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tangerine12
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21 Apr 2010, 11:44 pm

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I for the most part don't go to bars or clubs b/c

1- i don't dance,
2- noise light gives me headache
3- i don't drink
4- i can't hear conversation

other than video games and reading, i don't do a lot of other stuff b/c of my clumsiness.

That description could be applied to myself, too. But why do you say you're boring? Don't you enjoy the things you do? Isn't it rather that some other people think that those things you like are boring? Isn't it equally true that you most likely find the things they like as boring or even more? There's no absolute scale for that, it's all just a matter of personal preferences. Simply don't try to hang around with people with too disimilar interests, look for those with similar or compatible ones instead. It would be a very boring world if everyone liked exactly the same things, and similarly disliked the same, too... look for someone you find interesting and who finds you interesting too. Of course, it's very possible that both will be afraid... one wil have to take the first step if that's the case.

(And now let's see if I can take my own advice...)


Oh I'm self-amused definitely. Call of Duty, kicks ass. I also read comic books.



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21 Apr 2010, 11:45 pm

DavidM wrote:
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My greatest fear with girls is that they would discover the truth about me, that I am boring, I am easily overstimulated,
and I have few friends and not a very active social life. After a busy day I prefer to be alone as I am overstimulated.
Also I prefer to stay quiet rather than socialize or converse. I do like playing video games, and watching
WHo's the deadliest warrior on spiketv

I'm afraid that would-be gf's will tell me I'm boring. and others.




I have the same problem.

The cure is: sex.

Sex not only feels good but is very exciting.

Drop some subtle innuendos, smile and make her blush and giggle every now and then.

She will be obsessing about kissing and touching you so much she won't care how many friends you have. She'll only want one thing from you. Which will be very exciting :flower:


I want sex :)



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22 Apr 2010, 12:47 am

tangerine12 wrote:
I for the most part don't go to bars or clubs b/c

1- i don't dance,
2- noise light gives me headache
3- i don't drink
4- i can't hear conversation

other than video games and reading, i don't do a lot of other stuff b/c of my clumsiness.


Just so you know, I wasn't suggesting you become a club-goer. I was saying I know several people who think it's cool to go to clubs for their free time, but there are people who don't like doing that (I was using me as an example). I forgot how old you are, but at my age everyone is excited to go to clubs because they just got old enough...I figure soon the excitement wears off. I've never even been to a club, lol.



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22 Apr 2010, 6:02 am

This is not a fear for me, it's simple fact.


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22 Apr 2010, 10:53 am

astaut wrote:
tangerine12 wrote:
I for the most part don't go to bars or clubs b/c

1- i don't dance,
2- noise light gives me headache
3- i don't drink
4- i can't hear conversation

other than video games and reading, i don't do a lot of other stuff b/c of my clumsiness.


Just so you know, I wasn't suggesting you become a club-goer. I was saying I know several people who think it's cool to go to clubs for their free time, but there are people who don't like doing that (I was using me as an example). I forgot how old you are, but at my age everyone is excited to go to clubs because they just got old enough...I figure soon the excitement wears off. I've never even been to a club, lol.


Where do people like you tend to go then?



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22 Apr 2010, 11:36 am

ToadOfSteel wrote:
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tangerine12 wrote:
I for the most part don't go to bars or clubs b/c

1- i don't dance,
2- noise light gives me headache
3- i don't drink
4- i can't hear conversation

other than video games and reading, i don't do a lot of other stuff b/c of my clumsiness.


Just so you know, I wasn't suggesting you become a club-goer. I was saying I know several people who think it's cool to go to clubs for their free time, but there are people who don't like doing that (I was using me as an example). I forgot how old you are, but at my age everyone is excited to go to clubs because they just got old enough...I figure soon the excitement wears off. I've never even been to a club, lol.


Where do people like you tend to go then?


I don't really go anywhere, that's what I said in one of my other posts. I fairly recently was diagnosed with a chronic illness and it isn't under control yet, so it's hard for me to get out and do stuff. Right I have simpler goals, like being able to drive to class everyday.

If I were in a position to go out and meet people, I might...
-Get involved in some clubs at my college
-I was invited to study abroad this summer, I would do that
-Get a part time job
-Take an 'enrichment' class at our local college...they're inexpensive classes that focus more on hobbies, not academia
-Do some sort of volunteer activity or internship

When I start to feel well enough to do more strenuous activities, my goal would be to do stuff more like what I listed above (stuff that would interest me) rather than stuff that would possibly lead to a relationship. IMO, I would rather be doing something I enjoy and fall into a relationship just by chance than be going out to places like clubs (that I don't enjoy) specifically looking for a relationship and not knowing when or if I will find one. I don't know if the OP is in college or not, but I am and that's where I would do a lot of my socializing if I was looking to meet people/feeling up to it.