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lotusblossom
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11 Aug 2010, 11:35 am

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No one has ever told me they were attracted to me because I behaved like an as*hole. However, there have been a few times when I was highly bothered by someone or a group of someones and purposefully behaved rudely or coldy only to have a someone suddenly take a romantic interest in me. In a few cases, I asked why on earth they were interested in me and was basically told, it was because I was so cold, hard to get, and uninterested in everyone around me that it was cool, sexy, and/or mysterious. O_o
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Ive had that happen too, people I hate and Im rude to busting moves on me. I guess it proves the pua's right after all. However I couldnt sleep with someone I hated and I can not understand why someone would want to sleep with someone who didnt like them. I guess its because they think it makes one a higher social status than them so want to 'up-date', or it evokes a competitive spirit in them.



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11 Aug 2010, 12:02 pm

Moog wrote:
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Has a woman or man been attracted to you because they thought you were an as*hole or because they thought you were being a smart ass even though you werent trying to be and they really just misunderstood you?


No, but the idea amuses me. The disappointment when they realise you are really a nice person with terrible social skills and a dodgy sense of humour.


:lmao:

I've been, like, a jerk magnet for years now...trying to get out of that pattern, but not really sure how. Not in terms of dating a-holes, but more like broken people wanting to be friends with me (birds of a feather, maybe?) and then, surprise, surprise, turning out to be undependable fuckwits who just end up hurting me and bailing...



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12 Aug 2010, 9:46 am

Sholf wrote:
focusfactor wrote:
Has a woman or man been attracted to you because they thought you were an as*hole or because they thought you were being a smart ass even though you werent trying to be and they really just misunderstood you?


Arguably. In junior high and high school, I'd sometimes attract very insecure girls who saw me as some kind of sarcastic rebel who didn't care about being liked by popular girls or cute boys. Well, I can have a harsh sense of humor, and I have different views on things, but mostly I'm inept and I've never had much romantic interest in boys.
R u boy or girl? r u lezbian? what makes u like that? is it to feel accepted or just because you like them?



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12 Aug 2010, 9:49 am

I'm a homo because I want to f**k girls. :idea: If I wanted to be accepted, I'd just pretend to be straight, because most of my friends are straight and sometimes they challenge me on whether I'm "really" queer, like I need an ID card to prove it.



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12 Aug 2010, 9:50 am

Moog wrote:
focusfactor wrote:
Has a woman or man been attracted to you because they thought you were an as*hole or because they thought you were being a smart ass even though you werent trying to be and they really just misunderstood you?


No, but the idea amuses me. The disappointment when they realise you are really a nice person with terrible social skills and a dodgy sense of humour.
will they likely still show interest in you after they find out your a nice person? I remember on seinfeld george attracted a girl because she thought he was a bad boy and when elaine called her up and said george wasnt a real bad guy at all she didnt like him anymore



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18 Aug 2010, 4:17 pm

Sholf wrote:
I'm a homo because I want to f**k girls. :idea: If I wanted to be accepted, I'd just pretend to be straight, because most of my friends are straight and sometimes they challenge me on whether I'm "really" queer, like I need an ID card to prove it.

...so its like:

"=_= hmmm...we aren't so sure you're queer anymore. *tch* and we thought you were cool"

"noooo its true D: i even have my card to prove it see?"


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