Anyone else just attracted to other aspies?

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I'm not "looking" for a date so much as I am keeping a watchful eye on the people I see in my everyday doings. I work at a supermarket, so that feels like a good strategy. A while ago while I was at work I smiled at a nerd girl who I didn't know and she went up to me and asked for a hug - I am not joking. Seems to be working!

By the way - look at those poll results! We kinda like each other don't we? We, at least - as a whole - like each other more than we like NTs. Why, then, does the Love and Dating section have so much anger in it? We love each other - let's act like it!

I am starting to like referring to the Love and Dating section as the "Ministry of Love" - because it is torture to read! So much anger!

Ah, I think I left an "I" out of that statement. I meant to say it wasn't something I go looking for specifically. I look for women that I find cool and cute.

Hey, I'm all for us loving each other. It might solve some of that anger, but aspies are still people and just because they are aspies that doesn't always mean they'll be compatible. That and we're not well known for making that move, or the right move on those we like.

Even if we aren't all compatible, let's at least have enough platonic Ghandi hippie love for the rest of the autistic community to keep the anger down. I kinda thought that showing WP members how much they were attracted to one another would promote that sort of loving respect. That's part of the reason I made this thread.

I believe that, in order for us all to succeed, we all need to learn to love and respect not just ourselves, but other autistics as well. End of digression. If anyone wishes to continue this digression, you'd better make a new thread.

I have always been attracted by Aspies men, even without knowing it. I like men that don't follow social rules (except for laws), know a lot of things and are very affectuous. Those are all Aspies caracteristics. So I would rather be with an Aspie than an NT man.

I tend to be attracted to people in whom I see a significant part of myself. In other words, I feel a deeper connection with them that surpasses any connection I've ever made with any other human being. Since I can hardly ever relate to an NT, let alone make a meaningful connection with one, I do become attracted to males with AS.

As an aspie myself, I'm not sure if i'm attracted to aspies in particular.
I mean, my girlfriend turned out to be one too, that could just be a coincidence.
I didn't know she was one when i was first became attracted to her .

I am attracted to a highly annalytical male who is shy and rather childish for his age. We were attracted due to intellectual reasons and strange similarities.

But what I can't understand is, since our friendship deepened, why he has become more NT? Aspie guys, can you answer this? I'm scared I can't measure up to him and it is decreasing my self-esteem ...

I have preference for neither-thankfully around half of the poll voters gave that answer, you can't be so shallow to only have one preference that wouldn't make a major difference in the way she/he is.

I thought this said "other species" for a minute . I've never met any women with AS. Or at least that I know of.

I honestly havent met any autistic girls in the area i live (knew of one, but she was several years younger than I, but i didnt really meet her).

Maybe he's more comfterble around you & not quite as shy now Or mabye sense you know him more now; you see him in a different light

I have no preference. As I've said before, personality > neurology.

I wouldn't say we love each other.

I don't judge someone by their diagnosis. I judge them by their behaviour.

I don't know the answer to this question. I'm not attracted to the party goer type guy because I don't do parties. Someone too neurotypical scares me. But on the other hand I don't want someone who loves me dearly, but is so distant that I can't see it. I must have someone quirky though, someone who thinks outside the box.

If I were in his position, I'd probably be dong the same thing over time. He's probably tending towards the NT part of the spectrum more because 1) he has succeeded (with you), so he doesn't need to figure out why he's failing anymore, and 2) he knows that he has you to fall back on if the entire world turns against him...

Not JUST other Aspies, but to be honest, I do sort of think of eventually hooking up with a woman with Asperger's. I have a feeling we'd be able to come out of our shells and hit it off much easier/understand the other one's feelings a lot easier, both of us having Asperger's, which would cause us a lot less stress than were we with neurotypical partners. That said, though, one can't overstate how important a person's personality is, which easily trumps your neural make up. A relationship simply can't survive without a mutual interest between two parties, since we're not in the stone age where we have to find and have sex with any partner we can to keep the species going (I'm sure if it came to that again, there are some guys who wouldn't taking one for the team....). If somebody's interests aren't at all compatible with my own (IE: If she's not a bit of a geek/nerd, I suppose.), Aspie or not, she's going to have a lot of time maintaining my interest.