What do you define as flirting?

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Yeeeeeeeah, I can't flirt to save my life. When I have interest in someone, I just come out and say it. "You're cute. Wanna go out for dinner or something?" Some people get thrown off by my directness but that's how both of my relationships started. Some guys apparently like it when the girl takes initiative.

I know I would.

Thats interesting, its somewhat fustrated me to how girls often have to play the passive role in sending the guy hints and signals that shes interested. And the guy will need to be the one to take the initiative. For me; Id love to take the intiative but often I have huge anxiety problems, I dont know if the guy likes me or not so Ive never done that. I get so scard about all these things so often times I will just take the passive role. Its generally hard for me to flirt, but I sometimes do it.

You know I dont know if anyone is like this. I find its easier to flirt with a guy that I have a very small interest in. Like I like them a little but your not terribly into them. As opposed to flirting with a guy Im really into. If Im really into the guy, I choke up and I get rather nervous.

for flirting, i would tease and tease and tease (sometimes in an almost mean way, like guys do with each other). and i would give absolutely no eye contact and stand farther away from my subject of interest than with other guys (and no touching).

it's because i would get actually weak in the knees and shaky and woozy around any guy i was attracted to. in order to keep my body and hormones under control, i needed to keep my distance. but i wanted him to notice me anyways, hence the teasing.

obviously, my messages didn't get through very easily, so when it got to the right stage, i would use Erisad's approach. except more x-rated.

i have no idea how men flirt.

The definition of flirting varies from person to person, and I generally wouldn't assume anyone is flirting (i.e., showing a sexual interest) unless it's Very Obvious. Constantly throwing indirect compliments is obvious flirting, smiling a lot and asking semi-personal questions isn't.

Sometimes people just want to interpret politeness as flirting, but if you haven't done anything beyond what you would do with someone of the same sex (this assuming you're heterosexual), you shouldn't worry about it. You can't stop someone from thinking what they want to think.

EDIT: To the people who have tried flirting and found that the person they're interested in isn't responding, either be more obvious about it or try a direct approach. That person has either missed the signals or just isn't interested in you, and a direct approach will settle the question once and for all.

I do everything you described here with this 1 guy I like except the touching parts.

Friendly teasing done because someone is attracted to someone else. Also with some touching too like hitting and leaning on someone. That's how I do it with certain friends anyway.

I'm a horrible flirt. It's sort of automatic for me to flirt when I meet a new person. I generally tell a whole bunch of jokes (as cocky as this sounds, I've learned from public speaking and the like that I'm hilarious... yeah, I'm pretty far up my own arse), give her compliments and ask her questions about stuff she's interested in. Gently tease her about stupid things.

And I do this with guys as well, including my female friends' boyfriends.

But I differentiate between flirting with someone and hitting on them. To me, flirting is more about fun and a having a playful exchange between two people. To hit on someone is to make it known that you would like to have sex with them, and that you are trying to make them attracted to you.