Why is being "clingy" seen as bad?

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Constantly calling, texting. Jealousy. It's hard to describe but you'll know it when you're experiencing it. It sounds much more desirable than it actually is.

"Hey where are you going" "How long will you be gone" "Will there be any women there""What's up?" "Why didn't you call me when you got back" "Why won't you let me in" "I just want to talk" "We'd have such cute babies" "Why are you ignoring me" "Why can't we just stay in together"

Being clingy is bad because it's pathetic. What's good about insecurity, low self esteem, being so emotionally unstable that you put someone on a pedestal, submissiveness to the point of being a pushover, and a lack of self-sufficiency?

Strange. I have been told by one person I was
clingy and by another I was distant.

I don't date anymore.

Stingle and staying that way

I liked the mildly clingy tendencies of my last partner. I say mild, because I didn't see any of the negative sides to it that some people are describing, like being overly dependent or obsessive. She was just very openly affectionate in an innocent way, which was good for me because back then it was a long time before I could believe that I was genuinely loved. It helped me shed off some of my silly angsty delusions about not deserving her.

Provided there weren't unhealthy motivations behind it, I'd much rather have a clingy partner than one who withheld affection to avoid seeming dependent or submissive or something.

My ex was clingy. He acted like he wanted me around 24/7 and I need some time alone. He also wouldn't like it if I went to bed when he wanted to stay up. He expected me to stay up with him but he said I was self centered when I be tired and wanted to go to bed. He claimed he didn't want to be a control freak but I felt he was trying to control me with emotions and feelings, giving me the guilt trip by trying to make me fee bad. Everyone else says he was controlling.

When I first met my husband, he wouldn't stop hugging me and touching me and it was annoying. I described him as being over affectionate but I got told lot of men are that way.

I usually do not have a problem with clingy people. I may be a borderline codependent because I can be very clingy in a relationship. I do understand why it can annoy some people but I do not see it s a problem myself. I also like codependent woman because I generally feel better when I'm helping people. I only have two friends offline & one of em is really needy & stuff at times but it really doesn't bother me. Also a majority of my friends online run to me for advice about stuff & I honestly like helping em out. Does anybody have any tips on how to find a woman who's clingy

I need a woman to be 'clingy' enough to come back next time. I enjoy my alone time, and do not like short or pointless phone calls/texts, and small talk can wait until we have something to talk about. But once/twice a week I do not mind the company of a significant other. I don't get why people (women in particular) get upset when I tell them "Seeing you once a week is enough for me".

Clingy people can be great for each other. Can be.. not always are.

Clingy people are horrible for someone who is independent. I was with someone once who would grab me around the waist and try and prevent me from leaving, say "I don't want you to go" all the time, and kept touching me, and when I would pick up his hands and throw them off me, he would keep doing it, over and over again.

I agree that clingy people can be great for each other but I find some(NOT all) women are hypocritical about it. I have some women friends online who are constantly running to me to complain about how their guys do not show em affection, their guys do not text back rite away ect ect yet those same women have no interest in me & are chasing guys who are the opposite of em. I don't get it I feel a lot of women do not give me a chance partly because I'm kind of dependent & stuff. I've also been told by docs/counselors/psychs that I need to be strong & independent to be in a relationship because clingy/needy/dependence is bad. I do NOT agree with them. I'm happier when I feel people relate, understand & accept me & make me feel useful. It also motivates me to improve myself as well. I knew a girl online years ago who was kind of needy/dependent. She kept having problems & would run to me after & sometimes she would call me up when I was ready to go to bed & I would spend the next 12hours online chatting & talking over the phone with her because she was upset about something. I honestly liked being their for her & I was dependent on her as well. Things fell apart thou cuz she started turning to drugs & alcohol instead of me

Someone saying you're clingy can also vary on how much they are attracted to you.

I usually don't like clingy but the last guy I was with I was so into and I loved pelting him with kisses and cuddles and stuff, he thought I was clingy, other people i've been with I wouldn't care if I didn't see them for two weeks.

I've had friends that were very clingy, and I did find it to be annoying. But I think that if an attractive girl clung to me I would really like it. Moderate-to-high clinginess would probably be my preferred level of clinginess when regarding romanticism.