ways to beat loneliness?

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Would you be able to take care of all those cats?

As for me, I make lists of geographical features. I have a list of all the zip codes in the U.S. (that's over 40,000 entries, people!), plus FIPS codes, IATA airport codes, and some foreign postal codes.

Are all those cats yours

When i lived alone for 4 years, i would often play the computer (WoW to be exact) and have a movie running in the other room, and maybe some music in the computer background (needed some level of noise i guess you could say).

Have you looked on meetup.org?

I found one or two groups that deal with my interests that I'm going to try to attend.

You could probably start a "young adults asperger's" group; N.J. is a populated area.

Myself, I do battle the loneliness. I am trying new things, but I found out today that when I am trying to do too much. I have one good friend, and I had my first semi-meltdown in front of her. Gotta watch not to bite off more than I can chew.

I second the class suggestion. I was trying to find an art or college class but haven't found one that's a good match yet that can fit my work schedule.

Is this a romantic loneliness or a more general loneliness we are talking about here.

Well, without actual companionship the best route would be constant diversion. Video games, porn, beer, exercise, wandering around outside, studying, surfing the web, imaginary friend, blow up doll etc.

My username has 10 letters in it rather than four and the arrangement of the order of the letters is somewhat different than that. Still, it is admirable that you attempted to spell my awesome username properly, though the decision to say it on this thread seems a little bit random. For your future reference the correct way to spell my username is G-O-A-T-O-N-F-I-R-E.

having conversations with myself takes the sting out of loneliness. i imagine what it would be like to be the only person alive in the world, and i find this is oddly edifying.

I've found the best way to combat romantic loneliness was a feeling of hope.
When I started feeling like I was making progress, learning how to react better, talking to women and flirting more, it gave me a lot of hope, despite getting shot down.

I've also gone the video games route.... But that's just putting aside the feeling rather than addressing it directly. However, ways of blowing off steam also help... reason I suggest exercise, particularly outside where the sun can meet your skin.

How can you create that feeling of hope in an atmosphere of absolute hopelessness? I'd seriously love to know...

Yeah gaming is my primary thing... fantasy allows my brain to stop thinking about my predicament for a short time. Can't stand the sun though... even in the middle of winter, it feels like it's burning my skin... I much prefer a nice calm breeze at night, much more refreshing...

If you're going through a negative state, you can just tell yourself that the world is rotten and go into hermitage. :p

Your atmosphere is made, in large part, by your actions. Therefore, to change your atmosphere, try doing things you did not used to do. We've been over many generalities and details regarding this theme. Either way, no change in atmosphere will come from doing what you have been doing.

Assuming you augment your actions with a bit of research into how to do social things more effectively, as you try new things, try difficult things, practice, and fail, you will gain more experience to draw upon, and will find yourself improving.

I can relate. Personally, I'm amid a severe depression(unrelated to L&D), and I often find myself drowning out reality with things like reading, games, movies, music projects, etc. And I too have always preferred the night air as well, even since I was little.

However, there's a mountain of compelling evidence supporting the notion that sunlight-on-our-skin improves our mood and physical health. Thus, it's incredibly important for guys like us to transition our lives out into the sun.

Individuals like and millions of others who have AS or any form of autism,need to feel good about themselves.Getting rid of negative thoughts and most of all being outgoing.This is the only way to end loneliness.

I have an imaginary lover. LOL. It's true. Since you were so humble in asking I thought I would be honest. I don't think it's absolute hopelessness, by any means though. Twelve step groups are good for surrounding yourself with positive people who are trying to be well instead of sick... you probably qualify for something or the other. I don't know...it's kind of depressing to think about.

Online socialising is enough for me a lot of the time. I socialised more when I was younger but that was also before the internet existed (back in the stone age!)

I recommend virtual worlds but beware they can be addictive as well.

Also, doing things for charity groups can be rewarding and fulfill some social yearnings. Things based around goals or actions tend to be more structured and I think maybe better if you are unsure socially.

Volunteer at a food bank or soup kitchen or whatever you feel drawn to.

I have 3 cats (I've named them so yes, they're mine), and actually made it a game to catch the ferals in the neighborhood as I leave food out and they come around and visit (saves on the litter bills). They get a nice visit to the HSSV in order to get neutered/spayed. I think I got 20+ last year.

Online games for years (EQ -> DAoC -> WoW)
Some physical activity such as hiking, mountain biking or skiing

These days, snow boarding. Gonna be tough because the season is coming to an end. I suppose mountain biking/hiking/shooting comes back until I can break out the kayak.

Never thought of that. You are the alternate generous. I thought to myself as a child when I reach 16 lets give up my beloved aspie hobbies, and follow the pursuit with the wonderful opportunity to fornicate on Wimbledon Common then to date a mad girl who will dump me for accusing me of stealing her wig, pen and video.