What would make you comfortable around another person?

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15 Apr 2010, 9:20 pm

In professional and friendly settings, i'm perfectly fine. I don't go out of my way to introduce myself to strangers without a good reason though.

As for intimate settings, the main thing that I'm uncomfortable with is whether or not she likes what I'm doing. I'm always worried in such situations that the move I'm contemplating making is the wrong one, and that i would become the creep I'm so worried about becoming... If I know that she wants what I'm doing, I have no problem with it. But there are plenty of women that I've thought about asking out, and then didnt because I wasn't completely sure if she liked me.

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15 Apr 2010, 11:05 pm

JazzofLife wrote:

I know what would make me comfortable around another person, but I won't disclose it in here in the event if offends people. I can't really mention it, because some people are simply not open minded enough to understand.

Way to judge.

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15 Apr 2010, 11:47 pm

criss wrote:

A Person who gives me space to process
my thoughts.

A quality of tenderness goes far.

An ability to listen non-judgementally.

I agree with those as well. All three of those elements are essential for me to feel comfortable and at ease with someone.

musicboxforever wrote:

To be comfortable with someone they need to be laid back and genuine and not jump to conclusions...
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I also agree with that.

I need to feel there is sincerity and the person is being genuine to feel completely comfortable. Someone who habitually jumps to conclusions exhibits a negative, hasty and smallness I dislike and am uncomfortable around. So, I would say that thoughfulness would be the quality I would look for.

Respect is important. Respect for self and for others.

Tolerance and patience

Healthy boundaries are important.

Kindness/compassion

Generosity of spirit (in the right context).

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16 Apr 2010, 3:33 am

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16 Apr 2010, 3:44 am

a vulcan mind meld. that is always what I shoot for.

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21 Apr 2010, 1:19 am

This "other person" being a statue or an inamate object. Something that isn't going to bother me, invade my space and want sex all the time. I am asexual, my ideal partner is no body...and I am *gasp* happy that way.

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21 Apr 2010, 8:19 am

There are 2 factors for me.

1. Energy - Positive vibes etc
2. Chemistry - If in one night all you do is void any contact or any one worded or any sentence construction.

I'd say a flop. Friends or relationship in mind.

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