What's wrong with my dating site profile?

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I'm just going to be blunt here, and put them in a list.

1. That's not the best profile picture. The angle makes your head a funny shape, and you're frowning. You look pretty scary there. Why not a picture of you smiling, in sunglight perhaps, doing something you enjoy? The frown will put anyone off.

2. "I like to read, when I can afford books, which isn't often anymore." This will make you seem "poor". Women want to date someone who can provide. It's sad but that's a judgment they will make.

3. "I like women who are shorter than me, since women who are taller don't go for shorter guys." Get rid of that. It seems like you're settling for less with shorter women, and would rather date a tall woman. Why not say you like shorter women because they're cute?

4. "if you don't like being told the truth about how you look in that dress, I'm not your guy." Very off-putting comment. Say things like this, and you'll be no one's guy. Really, the honesty is something best found out after you guys have an established relationship.

5. "Home surfing the internet for the right woman. If that's you, then I'll likely be spending Friday nights at your place in the future. " No! This tells women you never get out. Also you're a bit desperate. And the suggestion of their place makes them think you're a moocher.


"Body Type
Overweight
Looking For
Short-term dating, Casual sex"

Sorry, but those two things don't go together. You might want to consider losing weight. And virtually no women on dating sites are looking for "casual sex". Those women just go to bars. I'd suggest changing that.

Also, the whole profile has a very selfish sort of air about it. Everything starts with "I". And while you should focus on your own attributes, try and make it sound like you're interested in other people, too.



Sorry if I seem harsh. But those things really stood out to me.

1. Too much text.
2. Add more humor.

And use light humor while you're at it. If you have grown too cynical like me, it can be a good thing to take a break from dating and then returning to write a new profile. People will not get all kinds of humor, if you type "Apple", people will think "He likes to kill people by throwing apples!! !" instead of "I like Apple computers." - people always interprit things negatively.

Be open minded and try not to think too negatively before its too late and you become as cynical as me. And drop any AS/Autism references, people in general are morons and some cant even tell Autism from a hole in the ground. The message you should try to deliver is that "you are happy with your life but you want someone to be there with you".

Hehe, most people won't presume that. XD

A pity the OP has not deigned to reply.

I was thinking that, too.

Perhaps exactly not that; It was supposed to be a (funny) example on how "negative-by-default" people really are.

Oh, well it was funny, I wasn't sure if it was serious or not. XD

Thanx for the suggestions

No, this sounds about right.

I have my AIM screen name in my profile, and I have far more luck with that than I do the actual site itself

I made a fake account with a guy "DanielLutz" and I got a bunch of messages at first. XD

ElaineAbigayle = Pezar?
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First, change the picture. The image is the first hook and there you look rather miserable. A higher angle, taken by someone else (it looks like that one was taken by yourself in a mirror) and try to look a little happier! Another tip - don't look directly to camera. There's been some research in this area that suggests women are more attracted to photos that don't stare out at them.

Second, trim that profile down. That's not a summary about you - it's a novel! Keep it simple, tell them the basics and let them find out all the details as you go along.

Thirdly, as already said here, do not mention sex, autism or anything unusual. There's a general expectancy that people will lie on these profiles anyway, so if you're being honest about this sort of stuff you must be hiding something REALLY bad! Your sexual preferences need to be touched upon to some degree, but there's no point asking for polygamous relationships if you're struggling to find even one partner and it'll only put off those interested in monogamy, which is a step up from nothing! And autism... that's a red flag for anyone reading this profile.

Dating is a game, in which two players are negotiating a complicated social arrangement that might lead to sex, love or even children. You wouldn't start a game of poker by telling everyone you're only one card away from a straight flush.

I agree with Spazzergasm, especially about the searching on the internet for the right woman on friday nights thing. In addition though, I would remove the whole paragraph about the internet (the comcast and dial-up stuff or whatever). I'd also remove the i-cant-afford-books thing. This sounds like a B thing to say, I know. But if you are only looking for casual sex and short term dating you need to be appealing. Many of these women might think "where the heck is he gonna take me out if he can't even afford a book." But yeah, shorten up the whole profile. Leave something to talk about on the dates. Change the pic like everyone else says..if you want women to read your whole profile you need to catch their eye first. Realistically, on a dating site, attention-grabbing is done by having an attractive photo...and not sounding so egotistical.

i'll be totally and completely honest with you: i lurked your profile (sorry) and there is absolutely nothing wrong with its content. it is well-written and makes you sound like an interesting, intelligent person. i think it's a good thing that you mention being autistic because that will eliminate any potential dates who would turn you down for the autistic qualities you would inevitably display at one point or another. but okay.... your picture.... i would try taking a more flattering one. i honestly think it is just your picture. sorry if i have offended you.