How do you get over an obsessive attraction?

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...somehow I doubt it.

It wears off over time. Like anything else, if you meet someone else who is better, that past person will mean nothing anymore.

I appreciate the posts. I think I am getting over her already. I think the fact that she is unavailable finally completely sunk in. I am not sure why it took so long with her, but usually when that happens I start to lose interest fast.
It still bothers me that I can get so obsessed with a person, but at least it seems like it will fade once I top seeing her weekly.

To certain people:
I do not understand why NTs not being worth much must be brought into this. This could happen with someone who is not NT, and saying NTs are a "dime a dozen" as if they are all the same is ridiculous.
Also, the fact that I became obsessed with this girl is really my problem, and it does not mean there is something wrong with her (same for anyone else who inspired the obsession of someone else).

I dont know if you can ever get over an obsessive love interest fully.

Well there are two different kind of obsessions...the kind by the OP where he barely is acquainted with her...then the obsession you get when you've dated someone and they break up with you, but you were still invested in the relationship. The first obsession...I agree, distance. The less you see of her, you'll eventually forget about her. Also, Ricky is right in a way...seeing more beautiful women...going to a nightclub or something (as much as I'm against that) will make you realize that she's a dime in a dozen.

In my case, I'm still not over a girl I dated and was friends with after we dated. Not seeing her has only made things worse. I've tried to contact her about once a month (since last July) to no avail, and I still think about her intermittently. She was also my first dating experience though, and beautiful without even realizing it, so she was unique, even my close ones that met her said as much.

So anyway...your type of obsession...time and distance and meeting other beautiful women. The second kind, I wish I had a cure (actually I don't, the good memories of her are worth it.)

I've had a few of those when i was younger, but meh. I changed and physical attraction is less the number one criteria than it used to be.

yes I do.

it has to just die out.

my current one is dying a long slow death. it needs to die as she basically sees me as just some joke to toy around with. I don't really think she has ever seen me as a real human being. it's taking it's last few gasping breaths. I'm sure later on down the road I will look back and understand what this was about and why I fell so hard for someone who just stomped on my heart and laughed at my pain. I know one reason is because she got her heart broken by a sociopath right before I came into the picture. She couldn't 'hurt back' that woman because that woman was already committed to someone else and had no freaking conscience anyway. I was mega hurt-able because of my amped up CNS and she thoroughly enjoyed messing with me. Now she's bored of it and moved on. I have a lag of course because of slow processing but it just takes time, eventually I will be over it and that's that, onward and upward.

You could add them on a social networking site and see if there as great as you thought. I usually find something I don't like about the person I am infatuated with and decreases how much I want to have a relationship with them besides being friends.

You all make this sound so easy. I only wanted to befriend the girl who sits next to me in logic, but for some reason she just stopped responding. Ever since, I couldn't stop thinking about her, and begged her over and over to tell me what went wrong. The longer I didn't know, the longer and more it hurt. But now she tries to avoid me at every turn. What's worse is that her brother has AS and she knows I have it too, yet refuses to let me have my closure. I'm trying really hard to not let this turn into a grudge. My dad made me play a sport I didn't like in eighth grade; he's still paying for it.