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Would you date a man who you knew was physically unable to have sex?
Yes 33%  33%  [ 26 ]
No 15%  15%  [ 12 ]
Maybe 16%  16%  [ 13 ]
I'm a straight male/Just show me the result 36%  36%  [ 29 ]
Total votes : 80

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13 Aug 2010, 10:45 pm

I don't need sex to be happy. I only need it to have kids unless the man has a high income we can afford to adopt. Then I wouldn't have to even worry about getting pregnant to have more.



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13 Aug 2010, 10:48 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:
I am a straight male, and I don't think I could date a woman who was unable to have sex.


So maybe their really is a big difference between men and women when it comes to sex.



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13 Aug 2010, 10:54 pm

League_Girl wrote:
Only if I was unable to have kids or didn't want anymore and if I were separated or divorced.


Well, yeah if he couldn't have sex you might have to adopt depending on whether or not he produced viable sperm.



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13 Aug 2010, 11:16 pm

I don't know if this is your attitude but about this topic, this kind of stuff is not what makes for relationships and all Aspies/HFA need to avoid saying things like this to girls. You can't just say when you are asking a girl out or on the first date "Will you go out with me even though we can't have sex?" That's very awkward.


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13 Aug 2010, 11:35 pm

FerrariMike_40 wrote:
I don't know if this is your attitude but about this topic, this kind of stuff is not what makes for relationships and all Aspies/HFA need to avoid saying things like this to girls. You can't just say when you are asking a girl out or on the first date "Will you go out with me even though we can't have sex?" That's very awkward.


You are right. I wouldn't know how to broach the subject though. Its good to know however that there are so many women who don't need sex to have a relationship.



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13 Aug 2010, 11:56 pm

JohnisBlind wrote:
FerrariMike_40 wrote:
I don't know if this is your attitude but about this topic, this kind of stuff is not what makes for relationships and all Aspies/HFA need to avoid saying things like this to girls. You can't just say when you are asking a girl out or on the first date "Will you go out with me even though we can't have sex?" That's very awkward.


You are right. I wouldn't know how to broach the subject though. Its good to know however that there are so many women who don't need sex to have a relationship.

so, this is what you are saying now? that you cannot have sex at all?


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14 Aug 2010, 12:24 am

hyperlexian wrote:
JohnisBlind wrote:
FerrariMike_40 wrote:
I don't know if this is your attitude but about this topic, this kind of stuff is not what makes for relationships and all Aspies/HFA need to avoid saying things like this to girls. You can't just say when you are asking a girl out or on the first date "Will you go out with me even though we can't have sex?" That's very awkward.


You are right. I wouldn't know how to broach the subject though. Its good to know however that there are so many women who don't need sex to have a relationship.

so, this is what you are saying now? that you cannot have sex at all?


That is essentially what I am saying. I can probably perform the act, perhaps even adequately but probably not, but I can not enjoy it.



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14 Aug 2010, 12:26 am

JohnisBlind wrote:
That is essentially what I am saying. I can probably perform the act, perhaps even adequately but probably not, but I can not enjoy it.

Then why the hell are you so obsessed with it?


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14 Aug 2010, 12:29 am

John_Browning wrote:
JohnisBlind wrote:
That is essentially what I am saying. I can probably perform the act, perhaps even adequately but probably not, but I can not enjoy it.

Then why the hell are you so obsessed with it?


Well, geez. I just am. Not being interested in sex doesn't mean that I can't be interested in flirting.



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14 Aug 2010, 12:46 am

You want to know why? Because you don't need sex for sexual pleasure, and you don't need it for intimacy and closeness, and theres more to a relationship.



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14 Aug 2010, 1:23 am

Don't know how much this applies, but there was a guy named David Reimer, who as a child suffered an accident and lost his male bits. He ended up married, though, so even something that extreme apparently doesn't rule relationships with women out.



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14 Aug 2010, 1:27 am

Apple_in_my_Eye wrote:
Don't know how much this applies, but there was a guy named David Reimer, who as a child suffered an accident and lost his male bits. He ended up married, though, so even something that extreme apparently doesn't rule relationships with women out.


Well yeah. It was a botched circumcision so the doctors thought they should give him a sex change. Not the best idea I guess.



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14 Aug 2010, 2:40 am

JohnisBlind wrote:
Tim_Tex wrote:
I am a straight male, and I don't think I could date a woman who was unable to have sex.


So maybe their really is a big difference between men and women when it comes to sex.


I don't think so necessarily, an AS/autism forum isn't the best place to get a random sampling of people. There are lots of people with sensory issues, quite a few asexuals, and it seems that a lot of the males place very high importance on the physical aspect of a relationship. (I'm not saying that in a bad way, I just see a lot of threads about sex/wanting to lose virginity, etc.)

I'm a straight female, I don't know if I would go out with a man who was impotent. I voted maybe. If I was in a relationship with a guy and cared about him a lot it certainly wouldn't be a dealbreaker, but I don't think I would start a relationship with a guy I knew was impotent. Maybe if I liked him a lot.


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14 Aug 2010, 2:50 am

This question isn't even relevant though, since you aren't unable to have sex, you just don't enjoy it. Big difference.

And I'm answering yes, because like we've told you loads of times in your other thread, sex isn't the point of a relationship.


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14 Aug 2010, 3:12 am

Alycat wrote:
This question isn't even relevant though, since you aren't unable to have sex, you just don't enjoy it. Big difference.

And I'm answering yes, because like we've told you loads of times in your other thread, sex isn't the point of a relationship.


I guess I really didn't understand what kind of relationship that you meant, I thought you meant other kinds of relationship that didn't have an erotic component.

As for my being able to have sex, its not that simple Alycat.



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14 Aug 2010, 3:39 am

JohnisBlind wrote:
Alycat wrote:
This question isn't even relevant though, since you aren't unable to have sex, you just don't enjoy it. Big difference.

And I'm answering yes, because like we've told you loads of times in your other thread, sex isn't the point of a relationship.


I guess I really didn't understand what kind of relationship that you meant, I thought you meant other kinds of relationship that didn't have an erotic component.

As for my being able to have sex, its not that simple Alycat.

It's never simple.


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