09 Aug 2010, 3:40 am
Angel_ryan wrote:
Tonight hopefully 
, my Aspie BF is going to finally lose it. I'm an Aspie myself and I was reluctant to date him when he told me he was still a virgin at 25. He said he has trouble with knowing if chicks are interested in him and stuff. He was really clueless, and didn't even pick up that I was slightly interested in him after he told me about his AS related symptoms. We've know each other for 6 or 7 years, but that's because I was friends with his sister. Despite his virginity being a turn off we both have the same special interests and can talk for hours about them. So I decided I'd give him a chance because I've never dated another Aspie and the NT guys I've dated made fun of me for my impaired social skills. Now to my surprise 
I' discovered these two months we've been dating is that even though he's a virgin he's pretty good at everything else. He's only had one girl friend before me and he only made out with her apparently. So I asked him how the hell did you get so skilled, you're a virgin right? His answer was lots of porn, lots and lots and lots. Apparently he's a visual learner and years of watching porn has turned him into some kind of super pervert capable of doing things that I didn't think virgins were capable of, so I told him next time I come over you're losing it. Biased off this experience my advise to Aspie men is to date Aspie chicks and watch lots of porn!! !! ! And always have condoms available. One of my old NT BF's used to always have one in his wallet.
, my Aspie BF is going to finally lose it. I'm an Aspie myself and I was reluctant to date him when he told me he was still a virgin at 25. He said he has trouble with knowing if chicks are interested in him and stuff. He was really clueless, and didn't even pick up that I was slightly interested in him after he told me about his AS related symptoms. We've know each other for 6 or 7 years, but that's because I was friends with his sister. Despite his virginity being a turn off we both have the same special interests and can talk for hours about them. So I decided I'd give him a chance because I've never dated another Aspie and the NT guys I've dated made fun of me for my impaired social skills. Now to my surprise I' discovered these two months we've been dating is that even though he's a virgin he's pretty good at everything else. He's only had one girl friend before me and he only made out with her apparently. So I asked him how the hell did you get so skilled, you're a virgin right? His answer was lots of porn, lots and lots and lots. Apparently he's a visual learner and years of watching porn has turned him into some kind of super pervert capable of doing things that I didn't think virgins were capable of, so I told him next time I come over you're losing it. Biased off this experience my advise to Aspie men is to date Aspie chicks and watch lots of porn!! !! ! And always have condoms available. One of my old NT BF's used to always have one in his wallet.FALSE ALARM GUYS!! !!
My BF totally chickened out this weekend. I took him out to get some condoms and while we were there his face lite up red and he walked out of the store slightly freaked out. We went back to the car where he told me he still wasn't ready. So I had a pretty bad weekend. We actually didn't talk for two days which was awkward because I was at his house sleeping next to him for two nights, and things didn't resolve until we had a few drinks and talked about it the morning I had to go home.
Aspie guys!! ! If you want to get laid you need to get some freaking confidence!! !
09 Aug 2010, 4:40 am
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09 Aug 2010, 12:42 pm
Angel_ryan wrote:
Angel_ryan wrote:
Tonight hopefully , my Aspie BF is going to finally lose it. I'm an Aspie myself and I was reluctant to date him when he told me he was still a virgin at 25. He said he has trouble with knowing if chicks are interested in him and stuff. He was really clueless, and didn't even pick up that I was slightly interested in him after he told me about his AS related symptoms. We've know each other for 6 or 7 years, but that's because I was friends with his sister. Despite his virginity being a turn off we both have the same special interests and can talk for hours about them. So I decided I'd give him a chance because I've never dated another Aspie and the NT guys I've dated made fun of me for my impaired social skills. Now to my surprise I' discovered these two months we've been dating is that even though he's a virgin he's pretty good at everything else. He's only had one girl friend before me and he only made out with her apparently. So I asked him how the hell did you get so skilled, you're a virgin right? His answer was lots of porn, lots and lots and lots. Apparently he's a visual learner and years of watching porn has turned him into some kind of super pervert capable of doing things that I didn't think virgins were capable of, so I told him next time I come over you're losing it. Biased off this experience my advise to Aspie men is to date Aspie chicks and watch lots of porn!! !! ! And always have condoms available. One of my old NT BF's used to always have one in his wallet.
, my Aspie BF is going to finally lose it. I'm an Aspie myself and I was reluctant to date him when he told me he was still a virgin at 25. He said he has trouble with knowing if chicks are interested in him and stuff. He was really clueless, and didn't even pick up that I was slightly interested in him after he told me about his AS related symptoms. We've know each other for 6 or 7 years, but that's because I was friends with his sister. Despite his virginity being a turn off we both have the same special interests and can talk for hours about them. So I decided I'd give him a chance because I've never dated another Aspie and the NT guys I've dated made fun of me for my impaired social skills. Now to my surprise I' discovered these two months we've been dating is that even though he's a virgin he's pretty good at everything else. He's only had one girl friend before me and he only made out with her apparently. So I asked him how the hell did you get so skilled, you're a virgin right? His answer was lots of porn, lots and lots and lots. Apparently he's a visual learner and years of watching porn has turned him into some kind of super pervert capable of doing things that I didn't think virgins were capable of, so I told him next time I come over you're losing it. Biased off this experience my advise to Aspie men is to date Aspie chicks and watch lots of porn!! !! ! And always have condoms available. One of my old NT BF's used to always have one in his wallet.FALSE ALARM GUYS!! !!
My BF totally chickened out this weekend. I took him out to get some condoms and while we were there his face lite up red and he walked out of the store slightly freaked out. We went back to the car where he told me he still wasn't ready. So I had a pretty bad weekend. We actually didn't talk for two days which was awkward because I was at his house sleeping next to him for two nights, and things didn't resolve until we had a few drinks and talked about it the morning I had to go home.
Aspie guys!! ! If you want to get laid you need to get some freaking confidence!! !Seduce him.
Or else.....tie him up and rape him
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09 Aug 2010, 12:49 pm
09 Aug 2010, 1:25 pm
Seanmw wrote:
Angel_ryan wrote:
Tonight hopefully , my Aspie BF is going to finally lose it. I'm an Aspie myself and I was reluctant to date him when he told me he was still a virgin at 25. He said he has trouble with knowing if chicks are interested in him and stuff. He was really clueless, and didn't even pick up that I was slightly interested in him after he told me about his AS related symptoms. We've know each other for 6 or 7 years, but that's because I was friends with his sister. Despite his virginity being a turn off we both have the same special interests and can talk for hours about them. So I decided I'd give him a chance because I've never dated another Aspie and the NT guys I've dated made fun of me for my impaired social skills. Now to my surprise I' discovered these two months we've been dating is that even though he's a virgin he's pretty good at everything else. He's only had one girl friend before me and he only made out with her apparently. So I asked him how the hell did you get so skilled, you're a virgin right? His answer was lots of porn, lots and lots and lots. Apparently he's a visual learner and years of watching porn has turned him into some kind of super pervert capable of doing things that I didn't think virgins were capable of, so I told him next time I come over you're losing it. Biased off this experience my advise to Aspie men is to date Aspie chicks and watch lots of porn!! !! ! And always have condoms available. One of my old NT BF's used to always have one in his wallet.
, my Aspie BF is going to finally lose it. I'm an Aspie myself and I was reluctant to date him when he told me he was still a virgin at 25. He said he has trouble with knowing if chicks are interested in him and stuff. He was really clueless, and didn't even pick up that I was slightly interested in him after he told me about his AS related symptoms. We've know each other for 6 or 7 years, but that's because I was friends with his sister. Despite his virginity being a turn off we both have the same special interests and can talk for hours about them. So I decided I'd give him a chance because I've never dated another Aspie and the NT guys I've dated made fun of me for my impaired social skills. Now to my surprise I' discovered these two months we've been dating is that even though he's a virgin he's pretty good at everything else. He's only had one girl friend before me and he only made out with her apparently. So I asked him how the hell did you get so skilled, you're a virgin right? His answer was lots of porn, lots and lots and lots. Apparently he's a visual learner and years of watching porn has turned him into some kind of super pervert capable of doing things that I didn't think virgins were capable of, so I told him next time I come over you're losing it. Biased off this experience my advise to Aspie men is to date Aspie chicks and watch lots of porn!! !! ! And always have condoms available. One of my old NT BF's used to always have one in his wallet.My first time they had a hard time believing i was a virgin from how i did. I actually lasted much longer than she did; she couldn't even get me off. Maybe i'm a visual learner too, 'cause i was told i did pretty good, and coincidentally i watch alot of porn and have AS as well
.As much as it is pervert-y, I watched a lot of porn when I was younger, and I prolly have a mild case of AS as well (self-diagnosed). I met the girl online, some sort of friend dating site. I was going to school in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan, so was she (there's only 4 universities up there anyways). Anyways I started talking to her online, then started talking to her on the phone, then one night about 10-11pm I decided that I was going to drive my car the 2 hours to go see her. I spent the weekend with her and we had sex on the third day lol (however she was on top, so I guess I was just as good as any other guy...)
My current girlfriend says I'm the best she's had, despite our first time, when the train left the station to early
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09 Aug 2010, 1:28 pm
Tim_Tex wrote:
I lost it at age 29 in a friend-with-benefits situation.
Tim_Tex wrote:
I lost it at age 29 in a friend-with-benefits situation.
Tim_Tex wrote:
I lost it at age 29 in a friend-with-benefits situation.
Yes, yes, stop bragging already
Angel_ryan wrote:
Aspie guys!! ! If you want to get laid you need to get some freaking confidence!! !
Got it. Want some?
Anyway, i was 23. It took me some time, but finally asked her out. She said yes, in spite of my worst fears. We went out a couple of times and talked and ate at restaurants. Intrestingly enough, i didnt scare her off. Then i invited her home to my (parents) apartment, we were watching TV, then when she went home with a cab, i asked her if i could kiss her, and she said yes. Next time we met things sort of went very well...
After that dating was easy. The fear of rejection was gone, i realised that it was just words and who cares if you get rejected by a girl, there are more women on the planet that you can ask out in your lifetime - even if you were to ask one out every second.
09 Aug 2010, 2:41 pm
Angel_ryan wrote:
Angel_ryan wrote:
Tonight hopefully , my Aspie BF is going to finally lose it. I'm an Aspie myself and I was reluctant to date him when he told me he was still a virgin at 25. He said he has trouble with knowing if chicks are interested in him and stuff. He was really clueless, and didn't even pick up that I was slightly interested in him after he told me about his AS related symptoms. We've know each other for 6 or 7 years, but that's because I was friends with his sister. Despite his virginity being a turn off we both have the same special interests and can talk for hours about them. So I decided I'd give him a chance because I've never dated another Aspie and the NT guys I've dated made fun of me for my impaired social skills. Now to my surprise I' discovered these two months we've been dating is that even though he's a virgin he's pretty good at everything else. He's only had one girl friend before me and he only made out with her apparently. So I asked him how the hell did you get so skilled, you're a virgin right? His answer was lots of porn, lots and lots and lots. Apparently he's a visual learner and years of watching porn has turned him into some kind of super pervert capable of doing things that I didn't think virgins were capable of, so I told him next time I come over you're losing it. Biased off this experience my advise to Aspie men is to date Aspie chicks and watch lots of porn!! !! ! And always have condoms available. One of my old NT BF's used to always have one in his wallet.
, my Aspie BF is going to finally lose it. I'm an Aspie myself and I was reluctant to date him when he told me he was still a virgin at 25. He said he has trouble with knowing if chicks are interested in him and stuff. He was really clueless, and didn't even pick up that I was slightly interested in him after he told me about his AS related symptoms. We've know each other for 6 or 7 years, but that's because I was friends with his sister. Despite his virginity being a turn off we both have the same special interests and can talk for hours about them. So I decided I'd give him a chance because I've never dated another Aspie and the NT guys I've dated made fun of me for my impaired social skills. Now to my surprise I' discovered these two months we've been dating is that even though he's a virgin he's pretty good at everything else. He's only had one girl friend before me and he only made out with her apparently. So I asked him how the hell did you get so skilled, you're a virgin right? His answer was lots of porn, lots and lots and lots. Apparently he's a visual learner and years of watching porn has turned him into some kind of super pervert capable of doing things that I didn't think virgins were capable of, so I told him next time I come over you're losing it. Biased off this experience my advise to Aspie men is to date Aspie chicks and watch lots of porn!! !! ! And always have condoms available. One of my old NT BF's used to always have one in his wallet.FALSE ALARM GUYS!! !!
My BF totally chickened out this weekend. I took him out to get some condoms and while we were there his face lite up red and he walked out of the store slightly freaked out. We went back to the car where he told me he still wasn't ready. So I had a pretty bad weekend. We actually didn't talk for two days which was awkward because I was at his house sleeping next to him for two nights, and things didn't resolve until we had a few drinks and talked about it the morning I had to go home.
Aspie guys!! ! If you want to get laid you need to get some freaking confidence!! !This is totally Exhibit A in female pickiness.
First, you have the experience of being made fun of for your undeveloped social skills, but then you find a guy with the same issues (who hopefully can identify), yet you're already judging him for his virginity and the fact that he has a hard time telling that you're interested, and feel the need to mention this not once, but multiple times. And this is a guy you've "only" known for 6 years. Then, after you've taken years to justify to yourself actually trying to see how good he is--as opposed to just assuming he's bad and rejecting him preemptively (what a concept!)--you have the experience of him getting a little nervous (likely because you have proven yourself quick to judge him) and decide it isn't going to work.
If I were to wait for a girl to "get some freaking confidence" and be able to accept an invitation into my bed without any nervousness or hesitation, I'd likely die a virgin.
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09 Aug 2010, 3:43 pm
biostructure wrote:
Angel_ryan wrote:
Angel_ryan wrote:
Tonight hopefully , my Aspie BF is going to finally lose it. I'm an Aspie myself and I was reluctant to date him when he told me he was still a virgin at 25. He said he has trouble with knowing if chicks are interested in him and stuff. He was really clueless, and didn't even pick up that I was slightly interested in him after he told me about his AS related symptoms. We've know each other for 6 or 7 years, but that's because I was friends with his sister. Despite his virginity being a turn off we both have the same special interests and can talk for hours about them. So I decided I'd give him a chance because I've never dated another Aspie and the NT guys I've dated made fun of me for my impaired social skills. Now to my surprise I' discovered these two months we've been dating is that even though he's a virgin he's pretty good at everything else. He's only had one girl friend before me and he only made out with her apparently. So I asked him how the hell did you get so skilled, you're a virgin right? His answer was lots of porn, lots and lots and lots. Apparently he's a visual learner and years of watching porn has turned him into some kind of super pervert capable of doing things that I didn't think virgins were capable of, so I told him next time I come over you're losing it. Biased off this experience my advise to Aspie men is to date Aspie chicks and watch lots of porn!! !! ! And always have condoms available. One of my old NT BF's used to always have one in his wallet.
, my Aspie BF is going to finally lose it. I'm an Aspie myself and I was reluctant to date him when he told me he was still a virgin at 25. He said he has trouble with knowing if chicks are interested in him and stuff. He was really clueless, and didn't even pick up that I was slightly interested in him after he told me about his AS related symptoms. We've know each other for 6 or 7 years, but that's because I was friends with his sister. Despite his virginity being a turn off we both have the same special interests and can talk for hours about them. So I decided I'd give him a chance because I've never dated another Aspie and the NT guys I've dated made fun of me for my impaired social skills. Now to my surprise I' discovered these two months we've been dating is that even though he's a virgin he's pretty good at everything else. He's only had one girl friend before me and he only made out with her apparently. So I asked him how the hell did you get so skilled, you're a virgin right? His answer was lots of porn, lots and lots and lots. Apparently he's a visual learner and years of watching porn has turned him into some kind of super pervert capable of doing things that I didn't think virgins were capable of, so I told him next time I come over you're losing it. Biased off this experience my advise to Aspie men is to date Aspie chicks and watch lots of porn!! !! ! And always have condoms available. One of my old NT BF's used to always have one in his wallet.FALSE ALARM GUYS!! !!
My BF totally chickened out this weekend. I took him out to get some condoms and while we were there his face lite up red and he walked out of the store slightly freaked out. We went back to the car where he told me he still wasn't ready. So I had a pretty bad weekend. We actually didn't talk for two days which was awkward because I was at his house sleeping next to him for two nights, and things didn't resolve until we had a few drinks and talked about it the morning I had to go home.
Aspie guys!! ! If you want to get laid you need to get some freaking confidence!! !This is totally Exhibit A in female pickiness.
First, you have the experience of being made fun of for your undeveloped social skills, but then you find a guy with the same issues (who hopefully can identify), yet you're already judging him for his virginity and the fact that he has a hard time telling that you're interested, and feel the need to mention this not once, but multiple times. And this is a guy you've "only" known for 6 years. Then, after you've taken years to justify to yourself actually trying to see how good he is--as opposed to just assuming he's bad and rejecting him preemptively (what a concept!)--you have the experience of him getting a little nervous (likely because you have proven yourself quick to judge him) and decide it isn't going to work.
If I were to wait for a girl to "get some freaking confidence" and be able to accept an invitation into my bed without any nervousness or hesitation, I'd likely die a virgin.
This reminds me of a study about the copycat mating in female humans, the study concluded that the female humans, like most female mammals, are attracted more to males who are already taken -or- were taken by a lot of women before with rich sex experience , those are strong indications of the male's biological quality as partner.
09 Aug 2010, 3:54 pm
Angel_ryan wrote:
Angel_ryan wrote:
Tonight hopefully , my Aspie BF is going to finally lose it. I'm an Aspie myself and I was reluctant to date him when he told me he was still a virgin at 25. He said he has trouble with knowing if chicks are interested in him and stuff. He was really clueless, and didn't even pick up that I was slightly interested in him after he told me about his AS related symptoms. We've know each other for 6 or 7 years, but that's because I was friends with his sister. Despite his virginity being a turn off we both have the same special interests and can talk for hours about them. So I decided I'd give him a chance because I've never dated another Aspie and the NT guys I've dated made fun of me for my impaired social skills. Now to my surprise I' discovered these two months we've been dating is that even though he's a virgin he's pretty good at everything else. He's only had one girl friend before me and he only made out with her apparently. So I asked him how the hell did you get so skilled, you're a virgin right? His answer was lots of porn, lots and lots and lots. Apparently he's a visual learner and years of watching porn has turned him into some kind of super pervert capable of doing things that I didn't think virgins were capable of, so I told him next time I come over you're losing it. Biased off this experience my advise to Aspie men is to date Aspie chicks and watch lots of porn!! !! ! And always have condoms available. One of my old NT BF's used to always have one in his wallet.
, my Aspie BF is going to finally lose it. I'm an Aspie myself and I was reluctant to date him when he told me he was still a virgin at 25. He said he has trouble with knowing if chicks are interested in him and stuff. He was really clueless, and didn't even pick up that I was slightly interested in him after he told me about his AS related symptoms. We've know each other for 6 or 7 years, but that's because I was friends with his sister. Despite his virginity being a turn off we both have the same special interests and can talk for hours about them. So I decided I'd give him a chance because I've never dated another Aspie and the NT guys I've dated made fun of me for my impaired social skills. Now to my surprise I' discovered these two months we've been dating is that even though he's a virgin he's pretty good at everything else. He's only had one girl friend before me and he only made out with her apparently. So I asked him how the hell did you get so skilled, you're a virgin right? His answer was lots of porn, lots and lots and lots. Apparently he's a visual learner and years of watching porn has turned him into some kind of super pervert capable of doing things that I didn't think virgins were capable of, so I told him next time I come over you're losing it. Biased off this experience my advise to Aspie men is to date Aspie chicks and watch lots of porn!! !! ! And always have condoms available. One of my old NT BF's used to always have one in his wallet.FALSE ALARM GUYS!! !!
My BF totally chickened out this weekend. I took him out to get some condoms and while we were there his face lite up red and he walked out of the store slightly freaked out. We went back to the car where he told me he still wasn't ready. So I had a pretty bad weekend. We actually didn't talk for two days which was awkward because I was at his house sleeping next to him for two nights, and things didn't resolve until we had a few drinks and talked about it the morning I had to go home.
Aspie guys!! ! If you want to get laid you need to get some freaking confidence!! !That's a shame things didn't go so well. I hope the both of you are willing to give it another try.
09 Aug 2010, 4:00 pm
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
biostructure wrote:
Angel_ryan wrote:
Angel_ryan wrote:
Tonight hopefully , my Aspie BF is going to finally lose it. I'm an Aspie myself and I was reluctant to date him when he told me he was still a virgin at 25. He said he has trouble with knowing if chicks are interested in him and stuff. He was really clueless, and didn't even pick up that I was slightly interested in him after he told me about his AS related symptoms. We've know each other for 6 or 7 years, but that's because I was friends with his sister. Despite his virginity being a turn off we both have the same special interests and can talk for hours about them. So I decided I'd give him a chance because I've never dated another Aspie and the NT guys I've dated made fun of me for my impaired social skills. Now to my surprise I' discovered these two months we've been dating is that even though he's a virgin he's pretty good at everything else. He's only had one girl friend before me and he only made out with her apparently. So I asked him how the hell did you get so skilled, you're a virgin right? His answer was lots of porn, lots and lots and lots. Apparently he's a visual learner and years of watching porn has turned him into some kind of super pervert capable of doing things that I didn't think virgins were capable of, so I told him next time I come over you're losing it. Biased off this experience my advise to Aspie men is to date Aspie chicks and watch lots of porn!! !! ! And always have condoms available. One of my old NT BF's used to always have one in his wallet.
, my Aspie BF is going to finally lose it. I'm an Aspie myself and I was reluctant to date him when he told me he was still a virgin at 25. He said he has trouble with knowing if chicks are interested in him and stuff. He was really clueless, and didn't even pick up that I was slightly interested in him after he told me about his AS related symptoms. We've know each other for 6 or 7 years, but that's because I was friends with his sister. Despite his virginity being a turn off we both have the same special interests and can talk for hours about them. So I decided I'd give him a chance because I've never dated another Aspie and the NT guys I've dated made fun of me for my impaired social skills. Now to my surprise I' discovered these two months we've been dating is that even though he's a virgin he's pretty good at everything else. He's only had one girl friend before me and he only made out with her apparently. So I asked him how the hell did you get so skilled, you're a virgin right? His answer was lots of porn, lots and lots and lots. Apparently he's a visual learner and years of watching porn has turned him into some kind of super pervert capable of doing things that I didn't think virgins were capable of, so I told him next time I come over you're losing it. Biased off this experience my advise to Aspie men is to date Aspie chicks and watch lots of porn!! !! ! And always have condoms available. One of my old NT BF's used to always have one in his wallet.FALSE ALARM GUYS!! !!
My BF totally chickened out this weekend. I took him out to get some condoms and while we were there his face lite up red and he walked out of the store slightly freaked out. We went back to the car where he told me he still wasn't ready. So I had a pretty bad weekend. We actually didn't talk for two days which was awkward because I was at his house sleeping next to him for two nights, and things didn't resolve until we had a few drinks and talked about it the morning I had to go home.
Aspie guys!! ! If you want to get laid you need to get some freaking confidence!! !This is totally Exhibit A in female pickiness.
First, you have the experience of being made fun of for your undeveloped social skills, but then you find a guy with the same issues (who hopefully can identify), yet you're already judging him for his virginity and the fact that he has a hard time telling that you're interested, and feel the need to mention this not once, but multiple times. And this is a guy you've "only" known for 6 years. Then, after you've taken years to justify to yourself actually trying to see how good he is--as opposed to just assuming he's bad and rejecting him preemptively (what a concept!)--you have the experience of him getting a little nervous (likely because you have proven yourself quick to judge him) and decide it isn't going to work.
If I were to wait for a girl to "get some freaking confidence" and be able to accept an invitation into my bed without any nervousness or hesitation, I'd likely die a virgin.
This reminds me of a study about the copycat mating in female humans, the study concluded that the female humans, like most female mammals, are attracted more to males who are already taken -or- were taken by a lot of women before with rich sex experience , those are strong indications of the male's biological quality as partner.
I think its more that she is annoyed that he wouldnt have sex with her. In my experience of propositioning aspie men, they have 'run scared' too. From my experiences I decided that aspie men were held back by their anxiety outweighing their sex drive.
when I first slept with my virginal ex bf said he was nervous, I told him it was ok and we would just cuddle, this was a lie but it got him into bed with his clothes off and he soon forgot about being nervous lol.
09 Aug 2010, 4:12 pm
09 Aug 2010, 4:18 pm
lotusblossom wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
biostructure wrote:
Angel_ryan wrote:
Angel_ryan wrote:
Tonight hopefully , my Aspie BF is going to finally lose it. I'm an Aspie myself and I was reluctant to date him when he told me he was still a virgin at 25. He said he has trouble with knowing if chicks are interested in him and stuff. He was really clueless, and didn't even pick up that I was slightly interested in him after he told me about his AS related symptoms. We've know each other for 6 or 7 years, but that's because I was friends with his sister. Despite his virginity being a turn off we both have the same special interests and can talk for hours about them. So I decided I'd give him a chance because I've never dated another Aspie and the NT guys I've dated made fun of me for my impaired social skills. Now to my surprise I' discovered these two months we've been dating is that even though he's a virgin he's pretty good at everything else. He's only had one girl friend before me and he only made out with her apparently. So I asked him how the hell did you get so skilled, you're a virgin right? His answer was lots of porn, lots and lots and lots. Apparently he's a visual learner and years of watching porn has turned him into some kind of super pervert capable of doing things that I didn't think virgins were capable of, so I told him next time I come over you're losing it. Biased off this experience my advise to Aspie men is to date Aspie chicks and watch lots of porn!! !! ! And always have condoms available. One of my old NT BF's used to always have one in his wallet.
, my Aspie BF is going to finally lose it. I'm an Aspie myself and I was reluctant to date him when he told me he was still a virgin at 25. He said he has trouble with knowing if chicks are interested in him and stuff. He was really clueless, and didn't even pick up that I was slightly interested in him after he told me about his AS related symptoms. We've know each other for 6 or 7 years, but that's because I was friends with his sister. Despite his virginity being a turn off we both have the same special interests and can talk for hours about them. So I decided I'd give him a chance because I've never dated another Aspie and the NT guys I've dated made fun of me for my impaired social skills. Now to my surprise I' discovered these two months we've been dating is that even though he's a virgin he's pretty good at everything else. He's only had one girl friend before me and he only made out with her apparently. So I asked him how the hell did you get so skilled, you're a virgin right? His answer was lots of porn, lots and lots and lots. Apparently he's a visual learner and years of watching porn has turned him into some kind of super pervert capable of doing things that I didn't think virgins were capable of, so I told him next time I come over you're losing it. Biased off this experience my advise to Aspie men is to date Aspie chicks and watch lots of porn!! !! ! And always have condoms available. One of my old NT BF's used to always have one in his wallet.FALSE ALARM GUYS!! !!
My BF totally chickened out this weekend. I took him out to get some condoms and while we were there his face lite up red and he walked out of the store slightly freaked out. We went back to the car where he told me he still wasn't ready. So I had a pretty bad weekend. We actually didn't talk for two days which was awkward because I was at his house sleeping next to him for two nights, and things didn't resolve until we had a few drinks and talked about it the morning I had to go home.
Aspie guys!! ! If you want to get laid you need to get some freaking confidence!! !This is totally Exhibit A in female pickiness.
First, you have the experience of being made fun of for your undeveloped social skills, but then you find a guy with the same issues (who hopefully can identify), yet you're already judging him for his virginity and the fact that he has a hard time telling that you're interested, and feel the need to mention this not once, but multiple times. And this is a guy you've "only" known for 6 years. Then, after you've taken years to justify to yourself actually trying to see how good he is--as opposed to just assuming he's bad and rejecting him preemptively (what a concept!)--you have the experience of him getting a little nervous (likely because you have proven yourself quick to judge him) and decide it isn't going to work.
If I were to wait for a girl to "get some freaking confidence" and be able to accept an invitation into my bed without any nervousness or hesitation, I'd likely die a virgin.
This reminds me of a study about the copycat mating in female humans, the study concluded that the female humans, like most female mammals, are attracted more to males who are already taken -or- were taken by a lot of women before with rich sex experience , those are strong indications of the male's biological quality as partner.
I think its more that she is annoyed that he wouldnt have sex with her. In my experience of propositioning aspie men, they have 'run scared' too. From my experiences I decided that aspie men were held back by their anxiety outweighing their sex drive.
when I first slept with my virginal ex bf said he was nervous, I told him it was ok and we would just cuddle, this was a lie but it got him into bed with his clothes off and he soon forgot about being nervous lol.
I agree. The first time I had sex I was extremely nervous, but I didn't want to not go through with it because I thought that it'd be even more nerve-racking if I didn't go through with it. I thought that she'd probably think I was a weirdo. lol
09 Aug 2010, 4:20 pm
biostructure wrote:
Angel_ryan wrote:
Angel_ryan wrote:
Tonight hopefully , my Aspie BF is going to finally lose it. I'm an Aspie myself and I was reluctant to date him when he told me he was still a virgin at 25. He said he has trouble with knowing if chicks are interested in him and stuff. He was really clueless, and didn't even pick up that I was slightly interested in him after he told me about his AS related symptoms. We've know each other for 6 or 7 years, but that's because I was friends with his sister. Despite his virginity being a turn off we both have the same special interests and can talk for hours about them. So I decided I'd give him a chance because I've never dated another Aspie and the NT guys I've dated made fun of me for my impaired social skills. Now to my surprise I' discovered these two months we've been dating is that even though he's a virgin he's pretty good at everything else. He's only had one girl friend before me and he only made out with her apparently. So I asked him how the hell did you get so skilled, you're a virgin right? His answer was lots of porn, lots and lots and lots. Apparently he's a visual learner and years of watching porn has turned him into some kind of super pervert capable of doing things that I didn't think virgins were capable of, so I told him next time I come over you're losing it. Biased off this experience my advise to Aspie men is to date Aspie chicks and watch lots of porn!! !! ! And always have condoms available. One of my old NT BF's used to always have one in his wallet.
, my Aspie BF is going to finally lose it. I'm an Aspie myself and I was reluctant to date him when he told me he was still a virgin at 25. He said he has trouble with knowing if chicks are interested in him and stuff. He was really clueless, and didn't even pick up that I was slightly interested in him after he told me about his AS related symptoms. We've know each other for 6 or 7 years, but that's because I was friends with his sister. Despite his virginity being a turn off we both have the same special interests and can talk for hours about them. So I decided I'd give him a chance because I've never dated another Aspie and the NT guys I've dated made fun of me for my impaired social skills. Now to my surprise I' discovered these two months we've been dating is that even though he's a virgin he's pretty good at everything else. He's only had one girl friend before me and he only made out with her apparently. So I asked him how the hell did you get so skilled, you're a virgin right? His answer was lots of porn, lots and lots and lots. Apparently he's a visual learner and years of watching porn has turned him into some kind of super pervert capable of doing things that I didn't think virgins were capable of, so I told him next time I come over you're losing it. Biased off this experience my advise to Aspie men is to date Aspie chicks and watch lots of porn!! !! ! And always have condoms available. One of my old NT BF's used to always have one in his wallet.FALSE ALARM GUYS!! !!
My BF totally chickened out this weekend. I took him out to get some condoms and while we were there his face lite up red and he walked out of the store slightly freaked out. We went back to the car where he told me he still wasn't ready. So I had a pretty bad weekend. We actually didn't talk for two days which was awkward because I was at his house sleeping next to him for two nights, and things didn't resolve until we had a few drinks and talked about it the morning I had to go home.
Aspie guys!! ! If you want to get laid you need to get some freaking confidence!! !This is totally Exhibit A in female pickiness.
First, you have the experience of being made fun of for your undeveloped social skills, but then you find a guy with the same issues (who hopefully can identify), yet you're already judging him for his virginity and the fact that he has a hard time telling that you're interested, and feel the need to mention this not once, but multiple times. And this is a guy you've "only" known for 6 years. Then, after you've taken years to justify to yourself actually trying to see how good he is--as opposed to just assuming he's bad and rejecting him preemptively (what a concept!)--you have the experience of him getting a little nervous (likely because you have proven yourself quick to judge him) and decide it isn't going to work.
If I were to wait for a girl to "get some freaking confidence" and be able to accept an invitation into my bed without any nervousness or hesitation, I'd likely die a virgin.
Oh, and by the way, this is the exact reason I don't tell women I meet in real life that I'm a virgin, unless:
A) I think it may make her more understanding, and that she may want to give me my first time just because.
B) I've already asked her if she was interested, and she has rejected me, but I think she might be able to help me in some other way.
09 Aug 2010, 4:23 pm
09 Aug 2010, 4:23 pm
jdcnosse wrote:
lotusblossom wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
biostructure wrote:
Angel_ryan wrote:
Angel_ryan wrote:
Tonight hopefully , my Aspie BF is going to finally lose it. I'm an Aspie myself and I was reluctant to date him when he told me he was still a virgin at 25. He said he has trouble with knowing if chicks are interested in him and stuff. He was really clueless, and didn't even pick up that I was slightly interested in him after he told me about his AS related symptoms. We've know each other for 6 or 7 years, but that's because I was friends with his sister. Despite his virginity being a turn off we both have the same special interests and can talk for hours about them. So I decided I'd give him a chance because I've never dated another Aspie and the NT guys I've dated made fun of me for my impaired social skills. Now to my surprise I' discovered these two months we've been dating is that even though he's a virgin he's pretty good at everything else. He's only had one girl friend before me and he only made out with her apparently. So I asked him how the hell did you get so skilled, you're a virgin right? His answer was lots of porn, lots and lots and lots. Apparently he's a visual learner and years of watching porn has turned him into some kind of super pervert capable of doing things that I didn't think virgins were capable of, so I told him next time I come over you're losing it. Biased off this experience my advise to Aspie men is to date Aspie chicks and watch lots of porn!! !! ! And always have condoms available. One of my old NT BF's used to always have one in his wallet.
, my Aspie BF is going to finally lose it. I'm an Aspie myself and I was reluctant to date him when he told me he was still a virgin at 25. He said he has trouble with knowing if chicks are interested in him and stuff. He was really clueless, and didn't even pick up that I was slightly interested in him after he told me about his AS related symptoms. We've know each other for 6 or 7 years, but that's because I was friends with his sister. Despite his virginity being a turn off we both have the same special interests and can talk for hours about them. So I decided I'd give him a chance because I've never dated another Aspie and the NT guys I've dated made fun of me for my impaired social skills. Now to my surprise I' discovered these two months we've been dating is that even though he's a virgin he's pretty good at everything else. He's only had one girl friend before me and he only made out with her apparently. So I asked him how the hell did you get so skilled, you're a virgin right? His answer was lots of porn, lots and lots and lots. Apparently he's a visual learner and years of watching porn has turned him into some kind of super pervert capable of doing things that I didn't think virgins were capable of, so I told him next time I come over you're losing it. Biased off this experience my advise to Aspie men is to date Aspie chicks and watch lots of porn!! !! ! And always have condoms available. One of my old NT BF's used to always have one in his wallet.FALSE ALARM GUYS!! !!
My BF totally chickened out this weekend. I took him out to get some condoms and while we were there his face lite up red and he walked out of the store slightly freaked out. We went back to the car where he told me he still wasn't ready. So I had a pretty bad weekend. We actually didn't talk for two days which was awkward because I was at his house sleeping next to him for two nights, and things didn't resolve until we had a few drinks and talked about it the morning I had to go home.
Aspie guys!! ! If you want to get laid you need to get some freaking confidence!! !This is totally Exhibit A in female pickiness.
First, you have the experience of being made fun of for your undeveloped social skills, but then you find a guy with the same issues (who hopefully can identify), yet you're already judging him for his virginity and the fact that he has a hard time telling that you're interested, and feel the need to mention this not once, but multiple times. And this is a guy you've "only" known for 6 years. Then, after you've taken years to justify to yourself actually trying to see how good he is--as opposed to just assuming he's bad and rejecting him preemptively (what a concept!)--you have the experience of him getting a little nervous (likely because you have proven yourself quick to judge him) and decide it isn't going to work.
If I were to wait for a girl to "get some freaking confidence" and be able to accept an invitation into my bed without any nervousness or hesitation, I'd likely die a virgin.
This reminds me of a study about the copycat mating in female humans, the study concluded that the female humans, like most female mammals, are attracted more to males who are already taken -or- were taken by a lot of women before with rich sex experience , those are strong indications of the male's biological quality as partner.
I think its more that she is annoyed that he wouldnt have sex with her. In my experience of propositioning aspie men, they have 'run scared' too. From my experiences I decided that aspie men were held back by their anxiety outweighing their sex drive.
when I first slept with my virginal ex bf said he was nervous, I told him it was ok and we would just cuddle, this was a lie but it got him into bed with his clothes off and he soon forgot about being nervous lol.
I agree. The first time I had sex I was extremely nervous, but I didn't want to not go through with it because I thought that it'd be even more nerve-racking if I didn't go through with it. I thought that she'd probably think I was a weirdo. lol
yes I dont think he would have forgiven himself if he had not 'gone through with it'. I think thats the most esteem crushing thing for guys when they realise they have 'missed opportunities'. I think I was right to press my advantage as I knew he would get over his nerves once he got started, and he did, more than made up for it lol!
09 Aug 2010, 5:07 pm
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