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Daemonic-Jackal
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05 Jun 2010, 5:14 pm

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You'll have better luck of coming across as sane and healthy and someone who she would be interested in spending time with if you don't put her on a pedestal.

Some women wnat guys who put them on a pedestal, but then those women come with a lot of emotional baggage.

I'd suggest you rein in your expectations a bit - she's probably not god's gift to your life, no matter how you feel - in order to maximize the potential that any encounter or interaction will go well.

No one wants to be someone else's savior. And women can sense these kinds of things pretty well.


Where did I say I was putting her on a pedestal? I'm not expecting her to be god's gift to my life at all, I don't want her to be my saviour either I don't need one of those.

It probably just looks that way because of my response to Poppy-X's reply which has left me very annoyed.


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05 Jun 2010, 6:57 pm

Indeed, ask her out casually and see how it goes. Don't talk about your feelings too soon, you might scare her off.

On a side note, what you're feeling seems very normal to me for someone who has a crush or is in love, not an "aspie obsession". You have tried to patch things up with an ex, you were ready too move on and look elsewhere when you thought this girl might be interested in someone else, you're not stalking her and don't think about her 24/7. If you were obsessed with her you couldn't have done any of these things.

Nothing wrong with thinking she's wonderful and feeling happier around her. I still feel this way about my husband after 8 years together and it's hard to put someone on a pedestal when you're washing their underwear and take care of them when they're ill :lol:

Good luck with it - you sound balanced and mature enough to cope if things don't go well, but I hope they will :)


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