Ever been flirted with/hit on/asked out as a joke?

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Once, when I was a sophomore in highschool. I was in gym class and these two snobby girls, who had never given me the time of day, and thought they were hot s**t, sent over one of the douche bag guys in class to tell me they wanted to talk to me over by the bleachers.

I rolled my eyes and walked over, I could see them giggling as I approached. When I got there they said they were checking me out playing the assigned sport of the day and wanted to give me their numbers. They handed me a piece of paper which I ripped up and threw in their faces, then turned and walked away.

i like to believe that there is a special place in purgatory for folk who use their superior social intelligence/social position merely to play head games with less fortunate people. that is some wicked payback karma to be acruing for oneself, in the game of social snobbery.

Yes, but people who do things like that are never as clever as they think they are. You can see the joke in their faces. An irritated smile usually scares them off.

When I was in middle school, this girl I liked walked up to me during breakfast and asked me if I wanted to go out with her. I had no idea what to say, so I stupidly said "no". She gave an awkward laugh and said "April Fools!" and walked away.

...I probably broke her heart

I did get to hold hands with her one or two years later, though I thought it was the best thing in the world.

Ah, to be young and foolish.

I've become to socially paranoid that I consider just about every contact initiated by somebody "above me in the social hierarchy", so to speak, to be an attempt at this.

i honestly have no idea. i always automatically think its a joke when someone flirts or asks me out. noone was interested in me during school so when people suddenly started saying they liked me when i was 16/17 i didnt know what to make of it

Yeah, I pretty much feel the same way.

Ah, the questions. I found that generally if you ignore that it stops because they get bored. Anyway, high school, yes and no. It is better in that the majority of the student body is more mature than they were in middle school, especially the girls. I had a high school teacher once remark about how he was surprised any girls survived middle school at all because they're so mean to each other. However, there will always be those people who mature slower. Those are the ones you have to watch out for.

Once two girls who were friends of some "friends", who turned out not to be real friends, added me to msn and pretended to want to date me. They told me they would suck me off at the same time, and I could have two girlfriends at the same time. They went on about this for a month. Even harassing at school telling me they "loved" me and what not. They told me the things that would drive them crazy, and so on, but they were just doing to get a laugh.

I don't know......I'm getting very into this idea that going out with somebody doesn't necessarily mean it's for a sexual encounter. As long as it's just a date, I don't see why people shouldn't go right on asking other folks if they want to go here or there with them......probably got to tone it down with the opposite sex once you're married, but otherwise why not? I still get a lot of pleasure from inviting people (of either sex) to be with me.....it still scares me slightly to do that, but it definitely makes life less boring.

I had a couple women in high-school act like they wer interested in me but they wer just doing it as a prank & then lathing about it with their friends.

Going on a date doesn't necessarily mean you want to marry them or even have sex with them that evening, but that doesn't make it meaningless. Just don't lead people on.

Deliberately leading them on would be a hateful thing to do, I agree.......I guess you mean by faking a sexual liking for somebody, and then letting them find out it was just a trick, as seems to have happened to the OP.

Trouble is, the ways of communicating sexual liking are so fuzzy that it's possible to pull tricks like that without telling any literal lies. It's an abuse of neurotypical brain-power to do so. Even the fact of meeting somebody for a one-on-one social encounter is seen as having sexual undertones by a lot of the population, and a lot of the time they'd be right, if the sexual orientation is right. If only we could all read minds (I don't mean this body language stuff, I mean real telepathy), these behind-the-scenes games would be impossible.

No, but then, I often miss jokes, so, maybe.

When I was in high school, and an invisible nobody (which I preferred to active persecution, so at least it was an improvement), around 11th grade, one of the most popular girls in school gave me a really good shoulder massage out of the blue in class (we were working on homework). I didn't ask her for it, and barely knew her...

...Never really knew what to make of it, nothing came of it. I suspected maybe it was a dare, or just a whim by her, but never took it seriously, because there's no way she would have hooked up with a nobody like me at the time. Now, yes, back then, probably not.

If you show interest, and that interest is ambiguous, there's some room to escape if you find the person you're dating is not right for you. That's where the ambiguity sort of comes in handy.

There's not supposed to be ambiguity here though. What I understand of the OP is that she is referring to people who say something like "would you go out on a date with me?", just like that. I knew a couple of fourteen or fifteen year-old boys who told me about doing this with many girls, boasting about how some of the girls they asked actually said yes and that it helped them overcome their own fears - but then they wouldn't know what to do about it, because they had no intention of dating these people.

Much different may be inexperienced teenagers who ask you out and you reject, only for them to come back by saying "it was just a joke" - maybe they're just being defensive.