I'm a aspie who's never had a girlfriend before im 17

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I've never had a girlfriend before, and I'm 28. There are also no prospects for me in my near future. It is as they say, "If nothing changes, then nothing changes."

I have come to believe that getting a girlfriend, getting married, or having children is not a right; it is a gift. You being born is not a right either; that is also a gift. Now I am not advocating abortion because you also don't have the right to be dead. I say that being born is a gift because we have been given free will, and as such we have the ability to form and to shape our lives, for good or for ill. That is power! Therefore, we also have the ability to reap the fruit of the seeds we've sown.

It is during these times of drought in our lives that we ought learn how to grow ourselves and to discover out who we really are. These dry times can also help us appreciate the gifts we've already been given. Hopefully these dry times won't last forever and that life will also send us some rain.

Um...I know plenty of neurotypical males who dont get a girlfriend until late into their college years.

Case in point: not having a girlfriend before a certain date and time does not equal the end of the world.

I didn't have my first boyfriend until I was 20.

I did not kiss a girl until I was 20. I am now 27 and happily married - but I had been with many women before I met the right person in the time since my first girl.

The trick is learning to adapt.

I went on 4 first dates to a restaurant called Milestones at 8pm. It was a perfect time because I could pay for her drinks without shouldering the cost of an entire meal, this also made it easy for me to practice and get better and learning what to say.

Also, online dating is a must. Though I met my wife at a party, online dating allowed me to practice and get better at all aspects of dating.

Get to the date is not step 1, it's step 10.

Finding the right way of messaging a girl is step 1, step 2 is practice, step 3 is perfecting how you look, step 4 your first few words, etc.

I got my first bf when I was 17 and my first kiss at 19. Seems like those ages should be switched don't they?

All I can say is just be thankful you're not 31 and have never had a girlfriend or dated anyone.

I've had girlfriends before I turned 17 but the relationship was not as serious and I never seem to recieve a kiss.
The first one I had believe it or not, it was only just last week and I'm 19 and yes, it was a true loving kiss I'll always remember.

Yet I'm still a virgin, sometimes its even better to through it later than earlier, you get more feeling and more excitement out of it.

My first kiss was age 19 and my first (and only so far) gf was at 20 but that ended. Dont rush or force it, truth is, there is only one deadline for these things and that's when you flat line. Be you and be loved for you.

don't even worry.

I thought you were saying you never had a girlfriend before you were 17 going by the thread name.

"Let's eat Grandma" or "let's eat, Grandma" - punctuation saves lives!

But anyway, on topic...

I got my first girlfriend when I was either 13 or 14. I think it was 14. I really don't remember. But I'm a virgin too.

However, it's not a race. It's not about who can get a girlfriend first, and it's not who can have the most either. Quality over quantity.

I'm 22 and still haven't had a boyfriend, kiss, sexual encounter or anything yet:(. Everyone's different so when the time's right, you'll get a girlfriend. Don't get too comfortable with the idea of finding a gf at college because if it doesn't happen then you'll be more frustrated than you probably are now. Just live day to day and don't dwell on it.

I know lots of NT boys where I work and very few of them have gf's. I wouldn't worry about it.