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No, I was explaining what it means to be easily flattered. Some women, (I know several) just lapp up any compliment or anything and thrive off it.

I couldn't care less for that rubbish unless its someone I am really interested in. I didn't say anything about not liking to be flirted with by someone im intereted in.

That's what I mean by there being a difference between being easily flattered and feeling flattered by the affectionate attention. I guess I felt that mutual interest was understood in the context. My bad.

OP, my first date with the woman I am I married to now (going on 10 years) was a hike to a beautiful spot in the mountains, and sharing a gourmet lunch I had prepared.

The next date was to the Botanical Garden and an open air concert at the zoo. We went dutch that time. But again, I made a picnic dinner for the concert.

The fanciest date was a Victor Borge performance with a high dollar dinner beforehand and decadent chocolate desserts after. Dutch on the dinner, I bought the tickets and desserts.

Maybe that'll give you some ideas...

You're better off not pushing. The just friends zone is a pleasant place to be. Stay there if you can and you will meet the great potential dating pool called "her friends". If you still want just this girl, patience is key. Push a little but don't jeopardize the friendship. The last thing you want is a bad rep among a group of girls in the middle of your high school years.

If you stay in contact and stay a true friend, don't pine forever. While she may eventually realize that she should have taken a shot with you, that realization might be two divorces later at age 40. Then it's welcome ... to my MySpace page. OldLoveInterest with 12 kids, three ex husbands and the "it's complicated" relationship status wants to be your friend! Oh joy.

I see what you're saying, but I'd have to say no to that. I do enjoy just having a friendship and would want to keep that if she said no. I would like to have a relationship, but would gladly still be friends with her if she said no to that.