Qualities you want in a guy/girl?

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what i look for in a guy as a partner:

-must be smarter than average. he doesn't have to be gifted, just smart. i lose all attraction to a guy if i find out he can't hold an argument, can't reason, doesn't make sense, etc.

-obesity isn't something i can respect or learn to accept in a partner

-must have good taste. icp = automatically blacklisted

-must be agnostic/atheist.

-must have a narrow, pointy nose. i know this one sounds ridiculous but noses are really important to me. i love elegantly prominent noses. don't ask me why

-smaller faces that are narrower at the jaw/chin. for some reason if a guy has a broad jaw or a really long, large face i don't find him very attractive.

-and finally, it kind of really bothers me when a guy has more friends that are female than male.
he doesn't have to be incredibly awkward like me or an aspie but if he's ridiculously popular (especially among women) i don't think i'd be able to handle this.

antique_toy,

Freaking check

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Don't know what you consider good taste

Check (rational atheist)

Hmmm... I don't think I qualify here.

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Seems like I'm almost there.

I want a girl who loves me for who I am, and vice versa. That's it.

I think that I am mentally rather androgynous, or maybe bi-gendered, and would need a girl whom can accept and really also even encourage or indulge my feminine side. It might help if she likes it when guys cross-dress. >.>
She must be at least about as smart as me. She could easily be much smarter, as long as she doesn't go out of her way to make me feel inferior.... I just want to be able to communicate my ideas most of the time.
It also helps if she shares a few of my more secluded interests, like in mathematics, meditation/(self-)hypnosis, tabletop RPGs, and various weird games, like odd playing card games like Mao, or the games I've come up with myself. ... Generally, she should have just about all of those to some degree but the math part, which is just bonus points. Although, it'd be nice if she at least thought that Hypercubes and the Fourth Dimension were cool.
Computers are a biggy, and programming skills are bonus points.
Oh, and if she liked to bend gender a bit as I do, it'd also be kinda cool, but not really necessary.
But she must be dominant in the sack though, or a switch with dominant tendencies. Not way negotiable, that one.

As for physical standards.... No morbid obesity or anorexia and we're probably fine image-wise. Strength is nice too though.

1. Doesnt jump to conclusions, keeps calm and asks instead of assuming things.
2. Can plan ahead. Dont rush into things without thinking.

These are the personality traits or "qualities" i require of a girlfriend. Then there are other traits (habits, political views etc) that will go unanswered since that is OT.

1. Intellectual
2. Slender
3. Very affectionate
4. Same sense of humor


I've met one girl with all four so far and that's it.

I don't know, I'm attracted to a lot of different looks on girls. I don't have a girlfriend, and probably won't for a while, but I have several friends who are girls and they tend to be attractive. What I would want in a girlfriend would be:

Same age or maybe 1 or 2 years older.
Not fat, I weigh less than most girls my age.
Absolutely no smokers. If she does painkillers, that maybe a plus, but nothing that you smoke or inject.
Short or tall, certain color eyes or hair doesn't really matter to me, as long as it looks good altogether.
No overdone makeup, absolutely no emo or goth girls.

I don't care what a girl's religious or political beliefs are, as long as she won't force them on me. Ideally someone who is neutral to it all though. I'm an agnostic and if a girl is going to tell me about how Christianity is what I need for my life, I just don't want to hear it from her. Same with if she is so sure there isn't a God, don't want to hear that either. Politically, I'm right wing, and again I don't care, but I don't want to hear about how great Obama is all the time.

Personality wise, she would have to be outgoing and fun to be around. All of the girls I'm friends with are. I would plan things when it is just me and her, but she would plan things like double dates and bring me to parties. I'm completely mellowed out, and I'm very easy to get along with but I'm still kinda passive when it comes to socializing so I need a girl who I can always talk to and feel comfortable around. And that is never shy girls. I liked a shy girl the beginning of my sophomore year and it was the worst thing for me.

I like it when a girl has read hair, but I am not picky at all.

Over 18, under 150 unless this is a Greek siren or something like that we're talking about.

Doesn't mention previous boyfriend unless the story is really funny and does not currently have a boyfriend.

Open mind and a sense of humor are good. Harder to corrupt her otherwise.

A tad nutty, I don't want to be bored.

Got to like me, too.

As opposed to hating you, right?

AS/AS relationships are just as likely to go wrong as ones with NTs, an understanding NT is just as good for what you've said about social cues. Trust me, my experiences with AS/AS relationships have proven to be disasters.



I think all males (except asexual ones, obviously) agree with you there

I want a girl that loves me for who I am, is smart, can take jokes, isn't a b***h, the same age or younger than me, not taller than me.

Their personality is the thing that matters to me the most.
Physically, I don't mind if the girl is a little chubby, I'm not bone skinny myself.

+1

"fetishes" is pretty broad, that could mean anything, even a hermaphrodite fetish.. can you be more specific on what "fetishes"?

I am not specific as to type of fetish.

Hey, lots of dumbasses fall for girls that can't stand them. Sounds like an unnecessary pain to me.