Non-sexual Attractions?

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I don't think I'm Demisexual. I'm not sure I would have sexual urges towards my partner even if things wer serious. I do have a fairly high sex drive but it mite could go down when I start getting close to someone. I probably would enjoy sex in a serious relationship but only she she enjoyed it. I think something got crossed in my brain cuz my urges are about making out & being affectionate & romantic & other stuff instead of sex. The sexual stuff in a relationship would not be about the sex; it would be about being close & affectionate with her. I think the term Gray-A would fit me but few people seem to know that term so I say borderline asexual

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Yeah, it can be really difficult helping people understand who you are when your life "colors outside the lines" too far for them to have much frame of reference or an appropriate vocabulary with which to discuss the concepts.

hmmm, I might possibly fit that description, probably not quite that well demarcated but it'd fit rather well

This is all very familiar to me. My relationship with my gf is 80-90% emotional. The sexual aspect is only very minor. I am far from an asexual creature so naturally I was amazed at how easy and natural this all feels to me.

But the love we share is incredibly deep and often seems to reach beyond the physical.

This happens to me aswell and I'm not even an aspie! I have a rating system that I use to describe the level of personal attachment I have with a person. I call it the 'D-system' to describe how I view someone in the various 'dimensions'.

1-D means that I don't know the person and have never spoken to them. Kinda like having a fantasy featuring an actor.

2-D means that that person is an aquaintance. You know each other but are not close.

3-D is when you are close to that person. You view them in all 'dimensions', that means you know their personality. You could be dating or best mates etc.

When I get to 3-D I guess that I can't fantasize about that person anymore due to the level of attachment. I hope this made sense.

I had several dreams about a guy that I only knew from an internet forum. I'm not sure exactly what they meant, except maybe I wanted to get to know this guy a little better.

I also find I have SEXUAL attractions to personality traits and other non-sexual things.

Does anyone else sometimes get turned on by a really good intellectual discussion? *crickets*