Or perhaps music.


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05 Apr 2010, 5:50 pm

Moog wrote:
Or perhaps music.


I agree, with the exception that music is not really a universal language,
but if love songs make you daydream and feel strong beautiful emotions
about someone (or even the idea of such a someone existing for you),
it may be limerence ... or yearning or some other of those subjective
experiences which we don't yet have the words nor technology to share precisely,
such as "what does a rainbow really look like to "Mr. Colorblind Person".

Maybe a song of limerence might be Young Turks by Rod Stewart. (***)
I remember a girl in high school said to me something like
"Stop playing that song (on tape), You Are Ruining It."
I am sure she meant she loved the song, and she seemed to hate me,
and didn't want to have anything in common with me,
and I assume that she did feel the same way about it,
and maybe others might also.

If not, like I said, people cannot feel exactly the same feeling ,
and there is no way to tell a rainbow to someone who can't see.

*** If you do not know where to find songs I mention , try searching youtube.



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06 Apr 2010, 1:14 am

I only think of exploiting the people I feel attracted to.



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06 Apr 2010, 6:58 am

Merle wrote:
Curious if there are other folks who may have a problem recognizing the feeling of being "in love". Potentially recognizing the missing emotional attachment only after the relationship is over.

Do you rationalize the feeling(s)? Fake it? Read romantic posts and potentially copy verbatim?

Or am I simply mistaken and everyone knows what it's like to feel love and to be in love?


What is love?

I believe I have felt it in the past. It ended horribly. Screw that.



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06 Apr 2010, 9:23 am

auntblabby wrote:
sinsboldly wrote:
well, is it love, or is it limerence?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence


what a great link :!:
all this time i was limerating instead of loving? gosh, what a mind-blower :(


this is why I post that link again and again and again. It really helped me! I see so many people posting on Love and Dating - the blind leading the deaf - and I post that link for guidance.

I mean we would hardly think we could drive a car or cook fabulous food without training or at least a cook book, why would we go into love with out a bit of a manual?

glad it could help, Aunt Blabby.

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06 Apr 2010, 2:26 pm

What is love? Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more...



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06 Apr 2010, 2:30 pm

[quote="Shebakoby"]What is love? Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more...[/quote

Oh god, not that again...


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06 Apr 2010, 2:30 pm

[quote="Shebakoby"]What is love? Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more...[/quote

Oh god, not that again...


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06 Apr 2010, 2:31 pm

Shebakoby wrote:
What is love? Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more...


Oh god, not that again... :roll: :roll:


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06 Apr 2010, 2:45 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:
Shebakoby wrote:
What is love? Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more...


Oh god, not that again... :roll: :roll:


Too late...

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15 Apr 2010, 8:30 pm

I mean, I think I know what love feels like, but I can't be certain that what I think of as love isn't just strong, long-term like, and that "love" is different for NTs...


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16 Apr 2010, 4:07 pm

It used to upset me that I had never found "true love" but now I am sort of numb to it. I have a little more idea why this is my fate, at least. I doubt I will ever be in love. Maybe in another life.



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16 Apr 2010, 6:01 pm

iceb wrote:
It is an awful mental illness that is best avoided if at all possible.


yeah but love isn't just something to describe the attachement between two "romantically involved" partners. its an emotion programmed into human beings (as well as programmed into some of the more sophisticated mammels) to keep us together: to ensure the survival of our species.

(the above might be stating the obvious... sorry)

yes i agree to some extent that this emotion can be a burden when things in life need to get done. i can't say i'm much of an expert on the subject of "reciprocated affections" but that's my take on it



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16 Apr 2010, 6:30 pm

I recognize this thread is about "romantic love," but when I think of love I think about my children. There is nothing I wouldn't do for them. I would give up my life in an instant if it was necessary to protect my kids. I have never had comparable feelings about a girl.



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16 Apr 2010, 8:29 pm

I really don't know, I've never had any reasons to be in love with anyone. When you have nobody, then there's nobody to love at all.


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16 Apr 2010, 8:35 pm

no


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