My new pickup line.

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So...you men do not want to approach a woman because you are afraid, and you do not want a woman to approach you because...you are afraid..yet, you wish women would be direct so you know if she's just being friendly or interested, and you all want a girlfriend.

Exactly how is this supposed to work?

Some men here claimed they would like women to be direct as in "hi this is my name would you be my boyfriend" kind of direct. I don't really believe them, but can still somewhat imagine the possibility of someone being (accommodating?... brave?... gullible?) enough to take the statement totally at face value, just say "yes", and immediately make plans. More likely I think men, AS or "NT", would either be totally shocked and not know what to do, think you are a prostitute as Janissy suggested, or think you have some other ulterior motives.

On the other hand I think young women have much to gain from initiating even though many aren't brave enough. If you go up to a guy who looks comfortable and not preoccupied with anything and strike up a conversation, and he's receptive to it, and you have a great chat and then give him your phone number, if he was single and interested to begin with then I'm sure he'll be delighted to contact you.

I say with all respect I can muster, this is bull****. I'll skip mentioning that I think my husband is hot (I'm biased, but I think it's true), but instead refer to several women I know in happy relationships with gorgeous men. I'll certainly grant that some abusive relationships go undetected by outsiders for years, but I think you can absolutely NOT claim that a hot guy is automatically a cheater or other type of abuser. (It is entirely possible that beyond a certain age, any hot guy who's available is damaged goods mentally, but I doubt even that.)

In response to the OP, a "pickup line" is typically used only to solicit sex. A relationship *may* form afterwards, but if what you're looking for is a relationship, you should start with a conversation, not a pickup line. Besides, it's usually a good idea to know something about someone's personality before *agreeing* to date them, much less *asking* to date them. I wish you the best of luck, though, whatever method you use.

I was going to say something but I figured someone eventually would. The idea that character is based on physical appearance is ludicrous.