Northeastern292 wrote:
Honestly, all of your guys's responses make me feel pissed and betrayed in so many ways. I should have known this was an unhealthy relationship from the start.
I wish there was a way of showing her how pissed I am, and how hurt I am. But maybe I need to grieve, be pissed for a while, the usual.
I don't know, but dating is one of my biggest fears. It absolutely is.
As for now, I would love to...you know what? Nothing is ever going to fix the heartache right now. I'm going back to my old cycle of obsessive-compulsiveness. And as hypocrites go, I am the biggest of them all.
These are natural reactions to rejection. One of the first impulses we have as people is to retaliate in some way against those who reject us. I think that as much as that will feel good in the moment, later on you will feel guilty and childish about doing it.
Here's the thing -- this is a sister of your friend, correct? If you value that friendship, just let this go, let it cool down, die out, stop trying to talk to her or reason it out. Take the high road, find another girl, and just give yourself and her some mental space. Sounds like this happened way too fast, and she put the brakes on it. Her dumping you doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you -- it was just the wrong time or person.
And as an obsessive-compulsive person, you know that rumination is the enemy. Do the right thing medically for yourself, which is to find something else to obsess on, something harmless.
13 Jul 2010, 12:34 pm
