It's probably insane to expect...

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I haven't got any idea what kind of signals I'm sending. I'm naturally friendly, but this may put people off as I'm scared I might come off as TOO friendly and thus 'clingy'. I'm really not, though. But better coming off as too friendly than as a stuck up so-and-so. Then there's that random 'the wrong thing to say' that ruins everything that sometimes comes up...my parents and siblings have been telling me about it for years without telling me WHAT the wrong things were to say.

Then there's the basic problem of, I'm just not what other people are looking for, and that's nobody's fault but fate. I don't think a person is obliged to be attracted to me, and if they're not, they're not. That simply means they're not the right person. I wonder if I'm one of the few people that can recognize and accept that.

But then of course, I have no idea what 'romantic love' feels like, so on some level I am not in the "I wish they liked me back" situation, and am not pining over ANY particular person. This is only a general feeling of anxiety that I'm having to tell my brain is just the bioclock ticking. It's not at all focused, it just wants something. This will probably stop when I run out the clock.

LOL, thanks for volunteering
And I don't think that itd be that hard silly.

I also agree with the dating site idea. I haven't had a profile before so I can't comment on the idea that women get more responses than men, but by looking at the male to female ratio on sites like aspie affection I can see how that would happen.

I've also not been 'well' and this keeps me from going out and doing things. I haven't really been involved in anything in about a year, and that is when I had my last relationship. So yes, I understand that you can't get to know anyone by staying in a lot; but I also know that if you want to meet people you need to put in more effort. I would certainly try dating sites if you aren't out and about much, and maybe get insight as to how your profile looks. Maybe even say you're willing to relocate (if you are) since you've been stuck in your town for so long (the way you speak makes it sound like you're unhappy there).

Well there's another factor to consider: money. I'm so ill I'm on disability. I certainly cannot move out of province (I'd lose my income); and moving out of town at this point in time is completely unfeasible.

Online dating is completely pointless if the other person isn't local.

Let's see if you're still saying that when you have to drag all 300 pounds of me...

Hopeless_Hearts_Marie - I'd advise making some sort of trolley (rectangle of wood close to the ground with wheels and a long handle type thing) and rolling him onto that - it makes for a much faster getaway, plus it's smoother for them so they're less likely to wake up!