She's not interesting, no other social contacts either.

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I can relate to your problem. I am not very socially skilled myself and so I have often offended people when that was the last thing I ever intended. Maybe you need to do something with her that would be a really good icebreaker, some activity that would be silly or fun so that those personal boundaries loosen up to create more intimacy. I always found that a few drinks helped. I would suggest a bottle of wine, but maybe you don't drink.

This one is sort of more difficult, IT's not clear she is going out with me for dating or just to do things. I've gone on a few dates before with only one person ( I forgot until now), just that the one girl prior I was about to move here. This one has x-relational issues and also I'm not sure what I'm doing entirely.

The next step is likely to hold hands or hug. She did partly hug me once but it was not clear as to if it was for being friends or not. She initiated the hug without me knowing which was a suprise from my side.

I nearly want to say to her I do not want to meet with her anymore. If some girls flirt by doing touching and do not mean to make it form into a relationship other then friendship then that is misleading.

She is not necessarily sure herself whether she wants to be friends with you or have a relationship. Clearly, she does want ot be friends with you, otherwise, why would she choose to spend time with you?

Maybe she is deciding what she wants from being with you.



If a girl initiates a hug she is either being sexual or being friendly. So you knoew that that least she wants to be friends. Have you seen her interact with other people much? If you have, does she initiate physical contact with other people? If she does initiate contact often then it is probably a sign of friendship.

Do you ever initiate physical contact with her? If you want a relationship with her I would suggest you do so from time to time; because if you do not, she will think you just want to be friends.



It's only misleading if you let it be.

Touching can mean anywhere from "I like you" to "I want to f**k you" to "I am in love with you and want to spend the rest of my life with you". Some people like touching, so these people are not going to want to limit themselves just to touching those they want to have sex with.

I am entirely baffled.. No need for the complexities in if's and hidden thoughts in another persons mind. The lady is not someone I am enthused about anyway.

It took almost a half of a year to form that social contact. YAWN

For another social contact it took me about that long prior, I was not enthused about her either. Uhhggg

I could care less for friends, they are not interesting, just ladies..

Yet I am somewhat picky... Most people are not within my toleration.

Thus far this dating attempt has dirturbed the very essence of my being, my mental universe and it will not be tolerated.

Back to partial hermotosis not the madness of this indipendent attempt. On to structured intergrations.. Yet it is likely I'll be happy being a monk!

I find relationships too complicated, especially the early stuff.

Thankfully I have not met with this person again. She was entirely to complicated, yet where I am moving soon, will be next to her.. So who knows, one way or the other I might find one.

There are many different kinds of personalities, I do not like the highly animated. I am not sure, perhaps calm and mellow.