Qualities you DON'T want in a guy/girl?

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dishonest
can't keep things to them self
isn't cautious regarding doing illegal things
jealous/insecure/needy
doesn't think outside of the box
not proactive/unambitious
no sense of humor


It's stuff that isn't really black and white, so hard to say really.

- Sexism

- Aggression-ism

- Misogyny-ism

- Alcoholism/Addiction-ism

- Jealousy-ism issues


As for other qualities that aren't extreme I don't think I could handle him...

- Hating pets/animals

- Sleeping around

- Calling me names in an argument that could be better handled.

- Bad hygiene, sorry but if we're sleeping together I don't want the smell of corpse next to me.

- Big spender, I can't stand people who spend too much money on something they can't afford or is out of their budget.



That's all I can think of at the moment.

I'll also add overly religious or very pushy about converting
(the only religion I'd ever consider converting too is Conservative or Reform Judaism)
As of right now at least wants kids (I'm in college so kids now would be bad) but I'm pretty specific in this area:
Against kids while pursuing educational goals & unemployed
Do not want a partner who has bio-kids (if they're adopted I might be okay wit it but I'd definitely never hold raising an orphaned sibling/niece/nephew, etc. against someone)
Or really wants bio-kids (I'm 90-95% certain me having bio-kids would be bad unless my partner truly understood and accepted the risks that would come with them and I could completely get over my guilt complex)
*I am definitely okay with adoption if the timing and partner are right*
Is a homophobe (I have 2 moms)
Sexist
Overly jealous (and refuses to work on it)

p.s. I have a few female friends who are 19-25 approx. and have young children and they'd be wonderful partners to the right guy & have really sweet kids, so I'm not 100% against people w/ kids.

I wouldn't want anyone who's controlling, argumentative, stupid, dishonest, or discriminative.

-Is racist, sexist, and homophobic

-Hates men

-Hates animals

-Bad hygiene, no manners

-Neediness

-Clinginess

-Atheist

-Uses recreational drugs

-Shallow

-Excessively cheats

• Lying
• Lack of compassion
• Game playing
• Emotional immaturity
• Hardcore Christian
• Overly conservative

you people expect way too much.

What should we expect? There are billions of people in the world, I'm willing to bet that the few that have posted in this thread could find someone that fits the characteristics they have listed here. I have, and in multiple people.

Ive noticed a lot of people mention things like neediness, poor self esteem & clinginess.

Do we feel that these are actually common outcomes for many with autistic or other issues, which would result in poor social skills and therefore poor social experience, which in turn may make a person somewhat "needy".

I agree with that.
Other qualities I do NOT want include

Maturity~ I like immature women because we may share more similar interest & they can be funny & cute.

Independence~ Independent women sometimes seem to have an attitude towards dependent guys like me & I want someone who will NOT put me down, push me away or tell me that she needs her space. Clingy women are cute & sweet.

Popularity~ I do NOT want someone who's obsessed with trends, what everyone thinks, needs to go to big parties every weekend & be the center of attention.

Normal~ I have a very hard time relating to normal people. I get along much better with women who are random, weird, hyper, or crazy/psycho even.

I would NOT rule a woman out if she had some or all of these qualities but chances are she would cross me off her list or she would get annoyed with me very fast

-Stereotypes people

-Evangelical Christian

-Obsessed with trends in fashion and music

-Uses emotions to get her way/get away with things

-Loves emotional/psychological warfare

I also don't like people whose mouths constantly hang open. I know that sounds picky but im sorry.

-someone who acts like a parent/tries to treat me like a child
-crazy/irrational
-uncommunicative
-doormat
-passive-aggressive
-aggressive-aggressive
-condescending
-controlling
-too damn secretive

Girls who are neorotic, play Second Life, and are into BDSM.

Well, if you tie her up and gag her, then she cannot be neurotic or play SL

Thats going to keep getting harder for you as you get older. The only solution I can think of is dating a high schooler.