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11 Jul 2010, 10:05 pm

File a police report too - that way there is independent confirmation of events.


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11 Jul 2010, 10:14 pm

Maybe not in this case but I think for stalkers in general a police report is the way to go. If anything happens to you they're the first person the cops will visit.

I think its more a safety precaution more than anything - if the stalking stops you need not charge them with harassment or anything... but its there when if it gets worse.



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12 Jul 2010, 2:14 am

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And now she has been stalking me pretty much the last year like calling me constantly wanting to see me or saying she misses me and stuff and now it is making me uncomfortable and I really don't want to tell her I am not interested or that I don't want to talk to her cause I just hate being rude to people and really don't know what to do...


She's not stalking you. If you're ignoring your calls and not being straightforward with her, she has no reason to believe that you don't want to be friends with her.

If you don't want to bother with telling her that you don't want her to call you anymore/hang out/etc, then expect to keep hearing from her. I've straight up told an ex that I don't want to be friends, it's okay to do it. But be prepared to give her a reason as to why you don't want to hang out/talk to her. If it's because you find the way she expresses her religious beliefs offensive, say that. If it's something else, say that.


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12 Jul 2010, 1:19 pm

Xenu wrote:
I had a girlfriend for a while about 2 years ago and she was a non practicing Jew (by family) and it was good and she accepted my social anexietys and just not being a very social person nd accepted me being an Atheist too until one of her friends turned her into a Christian. I tried being with her for about a month longer until finally I couldn't take all of the "I just want you to go to heaven" or "I want you too feel gods love like I do" as well as the "new christian morals" such as "believing being glbt is a choice" (I am bisexual which was offensive) and all kinds of other stuff like that. and I broke up with her. And now she has been stalking me pretty much the last year like calling me constantly wanting to see me or saying she misses me and stuff and now it is making me uncomfortable and I really don't want to tell her I am not interested or that I don't want to talk to her cause I just hate being rude to people and really don't know what to do...


I agree with everyone here. She's bad news. There's being a good God-loving Christian, and there's being a way too obsessed Christian. You shouldn't have to ask God if you want to take a crap, because I think that He has given us enough free will to decide that.



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12 Jul 2010, 3:35 pm

astaut wrote:
Xenu wrote:
And now she has been stalking me pretty much the last year like calling me constantly wanting to see me or saying she misses me and stuff and now it is making me uncomfortable and I really don't want to tell her I am not interested or that I don't want to talk to her cause I just hate being rude to people and really don't know what to do...


She's not stalking you. If you're ignoring your calls and not being straightforward with her, she has no reason to believe that you don't want to be friends with her.

If you don't want to bother with telling her that you don't want her to call you anymore/hang out/etc, then expect to keep hearing from her. I've straight up told an ex that I don't want to be friends, it's okay to do it. But be prepared to give her a reason as to why you don't want to hang out/talk to her. If it's because you find the way she expresses her religious beliefs offensive, say that. If it's something else, say that.


I agree with this. Xenu, first tell her that you don't want her to contact you again and whatever else you need to. If she keeps calling you after you've told her not to, then you can take it further. But I don't just expect her to know that you want nothing to do with her, even as friends, if you haven't told her.



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12 Jul 2010, 10:06 pm

Vomit green pea soup on her like the Exorcist! :twisted:

Block her on facebook and don't answer her calls. Simple as that. Just might take a minute until she gets the message.



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16 Jul 2010, 3:35 am

I have to agree with you she is being to forward to you. As a christian I feel she's beating you on the head with it. Doesn't hurt to try you wont lose anything but all to again (Heaven) if you believe in it, if you think about it. On the relationship part just tell her your moving on seeing somebody else if you are if not go out man have fun your single now meet new girls.

Good luck on your Dilemma
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16 Jul 2010, 11:01 am

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Christian stalker?
Get a pentagram and other 'satanic' stuff,she just has to see it once and she won't follow you anymore.


That would just make her more intent to get her highly sought conversion, me thinks.